Ex-Girlfriend/Friend with benefits situation

[JimmyBizzle]

Alright, so my ex-GF broke up with me about 3 months ago cause she didn't want to be in a serious relationship anymore.

Normally, I would've cut all contact and gone completely off the radar to make her miss me, etc., but I haven't been able to do this because we have the same circle of friends and the house I live in with a friend of my mine is a big party house that all of our friends, including her, hang out at almost every weekend.

I've hooked up with her several times since we broke up, but she still tells me that she just wants to be "friends", despite the fact that she says she still has feelings for me and I know she likes me. I'm not stupid or new to the game, and I know she just wants to keep her options open to see if there's something better out there. And don't worry about my mindset either. I know I am the sh!t, I know I'm the prize, and I know any chick would be LUCKY just to have a CHANCE to be with me. I have no problem getting girls AT ALL, which brings me to my problem...

The dilemma is that I find it hard at times to hook up with or bring home other girls on the weekends cause she is always there partying and yet I'm still trying to game her at the same time. She always flirts with other guys in front of me, definitely trying to make me jealous I'm sure, but I think I'm just too nice deep down and I have a hard time doing this to her, cause deep down I do still care about her.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation, and if so, what did you do and how did you act? Or even if you haven't been in this situation before, what would you do if you were me?

 

[mahoney]

ive had this with a number of girls, most girls i end up with are kind of connected through other people and some i see the whole time for same reasons you say

the subtext im reading is that you still like her, right? im not sure what the dilemma is in regard to bringing back other girls if she is there - why is this a problem? this should be a good thing, no? and - altho i dont really think you should be focusing on gaming this particular girl, isn't bringing back other girls a form of gaming her.

i actually dont think she's trying to make you jealous particularly (partly because she broke up with you rather than other way round). in my experience when having finished with a girl who then remains in the friendship circle and you still see a lot of, they dont try make you jealous (you just think they do because its awkward transitioning away from being in a relationship with them and you are still quite focused on stuff so a bit more sensitive to it)

it also sounds (and this has happened to me most times) that she is being straight up with you rather than gaming you in any way - i think shes being honest with you, she doesnt want a relationship, but she still likes you and wants to keep you as a friend, but she also has feelings enough to want to hook up - in other words her feelings are kind of somewhere inbetween friendship and relationship, with elements of both

unless you are majorly hung up and in danger of getting weird abut this i would continue as you are, can be on really good terms with her as friends, have sex with her on occasion, but be able to bring other girls back to. as long as you are normal with her and don't act weird this can be a pretty good thing imo

 

[5string]

Game another chick and have her sleep over. Make sure the ex is aware of it.

You are being mindfvcked by estrogen.

 

[sinnerman]

i think its best to keep emotions away in this situation. my last gf broke up with me last june but we were still having a good time every other month though not being officially together..i let her contact me all the time made sure i dont come off as wussy and kept my game up but still deep down this gal meant the world to me and once in a while i would slip and call her about not caring enough about us and so on. id suggest get your emotions out of the way even if she does nice things for you. after that if you want to have fun then sure go ahead but dont have any expectations from her.

 

[JimmyBizzle]

Damn I freaking love this site. I took all of your advice, immediately followed it and had awesome results!!!

I've completely removed my emotions from all this and it has done wonders. I immediately started playing it really cool and things changed so quickly.

This past weekend she asked me to go with her and her girlfriend to a lingerie party at this dance club to be their "bodyguard". That turned into a ****ing awesome time of bumping and grinding all night with her and her friend wearing lingerie.

The next night her and I went out again and I ended up bringing her home and banging her.

Playing it totally cool is what led to all this. Now, I'm totally happy with how things are and it is a very decent fwb situation fo sho!

 

[soulforge]

i think its best to keep emotions away in this situation. my last gf broke up with me last june but we were still having a good time every other month though not being officially together..i let her contact me all the time made sure i dont come off as wussy and kept my game up but still deep down this gal meant the world to me and once in a while i would slip and call her about not caring enough about us and so on. id suggest get your emotions out of the way even if she does nice things for you. after that if you want to have fun then sure go ahead but dont have any expectations from her.

Your holding onto something that is already dead.. prepare to have your heart ripped out.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Watch her start banging guys in front of you next and in her mind thinking it's totaly cool, while you go and lock yourself at home and cry for months, always be real with your emotions.. if your the least bit hurt over her, GTFO or that chit turns into a raging inferno of fist fvcking hell.

Then again if you legit don't care about her encourage her to bang her heart out.

 

[dude99]

Alright, so my ex-GF broke up with me about 3 months ago cause she didn't want to be in a serious relationship anymore.

Normally, I would've cut all contact and gone completely off the radar to make her miss me, etc., but I haven't been able to do this because we have the same circle of friends and the house I live in with a friend of my mine is a big party house that all of our friends, including her, hang out at almost every weekend.

I've hooked up with her several times since we broke up, but she still tells me that she just wants to be "friends", despite the fact that she says she still has feelings for me and I know she likes me. I'm not stupid or new to the game, and I know she just wants to keep her options open to see if there's something better out there. And don't worry about my mindset either. I know I am the sh!t, I know I'm the prize, and I know any chick would be LUCKY just to have a CHANCE to be with me. I have no problem getting girls AT ALL, which brings me to my problem...

The dilemma is that I find it hard at times to hook up with or bring home other girls on the weekends cause she is always there partying and yet I'm still trying to game her at the same time. She always flirts with other guys in front of me, definitely trying to make me jealous I'm sure, but I think I'm just too nice deep down and I have a hard time doing this to her, cause deep down I do still care about her.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation, and if so, what did you do and how did you act? Or even if you haven't been in this situation before, what would you do if you were me?

Date other women. Make her 10th 11th or 50th on your priority list.

The instant anotherguy who she has high enough interest in , comes along she won't be flirting with/sleepingg with you anymore so why are you worrying about her so much?

Meet new women. Date new women. Next..who cares what this one does or doesn't do anymore

 

[El Payaso]

This is from six years ago...