Ex asking to get married? Is this BPD?
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European-DJ
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Sviiit...
INSTANT-'restraining order'!!!
Atleast 100 yards!
INSTANT-'restraining order'!!!
Atleast 100 yards!
HariPoter13
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thisr0cky said:
I probably would if she didn't f**k some guy in my class for half a year. His weird face is not something I want to think about. SHe is still after me though, and has been for a few months. i am wearing down.r0cky said:
I texted her to test if she just wanted to have sex and thats it. She says, "oh too lat,e I just got married, lol. "
I say, oh damn I wish I coulda warned the guy first, then she calls twice and texts and I dont answer.
I go out and hit on a ton of girls, one of my wingmen always wears a cowboy hat to 'peacock' and I feel like i'd rather take her **** than hang with a quiet little guy wearing a cowboy hat
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Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I was kinda joking actually. This guy wears a cowboy hat and tells me to hold my drink under my waist and his opening line is the "jealous girlfriend" opener. The only time he talks normally is when things are going well for me cause i'm in a convo with a chick, and his normal talk sucks. I have a team of wingmen that all suck actually and it hurts. So yeah, you are right that I should make other friends.sexysuave said:
Johnnyventana
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Dude, post your same story to bpdfamily.com in the newbie section. And then read and read. You'll learn why you are so drawn to her even given all her nonsense, and nonsense you would not put up with from anyone else.
The advice here of RUN is the right advice. As you know though, that isn't as easy as you would like. Find out why, and that will help some.
Oh, and be afraid. Very afraid.
The advice here of RUN is the right advice. As you know though, that isn't as easy as you would like. Find out why, and that will help some.
Oh, and be afraid. Very afraid.
TopGun2000
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damn, she doesn't love you at all, not even a little. that's why she gave you all the s**t.
and you are still thinking of marrying her, where are your balls
and you are still thinking of marrying her, where are your balls
Thundernuts
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Listen mantis. I was with a bipolar chick for about eight months she had a kid when she was seventeen. We broke up and after a couple of months of her sleeping with any guy who wanted her i started messing around with her again. We were talking about getting back together, she started buying me things(something she NEVER did) calling and txting me, and still came by and gave me some. The red flags were how everything she told me didnt add up and she was wanting me to move in with her into an apartment she didnt have.
Bipolars want someone to look after them but someone they can control and swing back and forth to. Being with her meant putting up with that **** and i said no. A month later she got engaged and is gonna get married in a few months and i feel bad for the guy cuz he doesn't know her at all.
Only thing that can come from u being with her is the same **** thats going on right now. If u actually do marry her you will still have the same problems except if she leaves she has a right to take half ur stuff and the only thing u will have left is 1 implant.
Just get out now. It always sucks leaving someone youve been with awhile even if they are absolutely nuts.
Remember, the definition of insanity is to repeat the same process over and over and expect a different result.
Bipolars want someone to look after them but someone they can control and swing back and forth to. Being with her meant putting up with that **** and i said no. A month later she got engaged and is gonna get married in a few months and i feel bad for the guy cuz he doesn't know her at all.
Only thing that can come from u being with her is the same **** thats going on right now. If u actually do marry her you will still have the same problems except if she leaves she has a right to take half ur stuff and the only thing u will have left is 1 implant.
Just get out now. It always sucks leaving someone youve been with awhile even if they are absolutely nuts.
Remember, the definition of insanity is to repeat the same process over and over and expect a different result.
I did cut contact, had like 4 one night stands, and hooked up with her sister to try to get revenge. I dont think I could get over that and still think about it and am pissed.Zodiac said:
i dont know where my pride is, when I was ignoring her and feeling good about moving on, that made her come after me even harder.
Yeah, she wants to go to nevada in two weeks to get married and is calling me her husband and talking about a baby and moving in together, etc. we spent time together this weekend and it was fun, but today I am back to feeling pretty weird about the whole thing.Thundernuts said:
yeah, you're ex sounds like mine, immediately engaged afterwards even though she talked like i was the only one. I felt so much more sane without her and I'm sure you feel more sane without your ex in the picture.
i ****ed her this weekend and *gulp* came inside her.Alle_Gory said:
I am 31 - my friends who are single are either in jail or completly mind ****ed because of girls and are losers.
My friends who are married or almost married are stable.
This girl is a ****ing weirdo but is hot and has money. I can get some on the side I hope. But if she is BPD or whatever then what, will my life be a living hell in the future when she starts dissapearing and leaving me with a kid at home.
It seems like a lot of girls I have been with and am into have either ****ed someone I know after me (when meeting girl in a social circle).
I dont know, but she wants to go to Nevada and get hitched in two weeks. I said that was okay, but now I feel nervous. WTF like a week ago I was happily single and doing great. I am a lost cause.
Mantis Toboggan
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Cool. Well, no point in coming back here then.Mantis said:
See ya around.
Mantis Toboggan said:
I'm back!
Yeah it seems weird to have to go online to find about getting married, something that is supposed to be special and have no questions about.
to want to marry the guy she broke up with, and whom she did some bad things behind his back - it must be more about control with her. it seems like after she ****ed me over she wouldnt respect me anymore, especially if I keep putting up with her. but she still keeps comign back. probably a sign that she feels she can **** me over again without consequence.
i had wanted to marry her in the past and had talked to her about it before. now that i have moved on, she has asked me 5 or 6 times to marry her. its a difficult situation for me. I told her to get an abortion when we first started going out. And I regretted it later. It has bonded me to her in some dark way. And now I feel I dont want to make another bad decision and am just confused.
i appreciate all the feedback i've gotten, thanks everyone
5string
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Mantis
Why are you still posting about this? You have not, and will not take our advice.
Since you keep putting your hand in the flame, don't say we didnt warn you when you get burned and are permanently damaged.
Let us know the results of her pregnancy test.
Why are you still posting about this? You have not, and will not take our advice.
Since you keep putting your hand in the flame, don't say we didnt warn you when you get burned and are permanently damaged.
Let us know the results of her pregnancy test.
Wow is all I can say. "You're on a highway to hell" - AC/DC
Here's the deal BPD women are like relationship heroin and right now you've relapsed and are going to overdose metaphorically. I've been there and I still struggle at times despite my relationship having been over for a few years. Thankfully each day that I'm not in contact is another day I continue to stay "sober" from her as a drug.
You think things are crazy now just wait until she's cheating on you, getting you arrested for domestic abuse and draining all your cash. (Not all this happened to me but check out the BPDfamily forums and you'll see story after story of insane things happening.)
You're 29 and have a lot to life for, but this is like shooting up heroin and your life expectancy will go way down and you may either end up in a psych ward, or killing yourself.
I know you think I'm not being serious but I am. These women are sirens and they masters of luring you in and then manipulating you via trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement so much so that you'll encounter stockholm Syndrome symptoms and develop PTSD.
Can't beat a sociopath unless you are a psychopath.
Obviously we can't tell you what to do but the hope is that somehow someway the message gets to you before its too late.
Here's the deal BPD women are like relationship heroin and right now you've relapsed and are going to overdose metaphorically. I've been there and I still struggle at times despite my relationship having been over for a few years. Thankfully each day that I'm not in contact is another day I continue to stay "sober" from her as a drug.
You think things are crazy now just wait until she's cheating on you, getting you arrested for domestic abuse and draining all your cash. (Not all this happened to me but check out the BPDfamily forums and you'll see story after story of insane things happening.)
You're 29 and have a lot to life for, but this is like shooting up heroin and your life expectancy will go way down and you may either end up in a psych ward, or killing yourself.
I know you think I'm not being serious but I am. These women are sirens and they masters of luring you in and then manipulating you via trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement so much so that you'll encounter stockholm Syndrome symptoms and develop PTSD.
Can't beat a sociopath unless you are a psychopath.
Obviously we can't tell you what to do but the hope is that somehow someway the message gets to you before its too late.
Its because you have a personality of your own and at the moment she was fixated on you. That's why she latched onto you and because you showed her attention she's just gonna keep on coming back. Also by f'n her sister what did you expect to happen to you? Her to not do anything or try and say two words to you? Sorry to say this but why are you acting like a teenager? This seems so trivial and juvenile to the point I have to think you actually enjoy this drama.Mantis said:
I'm with Sstring on this one; when she gets knocked up have fun raising her kid. You let this happen and you better enjoy it now since its your grave you are living in and you made by sleeping with her after we told you so.
