ex-girlfriend's gifts to me

[DJArlington]

my ex gave me a ton of cards (like she wrote 100+ cards over three years, etc.) and DVDs etc. All that **** reminds me of her - can I just throw it out? She said she did not want me to throw the stuff out and instead just ship it all to her (she lives on the other side of the country). I dont care either way, just wanted to get your opinions on this.

 

[STR8UP]

The past is the past. Why would you want to hold onto all of that stuff?

My last LTR took it upon herself to use a whole pad of post-it notes to write "I love you" "I miss you" "I'm sorry" and stick them in every last nook and cranny of all of my possessions.

It's been three years and I STILL find those stupid things from time to time. If I ever get a live-in gf again I'm gonna have to explain the situation up front cause who knows how many of those things are still around.

 

[Warrior74]

I got a box with old letters from girls all the way back from highschool. But do what you want. who cares what she wants. Its on you.

 

[DJDamage]

Throw the cards to the trash and sell the DVD's or give them away to someone.

 

[Da Realist]

Keep them and do what you want with them unless it's something she has to pay for or its part of some written agreement. If she wants something to remember you by, she should be coming to beg you to take her back.

 

[SharpGame]

If the DVD's suck, give them away. If they're good keep them. As for the cards, I'd put them in a box and tuck them away somewhere you won't see them for a few years. No sense throwing away memories. You might enjoy reading them when you're older.

 

[FM 3321]

my ex gave me a ton of cards (like she wrote 100+ cards over three years, etc.) and DVDs etc. All that **** reminds me of her - can I just throw it out? She said she did not want me to throw the stuff out and instead just ship it all to her (she lives on the other side of the country). I dont care either way, just wanted to get your opinions on this.

It looks like you do care hence this thread. I wouldn't pay money to ship that crap to her. Why did you guys break up in the first place? It happens to all of us but it looks like you still have deep feelings for her.

 

[Jitterbug]

If the break-up was amicable then I'd ship them back to her. If not, burn them.

When I read the thread title, I thought you got some other kind of "gifts" from your ex.

 

[DJArlington]

It's a long and complicated relationship, we've been on and off for years for various reasons. I do want to commit to her but my family hates her guts and they'll pretty much go nuts if get back together with her (but honestly that's the least of my concerns); additionally, I've had doubts about her because she kept in touch with ex-boyfriends but looking back may be i overreacted. i don't know what's going on anymore. she the type of person who keeps in touch with everyone that was in her life, including ex's so it always put me in a weird position. when we started dating, she flew cross country to say goodbye to one of the guys she previously dated before me, but then she and this guy sometimes email each other - it's all innocent stuff in the emails (i've seen them) - but it bugs me that they are still in touch. i come from the attitude that an ex is an ex, don't stay in touch what's the freaking point. shoot me now.

 

[womann]

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