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Don Juan
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Just curious if anyone has a different interpretation of recent events with my ex. BTW, this is not the same girl I talked about in my other thread.
Much younger girl, we dated for a few months. I was going through a really hard time in my life, and she was making some really dumb decisions with hers. Aside from that, it was a good time. It seemed like the girl worshiped me. Constant texts, always worried I was screwing other girls, etc.
But, as she kept doing stupid sh1t with her life, I started to go cold on her, and we stopped getting along. I guess she saw the writing on the wall and broke up with me first.
I was angry at first, but as I reflected on the relationship, I realized that, instead of confronting her about the dumb stuff she was doing, I kinda went passive-aggressive on her. I figured I had made a mistake, but still went strict NC for about a month.
I got the standard call from her, that I answered, on my birthday. She said she missed me, blah blah blah, wanted to see me. I played it pretty cool but did say it would be nice to see her.
Ended up sending this big apology text to her a few days later. Told her I was sorry, how I acted, etc. She responded positively, but said she was really young and just wanted to be single. I told her that was fine, I wasn't trying to jump back into things with her, just wanted to say sorry. She said she wanted to see me and I told her I would get back to her.
Next week, I texted her about grabbing a drink, and she didn't respond. NC again for a couple weeks until she texted me her favorite picture of me that she had taken. I didn't respond. Couple weeks later she texts me that she found a shirt of mine while she was moving to a new place. I ignored the shirt and asked about the move. She told me the details, we chatted a bit about what we had been up to, and she left the text conversation rather abruptly. My impression was that she was hurt that I didn't try to come get my shirt.
A few days ago, she saw me walking around town. I didn't see her. I got a few texts from her, then a phone call. She said she was "emotionally shocked" when she saw me, how sexy I looked, and how she didn't realize how much she missed me, my apartment, my car, etc, until she saw me. She was always crazy about my looks and this is what I expected if she saw me.
We talked for a bit, and I reiterated that I felt bad about how things had ended. She agreed, and said it would be nice for us to hang out very soon. We made plans to have lunch and go from there. The whole vibe I got from her was that she was going crazy from having seen me, and was getting emotional about it. I stayed cool about it and just said it would nice to meet up and chat. After we talked she was texting me smiley faces.
The plan was today that I would call her and we would meet for lunch. This was two days after she saw me. I called her and sent her a text. No response whatsoever. After a couple hours, I called and left a VM saying that if she was blowing me off, that sucked, because I enjoyed talking to her the other day and it would have been fun to catch up with each other.
I was looking forward to this and am pretty disappointed. At the same time I realize that this girl is probably too young/immature to have potential, and she pretty much just proved it.
I do have to admit that I am curious as to what happened. Obviously on some level, when she saw me, she was shocked into action. And wanted to see me. I think that once she knew I was willing to meet her, that desire started to fade. Or, she knew that if we hung out, she would not be able to resist me, would want to date me again, and this would go against her desire to be single. Or both.
I don't know, I was really mad when this happened, but I've calmed down and realized that this wasn't going to work out anyway. I guess I would like to understand what happened a bit better in order to avoid making the same mistake(s) in the future.
Thanks.
Much younger girl, we dated for a few months. I was going through a really hard time in my life, and she was making some really dumb decisions with hers. Aside from that, it was a good time. It seemed like the girl worshiped me. Constant texts, always worried I was screwing other girls, etc.
But, as she kept doing stupid sh1t with her life, I started to go cold on her, and we stopped getting along. I guess she saw the writing on the wall and broke up with me first.
I was angry at first, but as I reflected on the relationship, I realized that, instead of confronting her about the dumb stuff she was doing, I kinda went passive-aggressive on her. I figured I had made a mistake, but still went strict NC for about a month.
I got the standard call from her, that I answered, on my birthday. She said she missed me, blah blah blah, wanted to see me. I played it pretty cool but did say it would be nice to see her.
Ended up sending this big apology text to her a few days later. Told her I was sorry, how I acted, etc. She responded positively, but said she was really young and just wanted to be single. I told her that was fine, I wasn't trying to jump back into things with her, just wanted to say sorry. She said she wanted to see me and I told her I would get back to her.
Next week, I texted her about grabbing a drink, and she didn't respond. NC again for a couple weeks until she texted me her favorite picture of me that she had taken. I didn't respond. Couple weeks later she texts me that she found a shirt of mine while she was moving to a new place. I ignored the shirt and asked about the move. She told me the details, we chatted a bit about what we had been up to, and she left the text conversation rather abruptly. My impression was that she was hurt that I didn't try to come get my shirt.
A few days ago, she saw me walking around town. I didn't see her. I got a few texts from her, then a phone call. She said she was "emotionally shocked" when she saw me, how sexy I looked, and how she didn't realize how much she missed me, my apartment, my car, etc, until she saw me. She was always crazy about my looks and this is what I expected if she saw me.
We talked for a bit, and I reiterated that I felt bad about how things had ended. She agreed, and said it would be nice for us to hang out very soon. We made plans to have lunch and go from there. The whole vibe I got from her was that she was going crazy from having seen me, and was getting emotional about it. I stayed cool about it and just said it would nice to meet up and chat. After we talked she was texting me smiley faces.
The plan was today that I would call her and we would meet for lunch. This was two days after she saw me. I called her and sent her a text. No response whatsoever. After a couple hours, I called and left a VM saying that if she was blowing me off, that sucked, because I enjoyed talking to her the other day and it would have been fun to catch up with each other.
I was looking forward to this and am pretty disappointed. At the same time I realize that this girl is probably too young/immature to have potential, and she pretty much just proved it.
I do have to admit that I am curious as to what happened. Obviously on some level, when she saw me, she was shocked into action. And wanted to see me. I think that once she knew I was willing to meet her, that desire started to fade. Or, she knew that if we hung out, she would not be able to resist me, would want to date me again, and this would go against her desire to be single. Or both.
I don't know, I was really mad when this happened, but I've calmed down and realized that this wasn't going to work out anyway. I guess I would like to understand what happened a bit better in order to avoid making the same mistake(s) in the future.
Thanks.
