Every males dream? Not mine :(.

[arq-dj1]

Re: yep

Originally posted by NoWayOut
I had this exact same problem tonight. It's really bothering me right now. Even when I was getting head, i wasn't getting that hard, and then when we started having sex.. it felt good, but I never finished. I feel inadequate because of it a little bit.. granted, I did drink tonight, and it was the first time I met this girl.. one night stand situation.. but damn man, I'm pissed at myself. You're not alone. Is it really all mental? When i'm looking at porn i get a lot harder than when I'm actually with a girl.. is that weird?

same here...
i was wanking off once a day... sometimes twice...

And with my girl i was with my hands in her "stairway to heaven" and i didn't get a booner, it just got started real soft, maybe 10% from 100% possible...

so i think that im getting used to porn, boobs everything
i quited jerking off and 3 days later i started getting a booner while working, with no stimulous at all...
but i didn't saw her after i quited, so i dunno the real results yet

 

[MrCode]

Masturbation can desensitize you physically, while looking at porn desensitizes you mentally. Both combine to make sex a lot less fun than it can be.

I think part of the evolution of a Don Juan is to practically eliminate porn and wacking off so that he primarily gets his sexual enjoyment and fulfillment from real, live, breathing, thinking, loving females.

After years and years of lonely nights slobbering at images on your monitor it can be hard, but the new habit you are developing will be much more fulfilling in the long run. Just make sure all that "real sex" you are having is safe.

To sum up: porn and wacking off is for AFCs.

 

[dearsappho]

So what are we saying here? "Have Wank, Wont Come?"

 

[WeakMenNeverRise]

I feel you completely man, happens to me all the time. What helps me is to really think about whats going on. Be like this chick is sucking my dyck and i'm gonna bust all over her azz. Think about it, watching porn will cause you to *** a lot quicker than you usually would because of the images your seeing i.e. its all MENTAL. Think kinky thoughts and you should be ok.

 

[Trance]

The advice you were waiting for and info you didnt knew yet

About hand / oral

For instance, some guys rarelly come from oral/hand and certain positions, its perfectly normal. In these cases, only if he tutor's the girl to do faster/slower, smooth/harder. If a guy doing sex his way, his favorite positions, can *** whenever he want, in 5m if he wants, but its good to make it last for at least 20m for the girl to *** herself.


Alcohol / sleep / antecipation /masturbation

For some people, alcohol can inhibit your sexual performance, for others until a certain limit will drive you both very wildgoing, and can be a turn on. Not sleeping well can also make your organism tired and unable of the best performance. Antecipation, wanting to please the girl too much and having the fear of failure can kill it, this is pretty usual with inexperient people, and even with experient people after a long LTR being with another girl. Masturbating a lot is not a problem at all unless you do it the same day you're gona be with the girl. The only problem with masturbating a lot might be getting used to your own touch, and having less pleasure with oral/hand from a girl.


Intimacy and guidance

It's all about what you like most, guiding each other to the best pleasure you can provide to each other, you need trust and intimacy to be able to guide one another into the max. Induce her where you like to be touched, get to know where she likes to be touched, her turn on's, etc..


Sexual conection

If its a girl you like a lot:
- A guy can either be turned on a lot more, but can either miss the first times, or either start rolling it crazy.
If its a girl you barelly know:
- Some guys are turned on by being with a almost total stranger at his disposal for sexual intimacy, others not so easily.


Turn on's

Thinking about certain things - some fantasies, talking dirty, touching eachother at same time, having your legs tighter, rubbing against or more apart, kissing at same time, slaping her in the ass can help turning on both of you even more while doing whatever you're doing.


Tip if you know you're not gona *** that time by oral/hand/etc..

If a girl is trying too hard to make you *** with oral/hand and you know you're not gona, this is the way of not letting her feel like she's not pleasing you. After a while tell her something like:
- "You're making me so hot/horny/crazy" (Also your breathing should be harder by now)
Then put her in a nice position and start doing regular sex. She will love it, seeing the desire in you, seeing that you cant resist having her right that moment.

 

[eddiepie]

Well since this thread has been brought back up agian, I may as well report back that I sorted the problem!

I was away from her for about 19 days and lasted 17 days before I gave into my own hands. When I saw her 2 days later, I was afraid me spoiling that long wait would cause problems again.

Lucky for me.. it didnt! It took her about ~10 mins to get me and I basically collapsed like a rag-doll afterward . She looked satisfied (not nearly as much as me though) hehe.

So since the start of this thread, I've only done myself in twice and seen porn once.

It definately pays off, if you have the determination to see this problem through <3

 

[MrCode]

Good job, I know it takes some will-power to be celebate that long.

It is all downhill from here, since you've gotten over that hump and can just enjoy the sex and cvm as much or as little as you want.

But keep up the "habit" of not looking at porn much nor masturbating much. After a while you lose the interest in those things since real women are so much better.