The Poison Thought:
Re-framing and Re-Programming social programming.
The possibility that a ‘thought’ or a belief can bring devastating consequences, or is potentially a virus waiting to develop and germinate.
The thought Virus, i.e Marriage the ‘Thought’:
It looks like I need to inject some re-framing, it seems still has much has people develop it is a possibility that social programming that is so ingrained is the hardest to remove or counter re-frame.
First let me pic out each quoted response:
A: Sexy Kuta Writes:
[that applys to anything. the longer you wait. the harder it will become
"I'll go to the gym 2morrow" then 2morrow turns into next week.. then u get fatter.. etc.
its a given fact. you cannot beat around the bush. but for situations like him its different. he doesnt have a choice, but to other areas in life this applys quite well. if you are planning to do something. Do it right away. not later
because you are gonna create a habit :laziness]
What is going on here, what does Jonwon see that’s so strange, it seems like a normal post does it not?
1. The Longer you wait the harder it will become? MMM exactly how does that concept work, I think we need to see, speakeasys reply to get a clearer picture.
2. If I don’t go to the gym I will be fatter, the same has if I don’t get married I will be? I will be what exactly? A fat unmarried guy? An umarried guy? Shock Horror, my god imagine what the Jonses would think (oh wait I don’t have to impress the Jonses, since I am not married).
3. You can not beat around the bush! So we have to rush in and do it fast, why? The answer lies deep in the replies, I will explain in time.
B: Kontrollx writes:
[Even though I'm not quite there yet in age I feel this is true for a lot of guys.
Though the younger you look the longer you stay marketable to the young chicks].
The longer you look, the less marketable you are to the young chick? This post ain’t so bad, but it’s the sense of RUSH type reply that I don’t like, another product of the ‘poison thought’.
C: Luthor Rex Writes:
[Yes the risk is that if you are single now you may be single forever. What your 32 year old friend does not realize is that being in a bad relationship is so much worse than being alone.
It's better to die an old alone man, than die a young(er) abused one...]
Being in a bad relationship is so much worse then being alone! Read that again, people read it AGAIN and let’s move on.
D: Speakeasy Writes:
[In your 30s, obviously the pool of NEVER MARRIED, CHILDLESS women shrinks. I wouldn't say the pool of women in general shrinks because so many women married in the 20s will end up divorced in the 30s, sadly. Though the older you get, the more likely you're going to have to settle for a woman with kids already if dating a woman your age].
The bread and butter of the whole post, the thought coming out in its strongest form, the ‘thought’ would present itself eventually, it would surface and here it is!
But Jonwon that’s a normal post and I agree with it, I don’t see anything wrong, I think your loosing it.
Ok let me show you WHAT I SEE.
Here we go an introduction to the ‘Thought’ and the poison being sucked out for others to view.
1. In your 30s, obviously the pool of NEVER MARRIED, CHILDLESS women shrinks.
Never married childless women, take note of this has this is important to the point I am going to expose.
2. I wouldn't say the pool of women in general shrinks because so many women married in the 20s will end up divorced in the 30s
Will end up divorced in there 30’s, we are starting to take shape, the Marriage ‘Thought’ is slowly being drawn out.
3. Though the older you get, the more likely you're going to have to settle for a woman with kids already if dating a woman your age]
And here we are, the final point.
Still can’t see it?
Need some help ok.
The ‘poison thought’.
From the dawn of your time, you or the average person has been led to believe to be ‘human’ eventually you will need to get married, it is so ingrained into your social programming ‘map’ to even question its rational is met with ridicule, so ingrained in your system, so part of your make up your cant even see the potential destruction that is the product of this ‘blind’ thought and ‘human ideal’ (western world concept).
Here we have it:
Sexykuta says “The older you get the more likely your going to settle for a women with kids”.
Whooo what was that just then a blip on the radar, there is something in those words that need attention, but in the wake of the marriage ‘thought’ it can be passed by, the superior ‘thought’ has allowed your radar to miss a major obstacle.
And what is that?
Kids, children, YOUR CHILDREN.
So the dating pool of women has been reduced to women, who are supporting some-one else’s prodigy, some other mans genetic gene pool and this is why the pool of marriage has shrunk! But whoo hold on a second! has it shrunk?
Or has it just grown? How do I mean?
Read it again, a women with kids.
Imagine this for a second.
You have children and your partner leaves you and takes those children? Come on take those words and picture yourself in that ideal, in that concept, now picture your kids being raised by another man. Now take that image and picture that women with the kids raised by the other man was in fact YOUR WIFE. See what I am doing here, so has the dating pool grown now your single and older, due to the now knowing you have AVOIDED a women who would want to have CHILDREN with any OTHER MAN BUT YOU, has the pool grown or decreased.
So is marriage more IMPORTANT then CHILDREN?
What is marriage, what is it exactly, why do men and women get together, what is sex? What does Sex do? What is it for?
The Poison ‘thought’
Why pick on the Master DJ’s in this thread, why single them out and why single speakeasy out?
This ‘thought’ is so common so prominent in our social structure it is at the concept of the destruction of marriage, it is a foundation that is helping to destroy the institution of marriage. The thought of putting the cart before the horse, the ideal of rushing into marriage, due to some theoretical time clock on the concept and the worst one:
Getting married to comply to a social structure and a set of beliefs that where programming into you from birth, to the detriment of your own welfare, even has far has getting married to women who have been described has being DIVORCED.
What do I mean:
1. so many women married in the 20s will end up divorced in the 30s.
So lets see this here, you’re the guy who married this girl, remember, she is divorced and SO ARE YOU, did you think about that in your rush to tie the knot?
Also lets dig deeper, she is divorced, does that make her a good choice for a future WIFE and the MOTHER of your CHILDREN?
So tell me has the dating pool Shrunk or has the dating pool grown?
Maybe just maybe the fact your single and have not been divorced at the age of 30 is not that BAD, maybe just maybe:
"I'll go to the gym 2morrow" then 2morrow turns into next week.. then u get fatter.. etc.
You will be thankful you postponed your GYM membership, hey at least if your FAT you wont be fat and paying child maintenance living in a cheap rented apartment whilst your wife manages to suck in the 3rd Husband WHO MUST GET MARRIED COS HE HAS TO.
You better rush and get married folks, who knows, if you do it at the age of 20 you could be divorced by 30 and you can do it all over again, wont that be nice.
And what do i see has the core route, what is my blind vision?
MARRIAGE IS A TOTAL JOKE.
IT is a watered down concept, to think to even think, that it is acceptable and NORMAL to be dating women who are DIVORCED, or DIVORCED WITH CHILDREN makes MARRIAGE A JOKE.
Do you understand?
