Ex texting me after week of no contact

[Wisconsin144]

Now you are in a position of deciding if it is over or not. This is powerful, I personally would keep NC and if in a few months you don't mind a casual convo then whatever. But for now, forget about her and bang some new girls.

 

[Amilz]

Its so childish and immature. I told her that I will never fight or beg for anyone who willingly leaves my life, if it leaving makes you happy then I'm happy too.

She said what if I still want you, I responded "Its your turn to fight then" and back to NC

You broke no contact and gave in with that statement to her. If you get back with her she'll leave again and you'll be mad at yourself for not seeing the pattern but you have already shown her you are still open to her rejections and that you are not resilient to her suggestions, coercions or whatever you want to call it.

If a girl suggests a break she probably has other guys in mind. Just imagine them going in her raw, they don't work out and she wants you to get up in there after them. Naw, that's trifling.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I'm not advocating for this, BUT... if you're wanting her to get back with you in a way that will stick, you have to ignore her for at least 3 months. That gives her enough time to really FEEL just how much she misses having you around. It also gives her time to think back on all the things she may have been complaining about, and realize they weren't really as big of deals as she made them out to be. Any less time than that and she'll feel like she still has you in the palm of her hand.

Once you get back in contact with her, you don't agree to get back in a relationship with her right away. No, instead you talk about what went wrong in the relationship, and then YOU suggest you both "hang out" for a while (i.e. become friends with benefits) while you make up your mind. I've done this a few times, and results can vary (from being able to get back in a relationship to only becoming f-buddies and then having it taper off), but the important part is that YOU end up being the one in control of the situation instead of her.

 

[ruskiy11]

I haven't updated this in a while, but here's what happened:

She left me a text saying how much she misses me, how much she still loves me, and how much she wants to see me again to talk our problems out and possibly get back together. I responded that I'm busy (had 3 school prohects to do), but maybe we can meet up sometime later on the following week, and went ghost on her.

I log into my Facebook the Monday of the following week, and see that she is back together with her ex-boyfriend, a dude she told me was "gay" throughout the entire relationship.

Nothing in my life has stung as much as seeing that, literally one week before that she told me how much she loves and misses me and wants to work things out, and then there's that. I felt like my whole relationship was a lie, how can someone move on from 2 years of being with eachother in not even four weeks? Every I miss you was a lie, every I love you was a lie, even wanting to talk our problems out was a lie. Her ex being gay was a lie, her reasoning for the breakup was a lie, everything was all a big fuking lie. I wanted to send her a nasty text telling her how much of a piece of chit she is for making me live this lie, for eliminating 2 years of her life in not even a month, but I know that won't do me any good.

I've never been hurt by anything in my life as much as this, I've hooked up with 3 chicks since breaking up, been on a few dates, but it didn't make my problems better, only worse because I just compared each girl to my ex and got pissed that they werent in anyway similar. It took her three weeks to replace me, I dont know if I was a rebound and she never got over her ex, he was her first love, or if he's the rebound.

It was a feeling of complete betrayal. I've been full NC for almost a month, last I heard from her was a happy birthday text 3 weeks ago, but I'm moving on, its over, I'll never take her back even if she begs a few months down the road. Once shes sucked off another man, I can't bring myself to ever kiss her again, its over.

 

[cola]

First cut is the deepest. Go get some p#ssy. Youll be alright in a couple weeks. 1 year from now you'll look back on this and lol and be thankful because you'll never fall for the same sh#t again. (And if you do, it's all your fault)

Take it on the chin mate. Go have some fun.

 

[ruskiy11]

First cut is the deepest. Go get some p#ssy. Youll be alright in a couple weeks. 1 year from now you'll look back on this and lol and be thankful because you'll never fall for the same sh#t again. (And if you do, it's all your fault)

Take it on the chin mate. Go have some fun.

Yeah I'm moving on well, enjoying all this free time I have now - lifting harder, playing basketball again, reading books, etc. Learned so much on relationships because of her - as in to always focus on yourself, never ignore red flags, judge by actions not words, etc. Also talking to a few chicks right now, yeah the whole situation was rough, in the end though I'm better for it.

 

[Genius500]

Yeah I'm moving on well, enjoying all this free time I have now - lifting harder, playing basketball again, reading books, etc. Learned so much on relationships because of her - as in to always focus on yourself, never ignore red flags, judge by actions not words, etc. Also talking to a few chicks right now, yeah the whole situation was rough, in the end though I'm better for it.

Good job bro. Keep up the good work. Use what you learned from this relationship for all new girls you date. All the information you learned will make you a better DJ. Soon you won't even think about her anymore.

 

[In2theGame]

I haven't updated this in a while, but here's what happened:

She left me a text saying how much she misses me, how much she still loves me, and how much she wants to see me again to talk our problems out and possibly get back together. I responded that I'm busy (had 3 school prohects to do), but maybe we can meet up sometime later on the following week, and went ghost on her.

I log into my Facebook the Monday of the following week, and see that she is back together with her ex-boyfriend, a dude she told me was "gay" throughout the entire relationship.

Nothing in my life has stung as much as seeing that, literally one week before that she told me how much she loves and misses me and wants to work things out, and then there's that. I felt like my whole relationship was a lie, how can someone move on from 2 years of being with eachother in not even four weeks? Every I miss you was a lie, every I love you was a lie, even wanting to talk our problems out was a lie. Her ex being gay was a lie, her reasoning for the breakup was a lie, everything was all a big fuking lie. I wanted to send her a nasty text telling her how much of a piece of chit she is for making me live this lie, for eliminating 2 years of her life in not even a month, but I know that won't do me any good.

I've never been hurt by anything in my life as much as this, I've hooked up with 3 chicks since breaking up, been on a few dates, but it didn't make my problems better, only worse because I just compared each girl to my ex and got pissed that they werent in anyway similar. It took her three weeks to replace me, I dont know if I was a rebound and she never got over her ex, he was her first love, or if he's the rebound.

It was a feeling of complete betrayal. I've been full NC for almost a month, last I heard from her was a happy birthday text 3 weeks ago, but I'm moving on, its over, I'll never take her back even if she begs a few months down the road. Once shes sucked off another man, I can't bring myself to ever kiss her again, its over.

I have been where you are now and my advice is to hold on because the emotional ride is going to get turbulent. One moment you will feel like you "hate that B*tch" and the next moment you will feel like weeping from feeling betrayed and like you said, feel like the whole thing was a lie. Everything she said was a lie. The facebook thing, I know how it feels and it isnt pretty but you have to try hard to hang on. I was with my ex for 5 years and she said all of the things your ex said "I need a break" "Just want to be alone right now" "Need some space" etc.. She said she "missed me" that she still loved me so much" ... a Month later i see on facebook shes getting Married to another guy. You can imagine how i felt. Hang on bro, its gonna get emotionally bumpy. because of what she did, i have yet to let a girl connect to me emotionally and i have been with close to 100 of women since the break up. Havent been the same since.

 

[Spinach]

Try having your six year woman be with another man within two weeks of dumping your ass. It is not pretty...and to be truthful the pain still remains in the darkness of ones mind...sorry. We are just human...and age knows no barrier when it comes to heartache.

 

[ruskiy11]

Another update, almost three months post breakup and I'm living and loving life. I creeped on my exes Instagram for the first time since going NC on her, saw her plastering pics with her new boy and honestly I didn't feel a thing - no sadness, no jealousy, no hatred, nothing, just indifference, guess that means I'm moving along well.

Now I couldn't help but laugh at her new boy, he took her on a vacation to Florida (vacation she wanted to go with me after breakup but I refused cause why the hell would I go with an ex), not only did he take her on a vacation there, he took her on a private jet LOL! I looked at his IG too, he plasters beta chit all over about her too, how shes the best thing that ever happened to him, etc. Moral of the story - he's a beta chump, and shes a manipulative sloot who's using him for his money. Sloots gonna sloot, and alpha fuks beta bucks, so happy she's out of my life.

 

[AttackFormation]

You broke no contact and gave in with that statement to her. If you get back with her she'll leave again and you'll be mad at yourself for not seeing the pattern but you have already shown her you are still open to her rejections and that you are not resilient to her suggestions, coercions or whatever you want to call it.

I agree with this. Saying "it's your turn to fight then" hints that you still care about this and makes you look butthurt, it was a response of weakness. But it seems like you stopped there and only swayed back to beta, then returned to the right path and now you've come out right.