Thanks for the great idea, Pook! I like it!
Here's another one I tried tonight. It did involve talking about sex with girls I just met. I know that some would consider this a big mistake. But, I wasn't trying to get a relationship started. I was trying to be bold, get over my last bit of shyness and insecurity around girls. I don't want to be seen as shy, too nice, or non-sexual ever again.
I've been going out every night and working on bringing out more of the jerkiness in my personality that I've been avoiding in the past. I was afraid of the girls getting offended and not liking me. This fit my male logic. However, it doesn't fit female logic. As evidenced by my recent so-called girlfriend dumping me very unceremoniously. She was always attracted to jerks, and complained she wanted a nice guy. NICE GUY DR_FEELGOOD TO THE RESCUE. What a mistake. After 2 months, it was over. But, I digress.
I tried to become the "good guy" that Pook and others talk about, but I couldn't seem to find that middle ground between nice guy and jerk. SO, I decided the best way to find the middle ground, was to go to the other extreme. So, I'm working on becoming a total jerk, so I can find my way to becoming the "good guy", and never the "nice guy" again.
I was standing in the sex and relationships section of a bookstore, when two fairly pretty girls wandered over. They were both checking me out. One of them said to the other, that it was illegal in our state to have sex in a telephone booth.
"uh, oh" I said.
One of them said, "Yeah. Uh, oh." And we all laughed.
Then she said it was also illegal to have sex with porcupines. I said, "at least I don't have to worry about that one." They both laughed. The conversation continued. One of them said something about "this poor guy", referring to me.
I took the opportunity to say, "No, I'm a guy, I like sex, and I don't apologize for it." Getting the perfect Don Juan attitude out, while keeping the joke going.
Then, I proceeded to tease them about their sexual habits with porcupines in telephone booths. This was all spontaneous, and they were cracking up. One of them had a boyfriend, and the other was obviously very interested in me at this point. I didn't close the deal, not because I couldn't, but I simply didn't care to.
My main goal was to get this experience, and confidence, as well as bring out this jerky, but charming side of my personality. And, it works like magic. I urge you guys to work on this.
I hate to beat this post to death, but I've tried to figure out why my ex claimed to have no feelings for me. And, this is my only conclusion. I didn't have this attitude. I did everything else right by this board, but my AFC, nice-guy side kept showing. The only way to keep that from happening, for me; would have been to demonstrate this funny, jerky attitude all the time.
Learn from my mistakes. You really have to work on this stuff. I think it's one of the biggest boosts to developing your own unique DJ personality. It's a vital element that I was missing previously, and it cost me greatly.