heres a hard truth for ya, stuffyboy. in the world of males and females, the males are always the one that have to take the risks. you know what they say: "they greatest risk in life is to never take one at all"
and besides, this isn't even that risky lol
just use subtle, casual, natural flirting. or just confident playfulness, at least.
hell, use any style of flirting that fits your personality the best, whether it be using neg hits or tension loops. whatever u want.