Ex girfriend - OMG

[Wysiwyg]

My ideas are a little confused yet, but i'll try to write here. Here's what's happening:

Two months ago my girlfriend dumped me, mostly because i was the "nice guy" and she lost respect for me. For one month i was into her, called her, asked "oh, let's get together". We were together day yes, day no, we even had sex a couple of weeks ago. I asked her back, she said she didn't want it - she did love me, but she wanted "to be alone for a while" and see how things work. We cryed a lot in this meantime. She asked me to be her friend.

Days ago i talked to her friend, and told my story. The advice was simple: Don't talk to her, stay away from her. And i did.

Today i found my ex and had a serious conversation: i want you badly, that's why i can't be your friend. I'm tired of suffering for you so, if you don't want me back, i don't see why to hang around together anymore.

A couple of hours ago we were together and she said: let's stay together.



In my mind i was like "HOLY SH!T WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE?!?". She said no no no and, sundelly, yes. I really wasn't expecting that anymore. I said "think about it. I'll ask you again tomorrow and, if you really want me, say it". So here i am thinking what to do about it. I really want this girl back. If she says no, i'll say "have a nice day" and walk away. If she says yes i'll give another shot.

What you guys think about this creepy situation?

 

[ThugLove]

I say you tap that ass, she would make a great fbuddy

 

[DJ Jr.]

Theres only one thing you need to know to be a DJ be a frickin man and not a wuss!

 

[NewMan]

If you want her go for her - but dump her fast should there be any sh#t.

 

[sAxyguy83]

Backing off was the right move. A lot of the time a chick will be unresponsive until you give her some breathing room, then she'll realize how much she likes you and she'll come after you. One thing, though - if she does decide she doesn't want to keep things going, then break it off. NO more romance talk unless she brings it up.

 

[stormwriter]

Dude, you lucked out that time. Sometimes you dont get a second chance.

If she does come back, STOP THE FRICKIN CRYING AND "SERIOUS" TALKS!!

The crying and being a wuss is what got you dumped, so if you do it again, YOU WILL BE DUMPED.

You better start DJing her from now on, and as Alice Cooper says, "No More, Mr. Nice Guy!!"

Even when you think, "ok, she wants to be with me. We are going to be a couple, so i can stop this DJ stuff, and be soft and sweet and loveable!!"

Umm... NO. Just remember, you saw how she reacted to you being too damn nice and wimpy.

Start being manly, and this chick will notice, and she will respond. Gerrronteed!!!

 

[TesuqueRed]

You see that flip (no no no suddenly yes..) when the guy they were working on didn't work out. So they return to you. I have no clue if that is the situation here, but that's one possible explanation.

3 posts, guy--have you read the bible and got some of the basics down? You assessed why she dumped you in the first place pretty well--how far along are you in understanding this stuff?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by TesuqueRed
You see that flip (no no no suddenly yes..) when the guy they were working on didn't work out. So they return to you. I have no clue if that is the situation here, but that's one possible explanation.

3 posts, guy--have you read the bible and got some of the basics down? You assessed why she dumped you in the first place pretty well--how far along are you in understanding this stuff?

Good advice, one more thing to consider; since you now know the ways of a DJ, can you do better than her????

 

[Wysiwyg]

Thanks for all the responses. I've been through sosuave.com for a couple of months and practiced a little the concepts - especially the kino and the body language, the ones i was really bad. Got a lot of good responses with that, and i feel more confident than before. But i know i need to study a lot more.

And yeah, the crying and being a wuss was a really bad move. I need to learn how to control myself and to "be a man". But all that desperation seems to be gone, that's why i want to try again with her. If i can do better? Yes, i think so. Just need more practice to de DJ powers.

 

[Wysiwyg]

Just an update for you guys. We're back together. I like this, but i'm really afraid that the "nice guy" returns. I will kill this beast inside me but i need some advice. There's a lot of stuff about getting a girl, but what about keeping the one? I've been with her about three years now.

 

[princelydeeds]

In my experience, once a woman gets it in her head that she can manipulate you and get you all sad and crying after a breakup, things tend to only get worse from there. 9 times out of 10 you're gonna end up right back where you started from. There is a chance shes back and everything is cool, but IMHO opinion once they see your total AFC side come out its only a matter of time before they start testing you with wild crazy stuff to see it come out again. When her friend says leave her alone and move on its probably best to follow that advice. Sounds like the friend was saying, without saying directly, that something is up that you may not know about. Try to move on, find someone else, It sounds like the roles will revers in your relationship permanently. You will do the chasing/ following and she will do the leading.

 

[Wysiwyg]

Originally posted by princelydeeds
In my experience, once a woman gets it in her head that she can manipulate you and get you all sad and crying after a breakup, things tend to only get worse from there. 9 times out of 10 you're gonna end up right back where you started from. There is a chance shes back and everything is cool, but IMHO opinion once they see your total AFC side come out its only a matter of time before they start testing you with wild crazy stuff to see it come out again. When her friend says leave her alone and move on its probably best to follow that advice. Sounds like the friend was saying, without saying directly, that something is up that you may not know about. Try to move on, find someone else, It sounds like the roles will revers in your relationship permanently. You will do the chasing/ following and she will do the leading.

That bad, huh? Well, what i want is to kill the AFC and put her in the right place. As i said, i really like her and i want to make the effort.

"Sounds like the friend was saying, without saying directly, that something is up that you may not know about." - I didn't understand it, what do you mean?

 

[nix]

dude if theres one thing I know is chicks like a nice guy to a degree, be a smartass, be funny and yes even an -hole. Why? Because they know they wont get away with playing games...be straight up and don't get punked. I know at first it's gonna seem hard but in time in will come natural to you.

 

[Gold Heart]

Today i found my ex and had a serious conversation: i want you badly, that's why i can't be your friend. I'm tired of suffering for you so, if you don't want me back, i don't see why to hang around together anymore.

A couple of hours ago we were together and she said: let's stay together.

Notice that when you were a man, stated what you wanted (her) and then said if she doesn't want you back, there's no point in hanging around together, which unconciously stated that you want her, but do not NEED her. You probably did not notice it but that's what happened. She thought about it, and then got panicky, knowing that you're not her little b-tch, and now she wants to stick.

I say make her a f-ck buddy. But do what YOU want. And always be a man. Don't cry to her. They say it's sweet or they say "I like a guy who's emotional" but there might even be a possibility that she's saying "Oh brother, ANOTHER overly-sensitive 'man'."

Good luck in what you do.

 

[Wysiwyg]

Nice, thanks. Any more tips for a girl that already know you?

 

[seulaxplaya]

I would suggest just next the girl because there is so many fish in the sea and you can find a new piece of ass right around the corner. forget about her. speaking from experience