Examples of Emotional Investment (EI) and Interet Level (IL)

[pete101]

Can you guys on here give me examples of how to gain Emotional Investment (EI) rather than just Interest Level (IL)?

I know high IL is temporary but Emotional Investment (EI) is permanent, the only example I know of how to do this in person is to get her to share a secret or story from her childhood to make it seem like she emotionally invested in the interaction.

What other examples are there of ways to get EI?

 

[BrainDamage92]

Emotional investment doesnt exist. Were romantic (as much as I hate it...). Females are pragmatic. They keep their emotional investment for themselves and themselves only, so never trust female tears or emotions.

They like to pretend they are the emotional sex, to hide the fact exactly how self-absorbed they are. They are so self absorbed they actually like it when people suffer because of them, it feeds their fragile ego. Like males get off aquiering status and cash, females get off making males suffer.

Emotional investment is an act. A manipulation. Its the easiest thing for them, and as you know, they feel no remorse and can rationalise even the stupidest ****. And they get away with it, couse the male society consists of 90 % fools. Deal with it. And dont be a fool. Pretend to be one.

 

[stevo]

Your mistake is thinking something is permanent. Nothing is guaranteed with women.

Interest level with proper continuous escalation leads to emotional investment even if you don't want it to.

Sharing secrets or stories does not equal emotional investment or she'd be very emotionally invested with all her girlfriends and female man friends.

 

[expos]

there's no such thing as investment for women unless they have a kid with you or experience some sort of abuse drama with you.

This. Is it any wonder that one of my exes was still hung up on the boyfriend who treated her the worst? Is it any wonder that this ex could care less about the "nice" guys she dated in the past?

If they were treated bad by someone, than the good behavior they always wanted from them was elusive. They will ALWAYS be chasing something they never received from someone they once cared about.

Food for thought...

 

[El Payaso]

Like any investment, you only value it when you have a lot on the line and have put in a lot of your blood, sweat and tears into it.

Therefore, by simply making her work very hard to get your approval or get into your good graces. She will become emotionally invested.

It's often the difference between a guy that constantly showers his girlfriend or plate with compliments and the guy that only does it sparingly when she does something positive.

Also, by making her do things way out of her comfort zone and making her run errands for you. By making her spend HER OWN money on you.

Emotional investment like any investment takes time to build up or appreciate. It's a gradual process that builds up with every little thing you make her do or reward her with.

Like a dog, she will slowly become conditioned into doing mostly the things you like and enjoy.

 

[pete101]

maybe i am confused as to what i thought emotional investment was or is.. i was on the assumption under a pick up interaction that emotional investment even on the slightest level is better than temporary high IL.. ideally high IL with some emotional investment however small so that it reduces the flaking possibility when you do meet and inexplicably can't explain because 'she had high IL'

am i thinking about emotional investment in the wrong context?

mine was purely to reduce flaking as from what i read here high IL is not necessarily an indicator she will not flake on a first date etc.

 

[RangerMIke]

I do not believe that women can be emotionally invested in men, this trait disappeared from the XX chromosome after thousands of years of evolution where their men were constantly being killed off by tigers and rival clans. Woman can not afford to be emotionaly invested in ANYONE other than her children... who she will die for. Men are disposable commodities... nothing more. Don't hate them for it, it's just the way we are. They can't help this anymore than we can help that we will always go for the hot chick with great T&A rather that the loving and sweet fat body.

There is no EI for women, but all people tend to value things more that they have to or HAVE had to work for. If a women invests effort in you time/resources she will value you more than if she does not. This is NOT emotional, but rather material investment. People fear loss much more than potential gain.