Everything but Game >> Everything + Game (Approach Log)

[Everything_but_Game]

Backstory
30 years old, spent most of the last decade married, working, in school, in the gym and paying off debts. While most of that is actually great, my social skills atrophied significantly during this time.

I currently reside in Southern California, just north of LA. Not an area you actually want to live in, but an hour's drive away from the city.

I make good money, own my own house, have my own car (neither the house nor car are fancy, just practical).
Hence the name "everything_but_game"

I'm recently divorced (happily) and spend the weekends with my 8 year old daughter. This makes logistics difficult, but that's just the excuse I've been giving myself to not make an effort to approach.
I haven't approached a girl in a long time. I am Red Pill aware, but not experienced. My frame and mission are fine.

Relevant Information
There's no way to say it humbly: I'm in great shape. 5'10, 200lbs and have a 6-pack until I sit down. I'm chasing single digits for bodyfat % with the help of my bodybuilding coach... never been this lean before so this is new territory for me.

I've maxed out my looks about as much as I can, and my wardrobe has been tailored to fit me as it should. I'm not much for fancy clothes, but I clean up well in a button-down. I don't own a suit, nor do I think it would fit me well anyways... constantly getting bigger and smaller.

I do have a tattoo - a decent size one actually, but its only visible when I'm shirtless or wearing a tank top.

I'm still working to kick a nasty p0rn habit (this doesn't need to be expanded upon in this thread).

Why am I here?
I have little time to game, and I have no experience doing so. I can only fix one of these things at the moment, but it needs to be fixed.

After all the books I've read on Game, you'd think I'd have applied some of it, right? Yeah, me too.
So that's why I'm here.

I'm going to start by following Rules of The Game by Niel Strauss and writing out the exercises in here for accountability and direction. I won't be able to follow them every single day as it's written, but I do need to complete them.


I welcome feedback, both criticisms and accolades, so long as it is productive.

 

[Jor-El]

Sounds like you have the basics,the foundations, right at least,even great game needs a bit of luck and right time right place

 

[The Duke]

Backstory
30 years old, spent most of the last decade married, working, in school, in the gym and paying off debts. While most of that is actually great, my social skills atrophied significantly during this time.

I currently reside in Southern California, just north of LA. Not an area you actually want to live in, but an hour's drive away from the city.

I make good money, own my own house, have my own car (neither the house nor car are fancy, just practical).
Hence the name "everything_but_game"

I'm recently divorced (happily) and spend the weekends with my 8 year old daughter. This makes logistics difficult, but that's just the excuse I've been giving myself to not make an effort to approach.
I haven't approached a girl in a long time. I am Red Pill aware, but not experienced. My frame and mission are fine.

Relevant Information
There's no way to say it humbly: I'm in great shape. 5'10, 200lbs and have a 6-pack until I sit down. I'm chasing single digits for bodyfat % with the help of my bodybuilding coach... never been this lean before so this is new territory for me.

I've maxed out my looks about as much as I can, and my wardrobe has been tailored to fit me as it should. I'm not much for fancy clothes, but I clean up well in a button-down. I don't own a suit, nor do I think it would fit me well anyways... constantly getting bigger and smaller.

I do have a tattoo - a decent size one actually, but its only visible when I'm shirtless or wearing a tank top.

I'm still working to kick a nasty p0rn habit (this doesn't need to be expanded upon in this thread).

Why am I here?
I have little time to game, and I have no experience doing so. I can only fix one of these things at the moment, but it needs to be fixed.

After all the books I've read on Game, you'd think I'd have applied some of it, right? Yeah, me too.
So that's why I'm here.

I'm going to start by following Rules of The Game by Niel Strauss and writing out the exercises in here for accountability and direction. I won't be able to follow them every single day as it's written, but I do need to complete them.


I welcome feedback, both criticisms and accolades, so long as it is productive.

Cut out your porn time and go out and meet girls. I'll bet you can free up 3hrs a week.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Cut out your porn time and go out and meet girls. I'll bet you can free up 3hrs a week.

That's no use if your porn time is at six in the morning. Not many girls about outside.

 

[Everything_but_Game]

Rules of The Game Day 1
Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.
People that know me probably see that I like to help people and that I'm honest.
People that don't know me probably think I'm a meat head that's just not interested in other people. They probably also think I'm angry... RBF.

Write one or two sentences describing how you’d like to be perceived by others.
Id like for strangers to think that I'd make a great friend, and that I'm someone they'd like to know. Maybe this is better described as "being interesting"...

List three of your behaviors or characteristics you would like to change.
Be less serious
Be less insincere
Be less standoffish

List three new behaviors or characteristics you would like to adopt.
Be more playful
Be more approachable
Be more outgoing


Operation Small Talk
Talk to 5 strangers
(In progress)

Evaluate Self-Limiting Beliefs
I believe approaching or initiating conversation with a girl is intrusive and generally unwelcome.
This is probably me projecting.

I believe just need to learn how to socialize better before making approaches.
This is dumb, how am I supposed to learn without actually trying it?

Notes:
There was a cute girl at the gym today. Hair dyed neon pink... definitely "fun only" category. Pretty sure i caught her looking at me a couple times.
I wanted to start up a conversation but there just wasn't a good opportunity. She was on the Stairmaster the whole time. I'm a regular, I've only seen her a few times.

I want to talk to her next time I see her. No idea how to open her, though. Probably commenting on anything but her hair.