I got an account here after reading about other's relationships with BPD partners and it helped me understand my situation.
She keeps bugging me about getting married, but only now after I feel I should totally move on. Only after I think I understand how crazy she is.
We were together a year, we met in class, she was 20, I was 29, she had a 6 year old. We had a great relationship it seemed, she had breast implants, was pretty hot, trust fund, etc.
When we were first together, the ex came to her place and demanding to get inside and we had to run away. First red flag. She also introduced me to her family immediately and things went well for a long time. She always talked about marriage and stuff.
We had an abortion and a year later she says another ex of hers had a kid and she got pissed and broke up by text message while I was on vacation. She blamed me for it, and for the break, but I suspect there were other intentions. Only a week before she wrote me many love letters stating how much she loved me and how her life is so much better now. She goes to a movie with some guy in the same class right after our break, some guy she was talking to and makes it seem like they are hanging out.
I see if she wants to get married, but shes not sure and wants to date, I refuse. Then she starts dating someone else in the class behind my back. She gets engaged to him very soon (supposedly because she was distraught and not thinking straight. I got pissed at her for being with him and made her upset by what I said).
Then she tries to break it off with him for a long time, and he cries when she does..finally she ends it, but only after talking to me during that time, probably trying to secure a branch swing to me, like she did with him.
Then she is back and forth and wants to be with me, then wants space, etc. We mess around a few times. Then when I see she wants space again, switching gears suddenly again, I cut off all contact. I hate just being strung along cause she seems to dissapear when she has time on her own.
Now she keeps texting me and calling that she wants to get married and will give me BJ's all the time, etc. She has been contacting me for months now...could we really be happy? I think if we it was going to work, she would just want to see me and not be using me as a phone emotional tampon.
I am still pretty grossed out that she used some other guy in the class like me and now is coming back to me saying it was a mistake to leave. Emotionally its been really rough and the thought of being with her doesnt really excite me anymore. I have to see her in class all the time for the next couple years, which sucks. But is this just another BPD that I need to avoid? Is she just full of ****?
She keeps bugging me about getting married, but only now after I feel I should totally move on. Only after I think I understand how crazy she is.
We were together a year, we met in class, she was 20, I was 29, she had a 6 year old. We had a great relationship it seemed, she had breast implants, was pretty hot, trust fund, etc.
When we were first together, the ex came to her place and demanding to get inside and we had to run away. First red flag. She also introduced me to her family immediately and things went well for a long time. She always talked about marriage and stuff.
We had an abortion and a year later she says another ex of hers had a kid and she got pissed and broke up by text message while I was on vacation. She blamed me for it, and for the break, but I suspect there were other intentions. Only a week before she wrote me many love letters stating how much she loved me and how her life is so much better now. She goes to a movie with some guy in the same class right after our break, some guy she was talking to and makes it seem like they are hanging out.
I see if she wants to get married, but shes not sure and wants to date, I refuse. Then she starts dating someone else in the class behind my back. She gets engaged to him very soon (supposedly because she was distraught and not thinking straight. I got pissed at her for being with him and made her upset by what I said).
Then she tries to break it off with him for a long time, and he cries when she does..finally she ends it, but only after talking to me during that time, probably trying to secure a branch swing to me, like she did with him.
Then she is back and forth and wants to be with me, then wants space, etc. We mess around a few times. Then when I see she wants space again, switching gears suddenly again, I cut off all contact. I hate just being strung along cause she seems to dissapear when she has time on her own.
Now she keeps texting me and calling that she wants to get married and will give me BJ's all the time, etc. She has been contacting me for months now...could we really be happy? I think if we it was going to work, she would just want to see me and not be using me as a phone emotional tampon.
I am still pretty grossed out that she used some other guy in the class like me and now is coming back to me saying it was a mistake to leave. Emotionally its been really rough and the thought of being with her doesnt really excite me anymore. I have to see her in class all the time for the next couple years, which sucks. But is this just another BPD that I need to avoid? Is she just full of ****?
