This may start out as a slightly cynical post but please bare with me. This post is meant to give hope, clarity and peace of mind on some points. I'm sure I'll be echoing some other users ideas. These are my personal opinions. (feel free to disagree) I believe my statements below to be pretty accurate in most cases though.
MY own personal opinion is depression isn't so much a pit you fall into but more like quicksand that slowly devours you. I see a lot of men both online and in my personal line who suffer from depression. A lot of men are upset about being alone/single/not having a spouse. This isn't the case for every man. Some just want sex, but many want someone to come home to every night. They wonder why in the world there single. Why they can't keep a girl. Why she flakes after the first few dates. You felt like you had chemistry (you most likely did), thought you gamed her perfect all to no avail. You may have even slept with her. Then she is gone and your search continues for the LTR, feeling even more depressed than before. Why did this happen? Were you not attractive enough? Did you do some beta stuff? Maybe..but there's a lot more to it than that.
LTRs are a lot about logistics, especially when it comes to women. Higher class women look not only at your looks but your potential as well. Are you living at home? Are you struggling to pay rent? Are you in debt up to your eyes? What kind of car/clothes do you drive/wear? Are you working a dead end job? Did you never start your own business/go to college? How old are you in comparison to her? Will her family approve of you? Are you better than her exes? These are questions they will start asking after several dates with you. The younger the women, the less this happens. As they get older(and are more focused on marriage) they all tend to gravitate to these questions. Overall this is what love is to them. (what do you provide them)
It may not be fair but that's reality for a lot of women. SO take heart, that beautiful girl may have actually liked you, however you just didn't meet her list. In a different time and place with another setting, she may have been yours.
Now that you know that, take blame for being single. YOU ARE the problem. You're bad choices, not God or any one else, have landed you where you are. Yes, some people have easier breaks (being born rich etc). That's for sure.
That being said, get accountable for your current state. Don't blame life or women on how unfair things are." When you have the dominos aligned they will all fall with a push."
It's a hard pill to swallow but the first on a road to recovery.
Where you are now is your fault, yes. Now say f uck the past and start new today. Don't get discouraged about where you are. It happened, learn from it and move on. Only worry about things you can currently control. Progress. Succeed.
Start working on yourself - (get a job/look for better jobs/start a business/go to college etc etc) (Hit the Gym) (Work on your fashion/grooming) (Enjoy hobbies) I promise when you do these things, with game, QUALITY women will fall into your lap. They have expectations just as you have expectations about there looks.
In the meantime my single friends, as you are climbing, DO NOT get discouraged. Nothing good comes easy. Building yourself up from nothing is the best feeling in the world though. Suffer through being a lone, let it drive you. When you see yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself your to blame for your current state, let it drive you onward. It's in the hardest times we grow the most.
Good luck to you all and if anyone has anything to add or comment on please do.
MY own personal opinion is depression isn't so much a pit you fall into but more like quicksand that slowly devours you. I see a lot of men both online and in my personal line who suffer from depression. A lot of men are upset about being alone/single/not having a spouse. This isn't the case for every man. Some just want sex, but many want someone to come home to every night. They wonder why in the world there single. Why they can't keep a girl. Why she flakes after the first few dates. You felt like you had chemistry (you most likely did), thought you gamed her perfect all to no avail. You may have even slept with her. Then she is gone and your search continues for the LTR, feeling even more depressed than before. Why did this happen? Were you not attractive enough? Did you do some beta stuff? Maybe..but there's a lot more to it than that.
LTRs are a lot about logistics, especially when it comes to women. Higher class women look not only at your looks but your potential as well. Are you living at home? Are you struggling to pay rent? Are you in debt up to your eyes? What kind of car/clothes do you drive/wear? Are you working a dead end job? Did you never start your own business/go to college? How old are you in comparison to her? Will her family approve of you? Are you better than her exes? These are questions they will start asking after several dates with you. The younger the women, the less this happens. As they get older(and are more focused on marriage) they all tend to gravitate to these questions. Overall this is what love is to them. (what do you provide them)
It may not be fair but that's reality for a lot of women. SO take heart, that beautiful girl may have actually liked you, however you just didn't meet her list. In a different time and place with another setting, she may have been yours.
Now that you know that, take blame for being single. YOU ARE the problem. You're bad choices, not God or any one else, have landed you where you are. Yes, some people have easier breaks (being born rich etc). That's for sure.
That being said, get accountable for your current state. Don't blame life or women on how unfair things are." When you have the dominos aligned they will all fall with a push."
It's a hard pill to swallow but the first on a road to recovery.
Where you are now is your fault, yes. Now say f uck the past and start new today. Don't get discouraged about where you are. It happened, learn from it and move on. Only worry about things you can currently control. Progress. Succeed.
Start working on yourself - (get a job/look for better jobs/start a business/go to college etc etc) (Hit the Gym) (Work on your fashion/grooming) (Enjoy hobbies) I promise when you do these things, with game, QUALITY women will fall into your lap. They have expectations just as you have expectations about there looks.
In the meantime my single friends, as you are climbing, DO NOT get discouraged. Nothing good comes easy. Building yourself up from nothing is the best feeling in the world though. Suffer through being a lone, let it drive you. When you see yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself your to blame for your current state, let it drive you onward. It's in the hardest times we grow the most.
Good luck to you all and if anyone has anything to add or comment on please do.
