Ex-PUA reveals...

[Snow Plowman]

Everyone is different, PUA/DJ is a label that means nothing because...
- You create who you are
- You create your life/drama

The problem with this community is people are just following others instead of just using this as an environment which consists of a collective viewpoint because this is a SUBJECTIVE area, but actually has an OBJECTIVE foundation.

Personally, my lifestyle, viewpoint and overall social life all complements each other well. I enjoy the freedom and lightness that my overall life brings.

I'm very spiritual BUT to allude people I put my SUPERFICIAL life up as a mask because that depth is too far outside of people's reality. Which is why alot of what you said doesn't hold weight in my viewpoint...

I will agree that many people in the community need to grow up as there quality of being isn't getting higher and there actually falling into belief traps that are feeding there egos.

HOWEVER, everyone is different...
- I'm already happy
- I don't want a gf nor do I want to ever get married
- I'm content with how I live and enjoy seeing/taking the possibilities of my lifestyle to the next level
- I'm not trying to SURVIVE I'm just living through this lifetime creating it how I want it to be and just offering my expression of LOVE to the world (Which ironically makes marriage unprofitable to my growth)

People need to realize the community is just a tool to help improve their lives and nothing more. The problem is the marketing has to use WOMEN & GETTING LAID as the selling point because that was one of the main reasons people got into this. Almost everyone got into this for ego-based reasons...

For me this community showed me what is possible in all areas of my life on earth, from business to women. If it wasn't for this journey I wouldn't even be in the works of creating specific projects that I've come up with as a result.

I understand what your trying to project but straight up bashing everything about this is worthless and create an excuse for newbies to overlook this stuff.

This is just a medium for...SELF DISCOVERY...I can't begin to explain how much I've made this world a better place as a result...

 

[suavesuave]

i'm guessing when you hit 40 you don't feel like having sex anymore. Am I right?

 

[everywomanshero]

Responding to the OPer:

I hardly think everyone who engages in premarital sex is doomed to custodial services and AIDS, lol, thanks for the laugh, though. Those Universities which you claim produce feminist, man haters, have been where I found a lot of fun loving women. They are not ideal for me, since I am not looking for single women, but it has nothing to do with that stuff you mention. The women one meets at University are in fact often very easy going. I don't think I'll be flying to Russia to get a bride anytime soon

Ross Jefferies, Tyler Durden, and quite a few of the others seem to like real weirdos. That's to be expected, these guys are the ones who bought X-Ray vision glasses out of the backs of comic books when they were in their 20s. No one needs them to build up their own paradise, anyway. Each person needs to be his own man. That's not to say one cannot be inspired by others, but the journey should be his own. I would agree with not changing to bend to the whims of perceived social desirability. Taking ownership of one's values, culture, ideas, and actions makes him stronger.

Parting statement is that you have to measure by the amount of success, not the amount of failure. A failure lasts a few minutes, a success lasts at least an hour

 

[lugsy211]

I definitely agree with Snow and everywomanshero above me. All in all I didn't like expua's message, for the simple fact that it was so negative. I question whether there is a underlying anger or fear in your life. I'm very interested in discovering why you choose to work with divorced/divorcing couples. What drives you to do this difficult type of work?

If you guys are wanting something more uplifting, I highly recommend Interceptor's post 'The enforced march' -

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142890