"ex" acting strange...........

[Lost In the Seas]

ok im really lost in this, i have no idea what's happening here

i know this girl from a friend of mine, we started meeting in msn and hang out and the sparks just started, it grew and grew and grew until i made of mistake of being afc, and thing just stopped, note that we didn't really date and so we weren't officially bf gf, although a lot of her friends knew there were attractiion between us

i didnt react to the "break up" much, she finally revealed to her friends that we did have attractions but it's over now (she tried to keep it secret from her friends before), but soon after i have a feeling she wanted things to be back again, she would call me quite often although usually with a friend of hers (three people phone convo), asking me if i like anyone, tease me if i find a girl in the street hot etc, but she did them in very subtle ways so it seem like we are only trying to be normal friends

i didn't respond much to her approach, i dont' talk much on the phone, i act cold to her, not going out with her and her friends when she asked me to, then she gave up and we didn't really have any communications for two months or so

last week one of her friends invited me to hang out again and i agreed, she said she didn't mind if i go. during the hang out it seemed obvious that she was trying to make me jealous, she would not talk to me much, hugging her close male friends, playing with them etc, but i didn't react much either

then i leave early saying that i have to meet my other friends, she seemed disappointed but didn't say much. Later that night she called me my mom picked up the phone, she asked for me but when mom handed me the phone she just went silent and hung up. I called her back but she conferenced another friend of hers so it became a three people phone convo, we didn't talk much and we hung up

i just have no idea what she really wants, i will be honest here i kinda still feel attracted to her, but her flakey behaviours make it hard for me to make or even plan a move, and i want to know what her intentions are

thx guys

 

[Omni]

Originally posted by Lost In the Seas
... when mom handed me the phone she just went silent and hung up. I called her back...

Why would you call back a girl who'd hung up on you? That sounds like the AFC move of the century.

She's obviously into playing games, so don't waste any time on her.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

ya, i called her and said i can't live without you don't ignore me again i love you with all my heart for eternity all i think of is you every day, i even dream about you, and i cried on the phone

well no, i just called to check what she wanted, we were suppose to be casual friends

 

[Lost In the Seas]

bump

 

[Lost In the Seas]

i need more advice if you have any suggestions feel free to put them down

 

[Legend]

its obvious you cant handle being friends with her. I say cut all contact and start talking to other girls. Dont get hung up on this one girl. All girls have the same parts, i dont understand why guys get so hung up over one. Espically when that one is playing games. Maybe its a Hong Kong thing?

 

[Lost In the Seas]

no.............it's not a hong kong thing lol

ya true that all girls have the same parts and it's not hard finding another girl with the same sweet cute innocent face, nice long legs soft tender breasts comfy bouncy hips etc, but it wasn't her appeearence that attracted me, it was her personality traits, her voice etc

i just felt this connection i never had with other girls before, i think that's what she felt too or else she won't be wasting her time playing game with me, right? or am i wrong

 

[Legend]

i think that's what she felt too or else she won't be wasting her time playing game with me, right? or am i wrong

Its the other way around my friend. If she did like you she would stop the games and just give in and be one on one with you. Since shes playing games shows she doesnt really care if shes loses you are not.

All you really can do at this point is try to talk to her in person, one on one. See what shes wants to do. Dont look back on this and regret anything. Lay everything out on the table with her right now, and if things work out. Thats great buddy, and if they dont, you can go on with life realizing you did all that you could do to make her realize you wanted more.

You need to settle this, you and her, leave her lil friends out of it. Go get her !!

 

[ecvegas]

it sounds like your in high school. girls of that age will play games, test you, etc. don't fall for that.

just play it cool. if you watch MTV, watch "Laguna Beach, the real OC". there is a character on that show named jason. look at his moves, how he acts...you'd learn alot.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

no...we have no mtv here, tell me what jason did

 

[flexion_]

I just see a cat toying with a dead mouse here.

I'd just move on.

 

[Legend]

I just see a cat toying with a dead mouse here.

:crackup:

I agree too, its not worth it to fix the situation.

 

[mattathensga]

I'd do this.... First, try to sort out whether or not YOU really want to deal with this from her... secondly, she MIGHt be bringing in the friend on the other phone line to ease her anxieties, or something insane like that...
IF you feel its worth it, and want to try something, get her alone, perferably in a public place, a mall food court or something, something that allows an easy "escape" for both parties, and confess your feelings about her, and dont be afraid to be a man, by that I mean, lay down the law, in a sense. tell her how this is making you think, and what you'd like from the relationship, don't get too demanding, but definetly take some GD control of the situation... either she'll go for it or she wont, at least you'll know one way or the other!

 

[DonJohn]

Take it easy...

I see that she is trying to make you jealous by being with other male friends etc... just don't be so concerned about her, she is a ho, find another ho and if she happens to want you, just bang her on the side, don't make her your g/f again just a f*** buddy. You are too young...I know that right now I'm not the right guy to say this cause I'm in a LTR but in my teens or early 20's I did everything but commiting to one girl... you have to test drive many cars before you choose the one you really want, keep test driving, the Civic that you think is cool right now will look like a piece of s*** when you get your 1st corvette, same goes with girls... the hoes that we thought that they were the best think we could get will not compare with the more mature women that you will find down the road... keep pimpin' don't forget the rubber and "test drive" as much as you can...