Ever tried brushing off a girl using AFC techniques?

[Jariel]

I have done quite a lot of rejecting during the past year, hurt a lot of women, and I've even done my share of flaking. I'm sure some of those women are hanging out on forums like this asking advice on how to win me back or wanting to know what went wrong.

Although it's a welcome change to being on the receiving end of those rejections, it still sucks. I know how it feels to be rejected and left wondering and I hate that I'm putting them through it. I'm enjoying playing the field, but I really don't like the feeling that I'm hurting people who have been really good to me and don't deserve it.

I was thinking recently, however, maybe I could discourage these women by acting like a huge AFC, acting really clingy or over sensitive, get them to lose interest. Has anyone tried this? If so, what process did you go through and has it every backfired?

Otherwise, does anyone have any easier ways to reject women that are really into you?

 

[Credos]

Mate... None of us want to hurt people, that's just life, things don't alwayse go your way. It's not like every girl that rejected you was out there to hurt you, they just weren't intrested. They had the backbone to be honest about it and to end your pain quickly...

Instead of being a wimp about it, just be honest about it and end her suffering quickly. Only a coward would turn AFC just to get rid of a girl. A man would have the spine to be honest with her even though it would hurt her. We all get hurt sometimes, it's just a part of life and it ain't fun for both sides.

 

[Strelok]

Yeah next time some fattie is totally into you try to behave clingy and possessive toward her,this is a one way ticket to a living hell cause you won't be able to get rid of her even with a flamethrougher.

It does not work the same with ugly and cute girls,the first group is used to have their asses kissed and lot of attention so those behaviours turn them off while the second group never experienced any of that and they feel like they found paradise once they get it.

I talk by experience,the "Im gay thing"(avoid this one if you belong to the same group) or "I already love an other girl" works better,the message is clear and they don't suffer.
There is no point to make people suffer even if we don't like them.
Ps. this is the only case where truth must be avoided,they cry or even worse become b1tchy and ruin your reputation around,trust me you don't wanna know what the female solidarity is able to do againt a "bad guy that made her friend suffer".

 

[Alle_Gory]

I disagree. You clearly haven't seen how effective a flamethrower can be.

 

[Jariel]

I have always believed in the straight up approach, but unfortunately it doesn't always end at that. I still get them asking for more reasons, sending me pictures of themselves or suggesting we go out again, trying to be my friend, then flirting with me. I know how it feels to be in their situation and I really sympathise with them.

I talk by experience,the "Im gay thing"(avoid this one if you belong to the same group) or "I already love an other girl" works better,the message is clear and they don't suffer.

I don't think they'd buy the gay thing, but telling them I'm still in love with another girl sounds like a good one. I've had girls tell me they're not over their ex and I know I must give up and move on.

Failing that, I'll try the flamethrower.

 

[seagull]

If it is someone who you will have nothing to do with again, and you have no mutual friends/acquaintances, make something up like you do not want to, or cannot have children. That usually turns the tables on them and causes minimal offence.

 

[betterthandead]

It's big talking guys like Jariel that ruin it for the real nice guys like myself out there.

 

[Sophomakhos]

I had a girl come onto me recently and I tried to let her down easily by acting in an AFC style, or something similar. I'd had coffee with her before Christmas and wasn't interested, so I wanted to let the whole thing drop quietly. Then a couple of weeks ago she Facebooked me asking to go for a walk by the lakeside. At first I tried to show a lack of interest by just replying that it was too cold (I'm British, but I live in Canada at the moment, you see...), but got a reply back saying that we should go to the movies and that she could snuggle to make me warm.

As enticing as I would normally find that, I really wasn't interested in the girl, but I felt bad about rejecting her (since she is very nice). So I decided to pretend that I was a crazy workaholic with no social skills, and told her that right now my career was the most important thing in my life and that I didn't have time for dating.

The result? I got a crazy, stalker-ish reply from the girl saying that she thought that I was better than any Canadian guy that she had ever met and that, although she was an inexperienced virgin, she felt so comfortable with my gentlemanly sincerity that she wanted to throw caution to the wind etc. etc.

I then rejected her as bluntly as I could. That got awkward.

 

[Jariel]

That's a tough on Sophomakhos. I'm in a similar situation at the moment and have this girl who is crazy about me. I mean, she keeps saying how fate has brought us together, keeps saying I'm perfect in every way, I'm the most amazing guy she's ever met and going on about how happy she is she met me. We had one date and now she's acting like we are in this magical relationship.

She's a really sweet girl, but I can't handle anyone coming on that strong. She's like a little puppy dog. It's really hard seeing her so happy and giddy with excitement, knowing that I have to break her heart.

I've been trying to drop hints and distance myself, but I think I'm going to have to be blunt with her. Either way I do it, I expect I'm going to be hearing for her for a long time to come.

 

[Packers2010]

you got to do what you got to do.

no one likes it. but the truth is the best way to go about it.