Ex Is Back Throwing Dirt on Current LTR

[slickaz]

so my ex contacted me today
saying, my current LTR is not a good girl.

i am under the impression that my current is a VERY good girl.
and always has been.

however my ex says, she knows this girl and knows ppl that do know this girl.
without giving me ANY details, she says this one is a "girl that noone wants"

"i care a bout you, i always have, so please dont make this mistake and ruin your life...you will only get hurt, get out while you can.."

What do you experienced guys do in this case?

my current has given my no solid reason to not trust her, or her past.
she has been very straight forward and told me most things that she think can come back and bite her in the ass. just so it wont.

my ex, i dont know whats gotten into her.

Advice...plz

 

[wjh]

Why are you speaking to your ex?

 

[Jitterbug]

According to any of my ex, no other woman is good enough for me other than her majestic self.

 

[horaholic]

Well, what is your ex like? There are a couple chicks I've dated that I would actually believe. And there are a couple that are misguided, manipulative, and/or full of shyt. Either way, I would make my own decision. If they were'nt giving me any details or info, I would shrug it off, but a little negative seed would be planted, Im sure.

So, which GF are you talking about this week, anyway?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

1. Your ex wants you back and is willing to lie and manipulate you so, you take her back.

2. She could be telling the truth.

Which, one sounds more likely? Just, take what she is saying in stride.

Or you could call your ex back and say something like; Hey, I wanna thank your for "looking out for me." But, I dont know if I could believe what your saying with out some facts or reasons.

See what she has to say...

 

[WaterTiger]

Let me guess... Your old Ex isn't dating anyone right now is she? No, I thought not. She is jealous. She wants you to be as miserable as she is by wrecking your relationship.

If she is so loving and caring about you, why are you two broken up?

Tell her "Thanks for the warning!" then....

CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER!

 

[vitor]

She will not tell you why, but she will tell you she is bad and no one wants her? Why not give you the details. I think it is her being jealous, and do not risk what you got talking to an Ex. An ex for a reason..

 

[decades]

she's back because you let her back. the question is why you allow her into your life disrupting things? If only you would ignore her, you could have her slinking off to a corner somewhere licking her wounds. but you play her game. there seems to be something in it for you to have X in your life.

 

[jophil28]

my current has given my no solid reason to not trust her, or her past.
she has been very straight forward and told me most things that she think can come back and bite her in the ass. just so it wont.

" no solid reason to not trust her..." That is all you need to remember.

I have never had an "ex" who looked out for my interests after our breakup.Never had and "ex" who had my welfare at heart. Women are not like that.

They may not want you, but they sure as hell do not want YOU finding happiness with another women.

Read Water Tiger's reply. She hit the nail...

 

[Mr. Me]

"i care a bout you, i always have..."

Uh huh, sure, sure. This is the one where things got bad, then worse, right? "I care" kind of conflicts with that, no? And no details given - then there's nothing there. You make your own decisions based on how you're treated and don't talk about your new woman with exes.

 

[Luthor Rex]

Consider the source of where this information comes from.

Your ex has a strong motivation to lie to you because... well because she's your ex.

 

[slickaz]

thanks guys,
yeh i ignored that drama.
i replied with a thank you for your concern, ill decide when and if i gather any facts against her.
she replied back with, ''but ur such a great guy, successful and well known etc, you shouldnt be with a girl that noone wants..etc etc"
i did not reply.

I believe she is jealous of my current, because my current is younger, and is more lively and is much more of a loved person by most people that know her.
they have mutual acquaintances that she probably probed into.
i still have to see any details before i believe her. which at this point i dont.

Horaholic: Im talking about the same girl that i have been for the past month. The religious parents having, virgin that is super good to me with the cooking and cleaning and being mature about drama thing. she did slip two days ago regarding some poems that i had written, but she apologized and made up for it.

I wonder why women are like this, i mean they know they wont be happy with this, but they dont want another woman to be happy with it either. so they try and destroy it. wow! i mean thats kind of a sad way to see things. like im going to go out of my way and destroy someone elses joy, even though she did nothing wrong to me.

 

[jophil28]

I wonder why women are like this, i mean they know they wont be happy with this, but they dont want another woman to be happy with it either. so they try and destroy it. wow! i mean thats kind of a sad way to see things. like im going to go out of my way and destroy someone elses joy, even though she did nothing wrong to me.

That is just the way that MOST of them are.. spiteful, sour and destructive , and bitter and envious of your success with any other woman. And surely a great reason NEVER to ask for advice from an ex about your current squeeze.

I have a theory that the ONLY way that you can be "friends" with an EX is after a few years have passed and the emotions have died down, AND then only after she has established a new relationship for herself in which she is HAPPY.
Until then she is a an emotional handgrenade. .

 

[Mike32ct]

If she cared about you, she'd let you live your life and not interfere.

This is classic "ex" behavior from a woman. She isn't doing this for you. She is competing with your current girlfriend. If she can pry you away, she'll know she still has you on her hook. Then she can cut bait again, emotionally satisfied with this knowledge.

If you are concerned about the quality of your current gf, ask your close GUY friends (or family) to kindly point out any red flags they may have seen.

Meanwhile, block the bread-crumb-tossing ex. Think about it this way...if she TRULY wanted to help you and inform you of something specific, like that your GF is definitely cheating, or is an ax murderer, she would get this message to you plain as day without beating around the bush.

I agree. It would be really hard to get objective advice from your ex about your current gf because of the jealousy factor. Consult with a trusted guy friend and/or family.

 

[mrRuckus]

I'm currently in contact with zero exes. I just get irritated if i stumble into one by accident. I dont' wnat to think about their miserable selves.

Ever have sex dreams with exes? I'm irritated after i wake up too.

I can't imagine the point of being friends with exes. There are so many other people. The only way i can see really being 'friendly' at all is if your social circle somehow still involves. Otherwise, who gives a damn? Pointless stupid drama and they want you to be miserable anyway.

I even avoid girls who are close to their exes. It's weird and too much worry.

 

[Romjuan]

the best advice i have is when it comes to ur ltr never ask about her past. never ask or get into past relationships. if someone says they want u to know something about her, tell them u dont want to know. all that will end up bothering u in the long run.

 

[slickaz]

yeh ive realised thats the best option.
because i know that if i hear about it it might bother me.

my current ltr is pretty good like that.
she has told me what i need to know about her past, because she says it wont come back and bite her in the 4ss later. incase i find out stuff.

she hasnt done much at all compared to the other girls her age but for her its a big deal that she once kissed a guy.

im happy with not knowing because she'll never know my past i cant tell her.

for eg, i dance salsa. and the fact that ive learnt how to salsa with another woman as my partner, gets her upset. like you touched another woman that way. so if i tell her the truth she might just explode.lol

but anyway yeh i 100% of the time avoid ex's but this one called me up, from out of the blue. got my new number from someone and rung me. it took me by surprise..so yeh..i dont have her number, but she did email me as well so i emailed her back with the appreciation but ill take care of it reply.