ex gf - probs - want to tell her to stop being a slvt

[Mr.Fantastic]

So i am good friends with an ex of mine

she has just told me she has got dumped by yet another bf

she gets dummped a lot

she wants kids by age 26 and she is 22 yrs old

she makes this obvious.

she is blonde hair - big tits, big ass - dippy personaliy and flaunts her physical assets.


she continues to look for a meaningful relationship - despite dressing like and acting like a blonde bimbo- she meets most of her guys in clubs.

she is looking for a long term relationship and most importantly - KIDS - but she cannot find it.



I really want to tell her that bleach blonde hair and exposed cleavage suggest to blokes an easy lay and no long term commitments, but should i tell her this?

I mean when we are sarging, - if we see a blonde with big tits and a dippy personality it is only natural to think 'she is well up for a ****, no ltr here, i'll have a one night stand'

i know a lot of guys think like this.

thing is...should i tell her this?

will it break her heart?

would it help her to know this? stop her fvcking more *******s?

 

[jigga23]

Why the fvck do you wanna help her find another man? Seems like you wanna be her knight in shining armour and get her back.
shes an attention wh0re no doubt about it. Yea shell get married one day and have kids but the chances of a divorce are like 99%. Unless she changes her ways. Why do you care? Let her do her own sh1t and let her fvck up so she can learn. I dated two girls like her, big t1ts bubbly personality, flaunting sh1t, going after chumps etc. Talking about wanting kids by about the same age. They want that sh1t so they dont have to work and have some chump do all the hard work so they can freeload cause thats what they have been doing there whole life with AFCs. There is no use tellin her sh1t cause shes young and immature maybe when she gets older or catches some std shell learn. But seriously she already knows how she is. You say sh1t to her she will resent you dude and or get very upset.

 

[KontrollerX]

Let her learn on her own.

No sense in you giving her proper advice and her getting angry at you for it or her actually following it at which point you will of enabled her to trap a guy for her marriage and child agenda ruining his life in the process.

 

[jafyk]

KontrollerX, is it that you don't believe in marriage or you feel men were not meant to marry? The girl talked about above seems to have been learning somethings already (getting dumped a lot) If mr.Fantastic doesn't want to be with her what does it hurt to offer one advise? So, what if she resents him is it gonna kill him besides you guys always say to next the girl and not give a damn. Bottom line if it came down to this all he has to do is next her right?

 

[jafyk]

Oh, one more thing KontrollerX, does it also mean that men who get married are AFCs because from the notion I sense from some guys in this forum; I get the impression that if a man wasn't AFC then he wouldn't have been tricked into getting married.

 

[DJDamage]

The girl talked about above seems to have been learning somethings already (getting dumped a lot).

That girl has not learned sh1t.

If she really wanted a meaningful relationship as she claims, there are no shortage of AFC's out there willing to play husband since day 1. This girl is attracted to guys who are considered "badboys" and she loves it ( AFC's hardly ever dump girls even during bad relationships due to lack of other options so they hang onto their g/f's for dear life).

Also she is playing the victim role to perfection and you and Mr. Fantastic are falling for it and buying it. Why if she was such a good catch is she getting dumped all the time? in every situation the guy is different but guess who the common denominator is ?? ITS HER!!

If mr.Fantastic doesn't want to be with her what does it hurt to offer one advise?

His advice will fall on death ears. He is wasting his time. He should really not get involve with business that is not a concern to him.

 

[KontrollerX]

KontrollerX, is it that you don't believe in marriage or you feel men were not meant to marry? The girl talked about above seems to have been learning somethings already (getting dumped a lot) If mr.Fantastic doesn't want to be with her what does it hurt to offer one advise? So, what if she resents him is it gonna kill him besides you guys always say to next the girl and not give a damn. Bottom line if it came down to this all he has to do is next her right?

I'm with Tom Leykis about marriage.

In our modern world and times all marriage is, is an unstable business partnership, its basically a piece of paper that is you handing over half of your life savings to a woman if things go wrong. Also prenups depending on what state you live in are not necessarily air tight.

If a guy and a girl love eachother that should be enough, they could just continue to see eachother, they don't need to sign a piece of paper to make anything official.

As for marriage making guys AFC's I don't necessarily think that.

For example if you do a lot of heavy duty screening the woman out for red flags, know exactly what you want and do not settle and have a solid frame moving forward that you are extremely confident in yourself to keep up for the rest of your life with her than sure go for it but I still think its completely unncessary to go get a piece of paper that not only sets you up to be robbed but is completely unnecessary if you and the girl love eachother.

Anyway its kind of late and I may of fvcked up my answer a bit as a result but yeah if you need further explanation just start listening to the Tom Leykis show as he has free online podcasts where he brings the marriage issue and his beliefs on it up time and again.

Basically the main point Tom brings home is that women have far too much power surrounding marriage and any kids you have with them which makes getting married from a man's perspective insane.

I'm sure if the laws were changed to be much more fair to both sexes Tom would think better of it but as it stands now getting married is a much huger risk for a man than it will ever be for any woman.

If you are a DJ with the marriage bug I strongly advise you to read Rollo Tomassi's posts and follow his example and do all the DJ stuff he does to stay the man of the household and respected in his wife's eyes.

You have to control the frame of the marriage as a man or you are done for. Your wife wants a leader and someone who knows what he wants in life not someone that has no backbone and gives in to her marriage demands just because you think momentarily it will net you more poon from her.

That kind of lust based foolish mentality is all too common of AFC's who get hitched and ruin their lives.

You need to be a DJ, a real man with strong unshakeable inner game before you can even contemplate getting into the marriage business partnership on a sane level that in other words means it will possibly turn out to be beneficial to yourself due to your learned DJ judgement.

 

[Prodigy746]

You can tell anything to anyone if you say it right!

 

[Jitterbug]

The real question is: why do you care? So what if she's pissing her life away banging random club dudes while looking for marriage?

 

[betterthandead]

sure you are still friends with your ex and I bet you still want to be her boyfriend.

call it quits.

 

[Alexander the Great]

I can't help but also feeling that you still have a longing for her to be exclusively with you again. Simply because that's often the reason for men to feel like this about their exes.

What you want to do (criticise her) is more apropriate among friends. And only good ones at that. I don't know what your relationship with this woman is like right now in detail, but unless you're good friends, she's just going to see it as criticism to be taken as jealousy. And even if she is a friend she will, just because she's also an ex.

As the bible says: You can't be friends with women you want to have sex with. Move on and leave them be.

Do some soul-searching as to what your feelings and desires for this woman are, and then make a descision: move on right now, or risk confronting her and getting into a fight or being dumped a second time (provided she broke up with you, which I kind of feel she did. Did she?)

Let this woman learn her lessons on her own. She'll probably not take them from you.

I know its hard to just move on... in that case, allow yourself to suffer, for it'll not make it easier but it will make it more clear that moving on is the way.

Good luck to you.

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

Ok, so most of you seem to be saying 'let her learn for herself, leave her be'. Seems like ok advice.

In actuality I was the one that effectively broke it off with her. I decided that as she has a family history of autism and numerous other health deficiencies she may not be the best woman to have children with. I reluctantly made this decision to stop dating her even though I very much like her as a person.

She still has strong feelings for me - says we were her best relationship and she still thinks I am 'the one'. - Although a large part of me thinks this is down to me being a decent man towards her and staying with her for almost a year (seems to be quite a long relationship for her). I think because she wants kids so bad she is a little desperate to find a good man to have them with.

She scares me a bit because she has suggested that she might have kids 'with or without a man around'.

I just worry about her, probably shouldn't, probably should just say 'shes me ex - let her do as she will'. But she really is a good person, just very insecure.

I think that if i didn't know anything about game then I might well be one of these chumps that stays with such a girl because they believe they can't get anything better. She is very good looking and you feel like a pimp taking her out, but without game I would never have chatted her up or kept her in the first place - so I know I can do better.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I can't talk to any of my exes. Once it's over, it's over. I fought for one a little bit, then said fvck it and wont ever talk to her again. If she comes over looking for stuff like some of her bathing suits, I'm simply putting everything in a bag so she can't come over, take a bathing suit top, and then say "I forgot the bottoms!" and have a reason to come back for more. She's a stupid b!tch.

You have to understand, if a girl is your ex, she's not worth talking to. That means she was once lucky enough to be with you, and yet she threw it away. How dumb is a girl that does that? Very.

Then you get this whole "I am here for you now" sh!t, like when a girl writes you an e-mail out of nowhere saying "Me and my boyfriend didn't work out, and I haven't stopped thinking about you!" If it's over, it's over. Unless you feel some sort of destiny and you have gravitated back towards each other even though you both just got done banging half of the countries white pages, then it's over.

Just my opinion.

 

[DonGorgon]

You cant save a ho or a slvt for that matter... So dont waste time trying just go get yourself some hos and slvts to have fun with...

 

[Mavrick]

Just give me her name and number. I'll take care of it.

 

[Telos]

Dresses provocatively and searches for love in nightclubs? Big tits and big ass? Sounds like a pudgy insecure AW b*tch. It's always the slightly bigger AWs that have huge princess ego complexes too. Yuck. I hope she gets a disease.

 

[Warrior74]

She scares me a bit because she has suggested that she might have kids 'with or without a man around'.

This shows you still care about her. Nothing wrong with caring. But you can only lead horses to water. You act as if she doesn't know what she's doing. As if you have to save her from her self or coach her into doing the right thing. Stop it. She knows the deal. She knows what kind of man she wants and she's trying her best to lock that type of man down.

Stop listening to her words and look at her actions. They will give you her true motives. Women say alot of things because they try to spin your perception of them.

 

[Desdinova]

In actuality I was the one that effectively broke it off with her.

...and obviously you didn't fvcking mean it because you're keeping her around. If you're going to cut contact with an ex, fvcking do it and move on with your life. There's no reason for you to be carrying her baggage.

I just worry about her, probably shouldn't, probably should just say 'shes me ex - let her do as she will'. But she really is a good person, just very insecure.

If you enjoy helping people, maybe you should do some volunteer work instead of helping a self-destructive woman. You're not going to save her no matter what you do or say. If she has no self-respect, you cannot force her to have any.

 

[jmchavz]

Mr. Fantastic sounds more like an AFC than a DJ round heyaaaa.....

youre confused by this babe T&A showing all the way dude, chick dig sex thast why she hoes i mean goes to the clubs lokkin like that!!! and the marrige and kids Sh!t is just a smoke screen so she wont look bad while ho-ing @ da clubs!!!

Wake up!

Spin some plates

get some digits

Live life

and dont try to save what doesnt want to be saved

 

[jmchavz]

Ohh and dude... we all KNOW that you DIDNT break it off with her first... Remeber, women always leave first....