Evol.
it may help you to begin to make yourself feel more comfortabel with the perspectives and the personalities of the various members here at SS.
We are not really here to be moral pontificating and telling others what values they need to have becasue that is what we follow or what WE want..unless a fellow member needs help realzing something, AND he actuallY ASKS for help.
I know you are new here.
But try to learn how to get along with other men who may not share the same values as you WITHOUT the finger pointing.
This is Mens forum, not a judging panel of whos doing what 'right or wrong'.
If anything , use these experiences these men here share with us as pieces of information about the dynamics of male/female interactions.
Try as much as possible to discern the difference between someone relating a story or experience, and someone actually advocating some sort of approach or ideology, AND someone actually ASKING for help.
This is crucial.
Many people just want to share, not dictate.
So try to avoid dictating yourself here.
The BBD is a common theme found in male/female dating dynamics.
It is primarily driven by superfical values and means.
Meaning, most females who follow the BBD are always lacking something in there lives, be it more money, material possessions, and status or more upper class social circles..whatever.
It is up to you if you want to see them as they are, and still continue to deal with them..or not.
These characteristics may better serve you to be able to distinguish the character traits you DO want, form those you DONT want in your potential partner.
See WHY it is important to read and make an observation, without any emotional attachement or need to judge another's character?
In this scenario the OP related, YOU might have done things differnetly.
Fine, accepted.
But there is no real need to judge another's action as good or bad, only what YOU woull do in that circumstance.
This will help you tremendously stay objective, and get along with fellow poaters who are willing to help advise you on your Way and Purpose as a Masculine Man.
And yes, they may do it indirectly by offering persepctives that You DONT want to follow as your personal ideals and principles.
So again, do everything you can to remain objective.
I will also say that it is extremely important that you truly , I mean deeply, look deep within yourself and recognize WHO'S Values are you upholindg.
Values that were implanted in you by others, or thiose whoom YOU personally developed on your won through careful observation and good sound, mature judgement.
Some guys only want a 'mere lay'. Perhaps we can say that certain different principles may apply there?
is the person whom only wants something temporary and physcially intimate any worse than anyone else?
Not every single woman one meets should be looked at as a potential wife.
This often happens to many males, whom still havent developed a more mature , sexually confident, and masculne mind set.
One of the main things we see here again and again, is the issue of Fear of Approaching Women.
And one of the basci concepts in approaching women is this...
...never blindly assume that the guy that is 'with' the woman you are attracted to and want to approach is her BF. He may be some guy she is trying to ignore , some platonic co worker, even her brother.
If a woman you are actually attracted to sends you signals to approach her, it is better to give the circumstance the benefit of the doubt and approach and take advantage of a potential possibility.
We have a phrase here at SS;
Rejection is better than REGRET
If healthy, confident , single men are looking for available women,then it is important to recognize that the point is for two people who want each others company get the chance to be together
Be good, Evol.
Make sure you read the Book of Pook!!!
Later,
Interceptor
