Ex contacted me today about missed period.

[CaptFinnBad]

Cluster B disorder, we have all been there. I developed a cortisol disorder just from working for one lol

What do you mean by cluster B?

 

[bat soup]

She broke up this month.

Basically get a text today, "i've not had my period this month".
Says she going to do a pregnancy test and she's not worried. Thinks it's her coil blocking her period (it does happen, my ex before her never had periods due to her coil).

Then not said much about it and has tried to be chatty with me via text since.


Thoughts....

Definitely don't want a baby with this women.

What's she playing at, she should have done a pregnancy test a week or so ago.

I always knew the rough dates she was due, she was due the day she ended the relationship a few weeks back.

Wouldn't getting a test be a priority FFS!

Tell her that if she gets an early morning appointment at the abortion clinic, afterwards you can both go to McDonalds and order the EggMcmuffin.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The test was negative. She told me she was doing a test 2pm yesterday.

Ignored my message around 7pm last night and 9am this morning asking if she's done the test.

Got back today at 11am saying it's negative. Not got back to me because she got a new slow cooker and has been busy cooking.

What the actual ****.

Damn, the b!tch is openly mocking you. Seriously fvcked up but I have to ask: is there something about your own demeanour that makes her think she can fvck with you like that?

 

[Alvafe]

and is why I tell you guys to wrap your little dude up, if a woman tried that to me I would just say, then go after the loser you get preggo from, i'm sure its not mine.

but all in all, i'm for the covert way of doing things, if you are not sure you can't tell her the get a dna test, if its not your she will do everything in her power to blame you for it, and she will push for the law on you, if its your you kinda poisoned the well and then it will be a battle with her for everything. so play the dad for 9 months and then do a covert dna test with the child, hell even say you are afraid of the history of traded child and stolen kids so just to be sure the kid is from both, do a paternity test, since she is kinda tired already and don't need to get this done, you go as a way to give support. and see how she fight against it, the fiercely she does, more likely you will need for the covert, that is after the kid is born, so worse case you will need to tolerate the woman for 9 months.

and yes I always work on worse case scenario, and being sly is a nice way to keep you healthy

also for this case he sure dodge a bullet, understand guys the worse thing for a woman is you nuking her ego, so moving on fast, dating one of her friends, looking like you are happier now then with her, is all ways to make her feel bad, so for some reason she belives its her right for revenge and will **** you up with something, prego scares are the most used, since most guys are idiots and trust woman, other way is the std scare, and to prevent she looking like a slut she will blame you too, so the default answers from a text from a ex is ok or not answer at all, that will nuke her even more

 

[Mike32ct]

She cruelly played with your emotions by leaving you in suspense about the pregnancy test results.

And as other posters alluded to, this might have been some kind of “test” or “dry run” because she’s seriously considering getting pregnant for real next time.

This is your final chance to eject.

 

[Atom Smasher]

She cruelly played with your emotions by leaving you in suspense about the pregnancy test results.

And as other posters alluded to, this might have been some kind of “test” or “dry run” because she’s seriously considering getting pregnant for real next time.

This is your final chance to eject.

And if he were to confront her about that, she would absolutely be taken aback and believe that she did no such thing. This is how utterly delusional women have become.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Damn, the b!tch is openly mocking you. Seriously fvcked up but I have to ask: is there something about your own demeanour that makes her think she can fvck with you like that?

No man. She tends to get inside your head, you deeply connect fall in love and that what she uses against you.

She's always been with strong men (usually battle hardened soldiers) each one she has story about.

One was particularly abusive and evil.

The rest I think lost their minds on her. I think it's all she knows.

I know everyone thinks I wouldn't let a women do this too me. I'd never get let a women do this to me.

I never thought I'd be in this situation myself, but here I am .

Like I said she's highly intelligent and a master at what she does.

 

[DonJuanjr]

"Thank God! You'd make a horrible mother!"

 

[CaptFinnBad]

"Thank God! You'd make a horrible mother!"

Yeah I don't want to go down that path. Fighting with her,making her feel bad or one upping her, Isn't going to achieve or change anything.

Unfortunately her dark past (right from early childhood) has caused her to be this way.

I do pity her because I genuinely believe she wants a healthy relationship. She just isn't capable of it and I don't think that will ever change.

It's sad.

Unlimitely all I can do is walk away and not look back.

 

[bat soup]

Wear a condom next time.

 

[B80]

A decent, rational person would have done the tests before dragging others in and causing unnecessary stress/anxiety for others unnecessarily.

 

[Mike32ct]

A decent, rational person would have done the tests before dragging others in and causing unnecessary stress/anxiety for others unnecessarily.

Yeah my first gf did that. She was late once, so she tested without even telling me. (The results were negative.) Subsequently, she said “I wanted to find out for sure first rather than worry you.”

I thought that was very considerate of her. She earned big points from that.

 

[RickPound]

It was definitely fake. Either she wasn’t late at all or she was a few days late and that’s where she got the idea as a way to mess with you. This happened to me and I think it’s a tactic used by Cluster B after they dump you when you don’t beg and it looks like you’re moving on. They need something big to reach back out with to soothe their own rejection anxiety and guilt and to test if you really care. This will happen more and more until you’re worn down. If you hold on to any of your self respect you will stop playing along with the push/pull. She’ll leave again and then when you let her go it just proves that you never loved them - even though it’s their own behavior that made it happen.

Abandonment Reenactment.

@CaptFinnBad if you wanna chat about these dangerous women PM me. I’ve been going through it and researching a lot over the last year and a half.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

Been missing her like **** today. I've not contacted her or anything or don't intend too.