Ever scratch your head when certain chicks reject you?

[HumbleNinja]

Ok I needed to complain about this. And I know Im not the only dude annoyed by this.

I was out yesterday and struck up convo with this cute girl. Shes ok, nothing amazing, but she had a really cool personality which piqued my interest. So I asked for her number so we could chat more, and she goes "I just kinda have this rule where I dont give out my number, but Ill take yours". Lmao....thats the first (maybe second though) time some girl gave me that lame ass line. I would have preferred the "I have a bf" line over that crap I was fed.

Anyways, I just told her ok...kept the convo going, and left without exchanging any contact info. Because we all know she would never hit me up anyways. I basically swayed convo away from the number thing for a quick second and then bounced. I had no reason to keep talking, nor any reason to give her my number.

But the thing that annoyed me the most is that Ive dated and sexed up girls hotter than her. And tbh, objectively Im sure most people would say Im out of her league, or at the least that we are in the same league. So if this girl was single and just wasnt into me, it does boggle my mind how plain jane chicks can be picky at times. Im not saying Im a super good looking hunky guy, Im just saying my experience has shown me that Im a dude whos got a good look and can pull rather attractive women.

I know Im not alone here. What other men here have been baffled by a rejection and left thinking "wow...did SHE just really turn me down?" Like I was legit baffled by it for a while.

This is when self-reflection is needed and what happens when we all start "feeling ourselves" a little too much because of the ability to land some hot chicks at times, and get our heads gassed up by others on how good looking etc. we are as some sort of fake "confidence" since we've gotten some hotter chicks we should be able to get any "lesser" chick. (I myself take all compliments with a grain of salt and don't let them get to my head. They're nice to hear but not the end all be all. Same with dating hot chicks.)

Not everyone is going to like everyone. The chick may be insecure and wants someone lesser than her.(Chicks ALL are insecure.) Though that may not even truly be the main issue. It could be she just wasn't feeling you the way you were feeling yourself based off you knowing you've gotten better and saw her as a "lesser" chick you "should" have gotten.

We all need to self reflect at times and drop the ego so we don't beat ourselves up "How dare SHE reject me!" over the fact some "lesser" chicks just simply may not be interested in us. Doesn't mean we can't get any better, equal to, etc. It just means that's life. Not everyone is going to like everyone. Once we realize that FACT it makes "rejections" easier and you go about meeting other chicks, better ones etc.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I turn on my God-Complex and rationalize it as : Whoa, she rejected me ? She must've been protecting me from her possible STD or mental disease.

 

[Pandora]

This is a really interesting post Jaylan and i was thinking about making one similar to it. This bugs me a lot too. Especially when you get friendzoned or rejected by a girl who is below average or below what you have gotten in the past. What we have to keep reminding ourselves as men is to not take it too personally ( this is much easier said than done). Most of the time women truly dont have a good reason for rejecting guys. They especially dont have good reasons for friend zoning many men. Dont believe me? Ask a chick one day. Really pick her brain about the subject. You will be amazed.

I have deep convos with some of the girls that i have been friendzoned by (what can i lose now, i might as well learn from them). Since we have mutual friends and i know their dating history i inquire why they picked one guy over another. The answer is more often than not " i dont know, im not sure"...one girl even told me " listen its kinda random i guess". The girl is a solid 8/10 and she told me "its about how you feel at that time". I swear to god i cant make this sh** up. Every time i pick my female friends pea brains i am shocked. Im like is this the creature i spend 80% of my waking hours trying to fu**?

Now this doesn't mean that girls dont reject on legit reasons like looks. They do reject on legit reasons some time. But once you have passed the looks threshold the rest is sort of a crap shoot. Many girls will tell you about a guy who is perfect for them, he is good looking, funny, and cool but for some unknown reason they dont sleep with him. THEY HAVE NO CLUE WHY THEY DONT WANT TO. Dont take my word for it....ask a hot chick about her dating history and let her articulate why she made the choices she did. She wont be able to.

 

[Konada]

Nope. There's a sea of women out there waiting to be fished. Why bother with the one that got away?

 

[Robert28]

I stopped taking rejections personally when I started paying attention to the types of guys most women date. I'm not saying ALL women, but a good majority go for the stupid son of a b!tch that has no job, has a job but it's some low wage dump, drives a hooptie, has drama following them around like a stench, etc. Case in point, my best friend is roomates with this girl who's VERY hot. That's about where the compliments for her stop too because hot is ALL she has going for her. Wanna know what the last 3 guys she dated were like? Crap. Didn't have a d@mn thing going for them. I think she prefers to find the biggest deadbeat loser and date him. I really do. Her now boyfriend is a fall down lush of a drunk and the other night my friend told me he showed up at 3am on a weeknight banging on the door and yelling and acting like a fool. If that would have been my hose I would have sobered his @$$ right up when I stuck my Glock on the tip of his nose or opened the door, grabbed him by the shirt to drag him inside so I could be the fvck out of him.