Example of being BETA vs ALPHA. The difference between the two

[Meisterman]

You might be a beta if...

You buy a girl's drinks on the first date.

You feel the need to tell other men she's your girl.

You're insecure.

You shower her with affection

You think being nice is the way to her heart (and pants)

You might be an alpha if:

You make a girl buy drinks for you instead to show high value

You constantly ignore her, but still show interest aloofly, not too much though.

I was at a bar tonight, which usually isn't the best place to pick up girls, but I'm a regular there and it's my home bar so what the hell. Got a girl breathing down my neck for me to fu*k her. She came with an older gentleman, but was following me around talking to me constantly. He started getting upset/noticeably insecure. Ended up buying ME a drink, all HER drinks were also paid for by said nice guy but truly beta male. I refused to buy her any drinks, saying I don't know her well enough. Ended up giving her the lift home but had trouble finishing kino with roommate in picture, told her I'm free Sunday and left it at that. I have extreme confidence and self-assurance to lure and attract girls of certain types it seems. The difference between an alpha male and beta male's profound behavior is just that..profoundly different. See the alpha male doesn't give a fu*k about anything, not even about getting laid, because he has so many chicks to bang and choose from. I already turned down another chick to be there with her. But this time I'm all in the spot where I'm afraidly overt and openly sexually advancing and think it might be just too much. Need some advice on less showing even LESS interest to make her more interested, also whether fu*king on the FIRST date is still a thang

 

[marmel75]

Beta if you buy a woman's drinks on a first date? Lmao...

If you are meeting some random chick in a bar and you don't know her and you are buying her a drink, then definitely.

If you are inviting a woman out on a date and buying her a drink, then its simply not being a cheapskate. I don't see where Alpha or Beta comes into play at all with that.

Far too many people are concerned with Alpha and Beta and not enough with just not giving a fvck, having fun and sexually escalating in date. That's what gets you laid, not trying to be beta or alpha or anywhere in between intentionally. All that other BS is just fvcking noise.

 

[Meisterman]

Beta if you buy a woman's drinks on a first date? Lmao...

If you are meeting some random chick in a bar and you don't know her and you are buying her a drink, then definitely.

If you are inviting a woman out on a date and buying her a drink, then its simply not being a cheapskate. I don't see where Alpha or Beta comes into play at all with that.

Far too many people are concerned with Alpha and Beta and not enough with just not giving a fvck, having fun and sexually escalating in date. That's what gets you laid, not trying to be beta or alpha or anywhere in between intentionally. All that other BS is just fvcking noise.

I agree about the drinks part. I meant buying for random girls on "dates" not official. Otherwise I think it's OKAY to buy drinks to a girl you invite out. And alpha and beta are just terms it's not right to think in terms of beta and alpha while on a date just be yourself have fun everything you said etc. but in terms of sosuave forum talking like you are a alpha or beta is the way to go.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Beta if you buy a woman's drinks on a first date? Lmao...

If you are meeting some random chick in a bar and you don't know her and you are buying her a drink, then definitely.

If you are inviting a woman out on a date and buying her a drink, then its simply not being a cheapskate. I don't see where Alpha or Beta comes into play at all with that.

Far too many people are concerned with Alpha and Beta and not enough with just not giving a fvck, having fun and sexually escalating in date. That's what gets you laid, not trying to be beta or alpha or anywhere in between intentionally. All that other BS is just fvcking noise.

Drinks increase your chances for getting laid, if you already know the female. So it's a good strategy.

 

[marmel75]

Drinks increase your chances for getting laid, if you already know the female. So it's a good strategy.

Buying a drink is nothing as long as its not a random chick at a bar. Most of the time if the chick is into you they will offer to get the second drink anyway. But never a meal on a first date---never, ever, ever, ever. that is not even an option. THAT would be an extremely beta, chump thing to do.

 

[Trunks]

You might be a beta if ... you dwell on this sh1t a little too much.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

You might be a beta if ... you dwell on this sh1t a little too much.

Yeah this. I had a recent date where I paid for everything (although she's going to pay me back when she gets her student loan). I go with the flow and act pragmatically. Buying a girl **** is only a big deal if you make it one. She knows when you're doing it to get in her pants or bc you're uncomfortable, and both are massive turn-offs. But doing it with a "yeah whatever I'll get it" attitude you look easy-going and not cheap, plus you have one in the kitty - you both know she owes you a favour so you can easily ask her to get the next round. It's also a good way to screen for quality. I don't mind dropping £4 on a drink if doing so lets me discover early on that the girl I'm seeing is a waste of time.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah this. I had a recent date where I paid for everything (although she's going to pay me back when she gets her student loan). I go with the flow and act pragmatically. Buying a girl **** is only a big deal if you make it one. She knows when you're doing it to get in her pants or bc you're uncomfortable, and both are massive turn-offs. But doing it with a "yeah whatever I'll get it" attitude you look easy-going and not cheap, plus you have one in the kitty - you both know she owes you a favour so you can easily ask her to get the next round. It's also a good way to screen for quality. I don't mind dropping £4 on a drink if doing so lets me discover early on that the girl I'm seeing is a waste of time.

A lot of girls don't use the "return the favor" honor system. They figure you did it because you like to and don't really have any conscious about balancing out favours. So are you sure this lady is going to hook it up when she gets her loan?

 

[IBreatheSpears]

A lot of girls don't use the "return the favor" honor system. They figure you did it because you like to and don't really have any conscious about balancing out favours. So are you sure this lady is going to hook it up when she gets her loan?

Yes, she suggested it before I could, and she's brought it up a couple times and even showed me her account. Seems uncomfortable owing people money.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yes, she suggested it before I could, and she's brought it up a couple times and even showed me her account. Seems uncomfortable owing people money.

But has she handed money into your hands as "repayment". Does she pay for dates, meals, etc? A lot of the ladies can talk all this fluff and never reach into their purse.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

But has she handed money into your hands as "repayment". Does she pay for dates, meals, etc? A lot of the ladies can talk all this fluff and never reach into their purse.

I've only know her for a week and she's cooked three good meals for me at her place.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I've only know her for a week and she's cooked three good meals for me at her place.

She's generous and reciprocative. She is a good host...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I've never asked them to pay for drinks, and I've never expected them to.

Occasionally they'll offer and I'll still refuse to let them pay.

A lot of times they have the same job or salary level as us. This isn't the old days where women don't work. She works just like I do...

 

[Tenacity]

Far too many people are concerned with Alpha and Beta and not enough with just not giving a fvck, having fun and sexually escalating in date. That's what gets you laid, not trying to be beta or alpha or anywhere in between intentionally. All that other BS is just fvcking noise.

Lol dude this has been the core of what I've been saying around here for a good month now. Way too many one-dimensional, over the top, cult theories instead of a guy just fixing his looks...personality and finances then going out and playing the field.

 

[No.Danny]

You might be beta if you follow any of these "rules" thinking you're a real bad boy alpha
You're an alpha if you choose to consciously ingnore her to show your high value alpha self. Not cause you're busy. But because you choose to. Pls give me a break

 

[dustmuffin]

Do what you want to do. I don't buy random girls drinks but I will pay for my date.

I have a regular thursday date with a plate at a rooftop museum bar with a band. I buy her an 18 dollar bottle of wine. She drinks it and I take her home and f uck her till she squirts like a fire hose.

This same plate has paid for weekends at hipster hotels, drinks and food for me. I didn't spend a dime. She is investing in me.

I don't think in alpha/beta terms. I do what I want. What you want to stay away from is being a suplicating b itch and kissing her a ss.

One more thing. She always wears a dress and no panties. When it gets dark I finger her and get her nice and wet. She loves it.