Ex Girlfriends

[Industry]

She said she never wanted to talk to me again...
She accused me of stalking her...
She left me for her ex boyfriend...
She tried to make me jealous...

but... why the **** does it seem like she wants me back now?

I've changed...
I stopped drinking...
I got a better job...
I got a new car...
I'm going back to school in January...
I took up flying lessons...
I started hitting the weights...
I am happy without her in my life...
I've been dating a few other women...

Does any of this make sense? I mean is there a correlation between bettering yourself and gaining an ex-girlfriends interest back? It seems like yesterday she was saying "never call/write/im/text/email me again!"

I just don't understand?

 

[Hellboy]

Don't try to understand, just tell her to get the f*ck out of your life.

 

[Industry]

Originally posted by Hellboy
Don't try to understand, just tell her to get the f*ck out of your life.

Well thank you Captain Obvious!

I know this... but I was just curious if this is a reason why most girls get interest back in their ex? They want us to fail and give them validation for leaving us... but when their departure makes us stronger it seems to make them second guess their decision. Any truth to that theory?

 

[Hellboy]

Okay I see what you mean. I suppose it depends how the relationship ended. I depends who hurt who and when and how. It depends on the dynamic of the relationship when you were together.

If you broke her heart, then the four opening lines of your original post could be a result of her trying to get revenge for the way you hurt her. In which case she would always carry a little of that hurt, and never be truly over you. Once you appear to have moved on she either tries to forget about you or obsesses over you.

If you didn't do anything to deserve these things, like cheating on her when she was in love with you, then she is a bytch anyways and is doing this stuff because she doesn't really care about you.

Either way, they both enjoy the torment you go through while you still have oneitis. And when they no longer have the hold over you they want it back, by any means.

Never go back to an ex girlfriend. Danger Will Robinson!
Although it is possible to stay friends, if you are both good people and meet other people who you are happy with.

 

[SparkleMotion]

I know what you are going through. I just had an ex of mine start trying to talk to me again.

Could be any number of things, could be that she's going through a bad time in her life and misses having someone around.

But don't go back to her.

 

[Desdinova]

I suppose it depends how the relationship ended. I depends who hurt who and when and how.

No it doesn't.

I've had it happen both ways.

Women's emotions are always going up and down. I had the "don't ever contact me again" 5hit. So I listened to her and moved on with my life. I started dating lots of other women and it got back to her. Oh 5hit! Now she's jealous! She's missing out on a great guy she once had!

Women will use the power of their looks, their sweet voice, and the prospect of sex to get you back. She believes that even though the two of you aren't dating anymore, she still owns you (or can at least capture you once again).

Women don't forsee into the future that their ex CAN and WILL move on and become happy without them. It seems to take them as a total surprise every time.

Women that you dump hate that feeling of rejection. If you tell them "Goodbye", they will try to get out of a permanent goodbye one way or another. They may try and move on, but that permanent cut-off is still bugging them. They need to keep that damn door open so they don't feel rejected! That's why you'll get the LJBF line from them. They want to keep you around so they don't feel that horrid rejection.

 

[Hellboy]

Originally posted by Desdinova
No it doesn't.

I've had it happen both ways.

I know it happens both ways, and I agree with what you said. But the motives are different depending on the facts I mentioned. He asked why not how. This does depend on how the relationship ended.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

She came back because she's wondering why you're no longer groveling. If you were to play along she'd only abuse you some more. Next time she calls you fart into the phone and hang up.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I can't understand why guys stay in contact with their ex's if it was a serious LTR. I mean I talk to plenty of girls I dated for a month or two, but I don't talk to ANY of my exgf's period!! Because they always try to pull this type of shiat!!! It doesn't matter how they relationship ended, when they get lonely, they go back to reliable sources of attention. I think if you were fully over her, regardless of how it ended, you wouldn't even be asking this question.



PIMP

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Unfortunately, I work for the same company as my ex, but luckily I don't have to see much of her.

On the plus side, I get to here the gossip about her.

For instance, her new boyfriend, whom she has only been dating for 3+ months, is now getting pressure and grief from my ex to marry her and have children.

Can you believe that sh*t after only 3 months and change?

According to the other women at work, it has been causing arguments between them.

Well I can't really believe she'd be this desperate, but I can't tell you how damn satisfying it is hearing other people say how f*cked they think she is for pulling this crap, and how much they now understand why I broke up with that control freak.

Also interesting is I'd like to see how long the poor f*cker sticks around. That's a serious red flag.

So in this instance, it's kind of a morbid curiosity, not to mention huge justification for me.

I also want to see if the poor f*cker is as dumb as I was and sticks around.

 

[Egoist]

wait wait wait, step back for a minute...

you mean you better yourself and women want you more???


NO ****ING WAY!?!?!?!?!?!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Hellboy
Don't try to understand, just tell her to get the f*ck out of your life.

Bravo!

 

[Industry]

Originally posted by Egoist
wait wait wait, step back for a minute...

you mean you better yourself and women want you more???


NO ****ING WAY!?!?!?!?!?!

haha yeah no s5hit!

I'm off becoming a better man and she's still waist deep in drama w/ her ex...

I hope she calls/sees me in 6 months time. Her jaw will ****ing drop when I've been hitting the gym (with a trainer) and become the man that every girls dreams to be with. She'll wonder why she dropped me for a former "first love" who for some reason, as it turns out, didn't have the same feelings for her still.

And you know what? I'll shut the door on her face.

 

[Trance]

Girls / Guys break up because they think they can get better.

If you see your ex and he/she has that "I'm doing so great right now" aura around him/her, you think the oposite, that maybe it was he/she that was better than you, and that you're the one who was left missing out something.

 

[Industry]

Originally posted by Trance
Girls / Guys break up because they think they can get better.

If you see your ex and he/she has that "I'm doing so great right now" aura around him/her, you think the oposite, that maybe it was he/she that was better than you, and that you're the one who was left missing out something.

yeah but those who feel the need to talk about how good they are doing are probably faking it.

it reminds me of an old saying... "the person who talks about money... has none."

kind of like.. the girl who says "me and my new b/f did this.. and that... and im so happy.. blah blah" probably isnt as much as she claims.

 

[Wee]

dude im tired