Sometimes that's the way it is. You can still find ones without, but its less likely to happen.
I had the problem too. I would meet a girl at work, start to like her or something and then realize she had a boyfriend. But it never stopped me from at least talking to them. If they dont shut up about him and tell you and go on and on about him, its time to move on.
I talk to one now who knows I know she has a bf, and i've even seen the guy. But she has never once told me his name, nor said anything about him to me, nor how their relationship is. Not once has she ever brought him up in ANY conversation we have had whether in person or on the phone.
So you see, if she was digging this guy like crazy, she would never shut up about him.
Just cause a woman HAS one, means squat. Some have them because it's a social thing. They may only be partially happy, but they'd rather HAVE SOMEONE than to NOT have someone. So they are NOT going to drop the current one until they find the other. Too many guys too, I think assume every single woman is in the perfect relationship and that there is no chance. I dont care if it is months or years, i've seen girls drop guys cold and then weeks later go out with someone else. BUT...they have built something with the other person. They've realized that they found something better.
Women will branch swing. They'll have hold of something, but not let go until they have hold of something else. And they want to make sure it is somewhat secure as well and not just a BS dude.
Because if they want to really date a person, they wont want to dump a huge investment for pennies. They want to make sure they have good odds in their hands. Some women have a hard time doing this. They think...damn, i've built this relationship up for 1yr and have X.Y.Z but am missing..... they then have to decide if it is worth it to end a year and start fresh, even if they are not really that happy.
I even asked a woman 2 days ago about all of this and even the whole branch swinging, and she was like...it's true. Now she did say not TOTALLY true, and I told her there are probably variations from girl to girl on how they go about this, but she made the point to actually say that I WAS RIGHT.
By the way, this girl has a boyfriend, and has been in a relationship with him for almost a year.
I also asked an ex of mine who is married now and has kids about this, and she was like...yeah, I have to admit that we do that, and I have been at fault before. And she meant flirting with other guys to see if she was able to find a BETTER GUY while still being in a relationship.
Now we aren't all saying keep hitting on the ones who have them, but if you encounter it, just dont give up cold turkey, cause you'll never know when you are that better man to a woman who has been looking for that. And you DO NOT do anything with a woman who does not end her relationship. You dont stick around if he is around or she'll cheat on you as well. Some are like that, while others are actually waiting for the better guy to come along.
I had the problem too. I would meet a girl at work, start to like her or something and then realize she had a boyfriend. But it never stopped me from at least talking to them. If they dont shut up about him and tell you and go on and on about him, its time to move on.
I talk to one now who knows I know she has a bf, and i've even seen the guy. But she has never once told me his name, nor said anything about him to me, nor how their relationship is. Not once has she ever brought him up in ANY conversation we have had whether in person or on the phone.
So you see, if she was digging this guy like crazy, she would never shut up about him.
Just cause a woman HAS one, means squat. Some have them because it's a social thing. They may only be partially happy, but they'd rather HAVE SOMEONE than to NOT have someone. So they are NOT going to drop the current one until they find the other. Too many guys too, I think assume every single woman is in the perfect relationship and that there is no chance. I dont care if it is months or years, i've seen girls drop guys cold and then weeks later go out with someone else. BUT...they have built something with the other person. They've realized that they found something better.
Women will branch swing. They'll have hold of something, but not let go until they have hold of something else. And they want to make sure it is somewhat secure as well and not just a BS dude.
Because if they want to really date a person, they wont want to dump a huge investment for pennies. They want to make sure they have good odds in their hands. Some women have a hard time doing this. They think...damn, i've built this relationship up for 1yr and have X.Y.Z but am missing..... they then have to decide if it is worth it to end a year and start fresh, even if they are not really that happy.
I even asked a woman 2 days ago about all of this and even the whole branch swinging, and she was like...it's true. Now she did say not TOTALLY true, and I told her there are probably variations from girl to girl on how they go about this, but she made the point to actually say that I WAS RIGHT.
By the way, this girl has a boyfriend, and has been in a relationship with him for almost a year.
I also asked an ex of mine who is married now and has kids about this, and she was like...yeah, I have to admit that we do that, and I have been at fault before. And she meant flirting with other guys to see if she was able to find a BETTER GUY while still being in a relationship.
Now we aren't all saying keep hitting on the ones who have them, but if you encounter it, just dont give up cold turkey, cause you'll never know when you are that better man to a woman who has been looking for that. And you DO NOT do anything with a woman who does not end her relationship. You dont stick around if he is around or she'll cheat on you as well. Some are like that, while others are actually waiting for the better guy to come along.
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