Ex is talking to me again

[iCatch]

long story short:

she went with a guy, broke up with him, went with me, broke up with me (yea she broke up with me), and is back with the other guy.

there was no contact between us for 3 months and she started texting me last night.

we were just talking about w/e and i said something and she was like "u have me cheesin right now" (we're in high school so we talk like this lol) that basically means shes smiling like crazy for those of u that dont know. it's about 11pm and she had somewhere to go the next day so she had to go to bed. she said goodnight (gave me a nickname)

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before she started texting me again, shes been talking to me more in school. we have 2 classes together.

not trying to sound ****y, but i put on a good amount of muscle since we broke up and i look a lot better now. i have a bigger social circle now too. her boyfriend on the other hand is one of the quiet types. he does everything she says which is one reason why i think she got back with him.

what does this mean? is it just because we're out of that awkward stage after a break up or is she getting bored with her bf and wants me back?

 

[WC2]

She's playing you both bro.

Just because you're cooler than this dude, don't think that if you let her back in her life, she won't just trash you again.

You can't make a h0e into a housewife, especially in high school. If you're going to do anything with her, keep your emotions completely out of it. Get your sexual needs fulfilled, and tell her to be on her way.

Then again, why aren't you hitting on better chicks? If this chick is dating some quiet dude who doesn't have much of a social circle, you're probably too good for her anyways, right?

 

[iCatch]

She's playing you both bro.

Just because you're cooler than this dude, don't think that if you let her back in her life, she won't just trash you again.

You can't make a h0e into a housewife, especially in high school. If you're going to do anything with her, keep your emotions completely out of it. Get your sexual needs fulfilled, and tell her to be on her way.

Then again, why aren't you hitting on better chicks? If this chick is dating some quiet dude who doesn't have much of a social circle, you're probably too good for her anyways, right?

this is one of those "late bloomers". she only started getting really hot a few months before i started dating her. she wasn't so good looking a few years back so i don't think she knows how hot she is lol. on top of that she has some family issues so her self esteem isn't so high either.

the guy that shes with now, the one that she was with before me, always did everything for her. she left him for me and when i didnt cater to her she got mad. she also got jealous when i talked to other girls. like i said she's a late bloomer so she didn't have much confidence with guys before. i guess she thought i'd use her or something so she broke up with me.

i know it sounds like this girl is a loser, trust me she's not. you'd have to know her to know what i mean. more and more guys have been checking her out though. i think shes starting to realize how hot she is and on top of that she has a great personality and shes smart. she just doesnt have that much confidence yet because of her past.

she's not the player type trust me

 

[Energizer]

This b*tch deserves a world of emotional torment, I'd ditch her and find someone who isn't a complete moron.

 

[KontrollerX]

"she's not the player type trust me"

Says every guy who is in the process of getting played.

"i have a bigger social circle now too. her boyfriend on the other hand is one of the quiet types. he does everything she says which is one reason why i think she got back with him."

She had you both and she's still with him sucking his c0ck every night.

Your extra muscle and bigger social circle is irrelevant.

She's a player and enjoys his quiet nature because she wants a man she can control.

If she is exhibiting interest towards you again she will gradually get you so hot for her you'll lose your damned mind and think that she is under your spell but no you are under her's just like she wants it.

Snap the fvck out of it.

Go bone other chicks as soon as possible and make her wait for when you get around to wanting her again if ever.

And when you do decide you want her again you will then exhibit some light signs of interest towards her only to let her know subtley that you are interested in her again and if the feeling is mutual she will then start trying to get you back with her.

Slow at first but then the desire for you will really be turned up a notch.

From that point on you have to make her work a bit to prove she's really worthy of being with you again.

For instructions on how to mindgame her well in this regard go check out Metaphysical's giant thread that tells guy's what to do after they've been dumped.

Good luck and yeah stop rationalizing and making excuses for some b!tch not being this, that or the other thing when her behavior quite clearly exhibits to us that she is infact a player.

What is a girl supposed to do to be considered a player in your world?

They don't always have tons of guys friends, tattoos all over and partying like tomorrow is never going to come.

Some playettes play guys with subtlety and grace and get everything that they want from you and other guys because you are paying more attention to her low key act than what she's actually doing.

 

[iCatch]

Snap the fvck out of it.

thanks for that. now that i think of it she is a player. she's not getting all these other guys n **** but she manipulates her bf to get what she wants. i didnt take her **** when we were together so she left me to go back to her doormat bf. thanks for knocking some sense into me guys. i had oneitis for her and it was starting up again. thanks for that.

BUT

although i just realized that u guys are right i still want to be friends with her. i know a lot about her personal life and she knows a lot about mine. we were good friends before we started dating.

i won't be stupid and fall for her again, but i still want her as a friend. should i take time away from her to completely snap out of this so we can truly be JUST friends?

 

[KontrollerX]

"should i take time away from her to completely snap out of this so we can truly be JUST friends?"

Yes indeed.

Get your mind right, get back in control and you'll be ready for friendship with her if thats what you truly want but yeah if she is a future prospect for you relationship or hook up wise you should cold cut contact and get with other chicks then you give her the gift of missing you.

In other words when you finally decide its time to persue her for something more once again you are a new thing to her all over again.

Whereas if you stay her friend you cement yourself in her mind in a friend role which is not where you ultimately want to be.

 

[WC2]

this is one of those "late bloomers". she only started getting really hot a few months before i started dating her. she wasn't so good looking a few years back so i don't think she knows how hot she is lol. on top of that she has some family issues so her self esteem isn't so high either.

the guy that shes with now, the one that she was with before me, always did everything for her. she left him for me and when i didnt cater to her she got mad. she also got jealous when i talked to other girls. like i said she's a late bloomer so she didn't have much confidence with guys before. i guess she thought i'd use her or something so she broke up with me.

i know it sounds like this girl is a loser, trust me she's not. you'd have to know her to know what i mean. more and more guys have been checking her out though. i think shes starting to realize how hot she is and on top of that she has a great personality and shes smart. she just doesnt have that much confidence yet because of her past.

she's not the player type trust me

As Kx said, I don't care if she's the hottest/coolest girl in the world. If she's playing you and other men then that's where you'll be; just a player in her game.

Maybe she'll mature some time later on and get out of her party stages, but highschool and college is when her party phase just STARTS.

Accepting the friendship branch is stupid, you'll just end up wanting her again and you'll look like that confused kid who thought he could get the girl he wanted.

Just let her play her games, use her for sex and keep your emotions out of this one. Trust me. Been there done that.

 

[TheRealSupreme]

she getting bored with her bf and wants me back?

Huh...excuse me...come again???? Wants me back???? As if she has all the power???

You sell your balls like that??? And just give away your power like that as a man???

I know your only in high school and aren't a full grown man yet but ...

excuse me????? wants me back????

Ohh hell no playa.

Are you a sheep pup to be picked up by a big bad she wolf like that? Do you bow and put your head on the chopping block like a lamb???

She has been sucking the other guys dyck why would YOU want her back is more like it.

She dumped YOU and now thinks she can just say a few cute words and tell you that YOU have her cheezin and you get all riled up like a catholic school boy with a dirty magazine....

WTF???

And your gonna let her take your balls like that???

Take your essence....your manhood....your pride???

At this early in your development as a man?

Hell no.

slap ya self and do 50 got dam pushups boy.

You hold the power now you dig. Let the beeyatch beg and keep on beggin.

Your the man now so act like it.