Hi all,
Long time lurker, first time poster. As the post suggests, I need a little bit of advice on how to handle an ex boyfriend who I can see is sending snaps to my current girlfriend of 6 months. She lives in London (as do I) and he lives back in Manchester where he is from, so there is no immediate danger of them meeting up without my knowledge. Generally I don’t have a massive issue with her speaking to other boys or her other ex boyfriend as I am quite secure, but I do know, and she has mentioned, that she took a long time to get over him and she “hates” him as he had cheated on her a while back- so in other words he burned her to an extent. As far as I know she was single for over a year before she met me but said she never really got over him until she had met me. When she told me of his profile and how much she resents him, I have obviously took note of him, but never really said anything more about it at that stage.
Move on a few months and I just seen on her phone that he had sent her a snapchat when we were looking at her phone in bed last Sunday morning- I immediately asked her what was up and she just said that he snapped her a couple of pictures of him in the office and she had never replied (you can see the difference in snapchat history between a message received vs a message sent). This was last week and then I just checked her phone this morning when she was in the shower (lame I know but if I see foul play shes done as I have zero tolerance policy) and seen that he has sent her more, either yday or the day before which she had opened ( no evidence yet of her replying).
How am I to handle this? I don’t want to seem insecure etc and overly jealous for no reason, and normally I wouldn’t be but I do know this guy has a big impact on her life this time last year. Do I just keep quiet and try to assess the situation over the next few weeks to see if she has replied to him.
It’s an awkward one in terms of not appearing controlling, not being played for a fool, or being weary of an ex who she had trouble getting over. I kind of want to be in a situation where I see her phone with her there without appearing like I am being sneaky and then just tell her in no uncertain terms that if she doesn’t tell him to “f-off” shes getting the chop.
Thanks!
Long time lurker, first time poster. As the post suggests, I need a little bit of advice on how to handle an ex boyfriend who I can see is sending snaps to my current girlfriend of 6 months. She lives in London (as do I) and he lives back in Manchester where he is from, so there is no immediate danger of them meeting up without my knowledge. Generally I don’t have a massive issue with her speaking to other boys or her other ex boyfriend as I am quite secure, but I do know, and she has mentioned, that she took a long time to get over him and she “hates” him as he had cheated on her a while back- so in other words he burned her to an extent. As far as I know she was single for over a year before she met me but said she never really got over him until she had met me. When she told me of his profile and how much she resents him, I have obviously took note of him, but never really said anything more about it at that stage.
Move on a few months and I just seen on her phone that he had sent her a snapchat when we were looking at her phone in bed last Sunday morning- I immediately asked her what was up and she just said that he snapped her a couple of pictures of him in the office and she had never replied (you can see the difference in snapchat history between a message received vs a message sent). This was last week and then I just checked her phone this morning when she was in the shower (lame I know but if I see foul play shes done as I have zero tolerance policy) and seen that he has sent her more, either yday or the day before which she had opened ( no evidence yet of her replying).
How am I to handle this? I don’t want to seem insecure etc and overly jealous for no reason, and normally I wouldn’t be but I do know this guy has a big impact on her life this time last year. Do I just keep quiet and try to assess the situation over the next few weeks to see if she has replied to him.
It’s an awkward one in terms of not appearing controlling, not being played for a fool, or being weary of an ex who she had trouble getting over. I kind of want to be in a situation where I see her phone with her there without appearing like I am being sneaky and then just tell her in no uncertain terms that if she doesn’t tell him to “f-off” shes getting the chop.
Thanks!
