Ex Is Back On Pof 2 Weeks After I Ended It

[Eljuego]

I accept it was more that my expectations were grossly misaligned and probably unrealistic, which is why I am only championing a break up when you are 100% certain you don't want to be with this girl again - that wasn't the case with me. I broke up with her because I was angry.

And this is probably my ego talking but I also think that she should have made more of an effort to reconcile. IMO sleeping with someone else (especially as a girl who has only slept with ONE guy) is something you should really be doing when you're certain there is no hope to get back together. She claims she saw no hope but I wasn't entirely convinced.



Well, her whole clean "good girl" image was one of the reasons I liked her. Knowing she could so easily spread her legs kills the attraction. Ok, maybe not attraction but certainly the love.



Pretty much. Yes. Although if I'm entirely honest with myself I know that she love[d] me and yes I treated her like sh*t but I just think she showed very poor decision making in the aftermath.



Not exactly loyal, but as I mentioned to you sleeping with someone else is MASSIVE. You can't undo that. And it begs the question, "is that all it took?". A few words and you basically do something that destroys any chance of a future. I get some women take grief badly but come on...have more sense.



I see your point.



What do you mean by this?

Also your questions suggest you have a different opinion about this then me. You don't think she did anything wrong?

Social_Leper, I appreciate your honesty and I understand where your coming from. However, to answer your question, no I don't believe she did anything "wrong". Here's why:

1) I think the moment you throw that fishy back into the water, what she does is no longer your business. As hard as that is to accept when you've got so used to being with her
2) If I remember correctly you said she was a foreign national, German no? Well have you ever being dumped on foreign soil? It stings that little bit more. You look around for your support system that you have at home....and it's possible she didn't have that.
3) She was a virgen when you got your filthy paws on her :yes: Basically, you trained her sexually. You probably wanted her to be both a puritan and a liberteen (with you). She had sex on tap in the relationship. You cut her supply.
....no support system (i'm assuming) no intimacy and no sex.

When she told you she was with someone else....you jumped on your high horse.....and your in danger of being a martyr now...."I was wronged"

It sounds like you didn't want to finish with her (I could be wrong) but were a bit stubborn with your decision.

It almost makes me think of that wonderful sitcom "Friends" when Ross screams...."We were on a break!!!!!" But Rachel won't have any of it...she stubbornly sticks to her guns..

I said attachment issues....as maybe you became too attached....it happens.

But just imagine if you were in a relationship now and the girl finished with you.......you would probably go no contact and try to bang another girl, no? to get over it fast? has she not got that right?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Anynhow 2 weeks after the breakup, she is now back on Plenty of fish dating site?


Should i reach out to her and see if she is willing to talk??

Remember it was me who officially ended it... but it was kinda mutual because she didn't try to make up with me!!


Would trying to talk to her now, be a mistake? I would be putting her in a position of power over me???


Please advice... i was getting over her, till i found out she is back on POF

Your inner game is weak. What she's doing and who she's fvcking should be of no concern. She's an ex. It's over. Move on with your life and never speak to her again.

 

[captain55]

Yes she is banging multiple other plates, yet you are still fapping to her pictures.

It depends on how deep the relationship was. If she genuinely loved the guy at one time, even if there are no feelings there anymore and she's a huge ****ing slut ....there's no guarantee she's gonna hop on a new **** right away. My ex was single for almost 6 months after we dated, the last guy she broke up with she had a new bf within a week lol

 

[captain55]

That's what she tells you.

And from what I understand the deeper the relationship, the greater the pain from a breakup and the more incentive there is to find that distraction.

Besides single doesn't mean sex didn't occur. Would be very naive to assume otherwise.

True you make a good point. It totally depends on the situation though.

What if you had a way bigger d i c k than most guys she's been with in the past? Also what is her ego like? Chances are if she's got an ego she's gonna make sure the next dude she bangs is better than you in some way and she might not have a dude in line who matches up. No girl with an ego is gonna downgrade. Obviously this is a rare, the harsh reality is if your chick is hot there is almost always a better looking dude ready to plow your girl the moment you break up with her, depends on how far out of her league you are.

I think we can all agree on one thing though, a girl is more likely to slut it up if you broke up with her than if she broke up with you.(assuming she didnt break up with you because she wasn't satisfied sexually)...if that's the case your ****ed haha

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

She probably just stapled 5 more condoms to her wall the last weekend, delete plenty of fatties and go do some day game.

 

[Lozboss]

I personally think that sometimes it depends on the woman.

Some women are unable to be intimate (have sex etc) if they are emotionally damaged following a break up. Depends on whether this is linked to depression etc.