WalkingStick
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 12, 2008
- Messages
- 200
- Reaction score
- 4
So this girl and I broke up a little over a month ago. Things had gone downhill because I started being a little AFC chump.
Since then, I have not initiated contact, although I've been friendly toward her and teased her enough to let her know that I wasnt devastated by the breakup.
She's been hanging around me more and more, and this week, she tells me that she "wants me" and she starts flirting with me. (piggy back rides, back rubs, sexual jokes, giving me eyes). And I go along with it.
Then it gets complicated. Other people see this and spread rumors that she is a slut because she's supposedly been leading on this other guy. I KNOW she does not like this guy and he is just her chumpy friend. I'm not worried about it.
Being branded as a slut, she suddenly backs off. I go straight to her and ask her what the **** is going on, and tell her that I can't do this back and forth hot and cold thing . She tells me she loves me as a person and wants me in her life forever AND is attracted to me, but that we need to keep the attraction to ourselves for now. She said she wanted things to be just like they were before she said she wanted me. I also gave up some ground and told her I was attracted to her again and was disappointed that nothing ended up happening
She also mentions that she didnt mean to lead me on to think an official relationship was going to happen. This is something we had discussed before as we were both going on to college soon.
One thing I know is that I will not be a chump with this girl again. I've had time to myself and worked out my problems. I feel like trying to start things off again with a few dates loaded with sexual tension and then prove to her I'm not a b*tch anymore.
Is there any chance things with this girl can go back to a SOLID, LOVING, EXCLUSIVE relationship? If not, I will continue my process of moving on.
Since then, I have not initiated contact, although I've been friendly toward her and teased her enough to let her know that I wasnt devastated by the breakup.
She's been hanging around me more and more, and this week, she tells me that she "wants me" and she starts flirting with me. (piggy back rides, back rubs, sexual jokes, giving me eyes). And I go along with it.
Then it gets complicated. Other people see this and spread rumors that she is a slut because she's supposedly been leading on this other guy. I KNOW she does not like this guy and he is just her chumpy friend. I'm not worried about it.
Being branded as a slut, she suddenly backs off. I go straight to her and ask her what the **** is going on, and tell her that I can't do this back and forth hot and cold thing . She tells me she loves me as a person and wants me in her life forever AND is attracted to me, but that we need to keep the attraction to ourselves for now. She said she wanted things to be just like they were before she said she wanted me. I also gave up some ground and told her I was attracted to her again and was disappointed that nothing ended up happening
She also mentions that she didnt mean to lead me on to think an official relationship was going to happen. This is something we had discussed before as we were both going on to college soon.
One thing I know is that I will not be a chump with this girl again. I've had time to myself and worked out my problems. I feel like trying to start things off again with a few dates loaded with sexual tension and then prove to her I'm not a b*tch anymore.
Is there any chance things with this girl can go back to a SOLID, LOVING, EXCLUSIVE relationship? If not, I will continue my process of moving on.