Ever pulled off a 3-some (FFM)?

[bugsquish]

I have a sexual bucket list in my head of things that I want to achieve or try out. In general I'm doing pretty good with it.... but this one, the holy grail, the threesome, continues to elude me! And frustratingly I've came so close to it, so many times. But every time, something goes wrong.

• 3 way nipple sucking abandoned due to one girl being on her period.
• Ex sucking my current girls toes while I'm kissing her. Abandoned beacuse of unexpected visitors.
• 3 way kissing outside the club, about to go to my place, 1 girl up for it, other chickens out.
• Searching the club with another female friend looking for another girl to join us. Couldn't find anyone!
• Numerous examples of 1 of the 2 girls getting jealous and calling time.
• More numerous examples of inviting 2 girls who agree but then one can't make it.

I can always find at least 1 girl who is up for this. Finding 2 at the same time is a logistical nightmare! Anyone else had any joy with this?

 

[DarkShade]

Looks like you're already several steps ahead of many people in this aspect. Just keep trying.

 

[squirrels]

Looks like you're already several steps ahead of many people in this aspect. Just keep trying.

I'd say! The fact that it came close to happening a few times and got busted up by remarkable circumstances outside of your control...you're almost there.

I haven't met any girls who are "like that" for a while. I felt like a couple of times I was dating girls who MAY have swung that way given the right circumstances...I never pushed it, though.

Other things on my "sexual bucket-list":

- F**k a redhead...came close a few times (3rd-base-ish) but problems with timing or situation just shut it down

- F**k a black girl...but it'd have to be the kind of black girl that has white friends. I can't bring myself to go full-on into the "urban subculture". For lots of reasons. I know it sounds racist...oh well, I get to choose where I put my d**k.

- Anal. Not because I really want to do it, but so I can say I did it.

So I guess if I had a threesome with a black girl and a redhead in which I got to do one or both of them in the pooper...I could die the next morning and be completely satisfied with my sexual experiences.

 

[zekko]

I've never really had the desire to have a threesome, but it sounds like you're well on the way.
What I'm wondering is if anybody here has had a MMF?

 

[synergy1]

oh wow, if this was a marathon, you'd be most of the way done while i am barely past the halfway point. That said, I am totally going for the same thing here before I decide to get off the market. Luckily, things are getting better, but this will be an excellent milestone.

From what I hear from my friends who have had them, they usually 'just happen'. In the case of chicks, its their choice and a friend comes over. Thats all I know. Anyone else who has had them care to comment on how to make this happen? Whats worked for them?

 

[Amazing]

Adjust your thinking just a bit. Instead of looking at it like it is a major thing (holy grail) think of it as an ordinary one. There are guys with bi gf's who do this 2-3 times a week, my good friend is one - the key is for the one girl to want it bad, and the other to be curious, then you just have to get them somewhere near a bed.

 

[synergy1]

Adjust your thinking just a bit. Instead of looking at it like it is a major thing (holy grail) think of it as an ordinary one. There are guys with bi gf's who do this 2-3 times a week, my good friend is one - the key is for the one girl to want it bad, and the other to be curious, then you just have to get them somewhere near a bed.

Its a chicken and the egg - if it doesn't happen often, how can one perceive it to be ordinary? Perhaps I have to abdicate to the fact that its ordinary AND not happening to me? hehe, ouch to my ego. But whatever, if its more common than I perceive it to be, perhaps an adjustment in strategy will make it happen.

Where can you find these types of women? What are they like? I'm all ears...

 

[Amazing]

Its a chicken and the egg - if it doesn't happen often, how can one perceive it to be ordinary? Perhaps I have to abdicate to the fact that its ordinary AND not happening to me? hehe, ouch to my ego. But whatever, if its more common than I perceive it to be, perhaps an adjustment in strategy will make it happen.

Where can you find these types of women? What are they like? I'm all ears...

Hehe, that ego sting is good, means you are getting closer to being you


As for what they are like:

In one word?

Insecure.


In two?

Daddy issues




I'd look at high energy jobs - waitresses, bartenders, etc




I would love to hear if anyone knows completely cool sane bi chicks.

 

[synergy1]

excellent. I have connections to both types around here. I'll take that into consideration and plan accordingly

I knew of several bi chicks who were hot, but not in good mental shape. One was pretty hot, but as boring as drying paint. The only thing she had was her body. She was dating one of my friends and was a total **** hound, but she loved to hook up with chicks at parties too. The second was a chick who was dating my friend. Very smart. Almost too smart for her own good. very manipulative, and lied a lot. She cheated on my boy 3 times at least, and has most def. hook up with women too.

Not sure either had real daddy issues tho. The first chicks parents were actually kind of cool. The second chicks parents were both successful in their own right - both are in medicine. maybe they are outliers though.

 

[st_99]

I agree that a 3-some is the holy grail and sure I'd love to have at it but I have a hard enough time with plain old 2 somes

Only problem i would see is it might be so good, you'd find "regular" 2 way sex boring!!! haha.

 

[Warrior74]

That's why god made college. Had several in college and 1 after. Mainly it was girls who wanted to experiment with other girls, so like any good middle man I put the two parties together. After college while djing in clubs, well club groupies are there for a reason right?

I guess I was just lucky, but then again it wasn't really a goal, it was just something that happened.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Mainly it was girls who wanted to experiment with other girls

Yes, unless you are paying the other woman, then most real threesomes are more like lesbian encounters where you as the guy get to watch and participate. Most women are passively bisexual, in that they will be with another girl if the circumstances are right, but it's not something that they need in order to be happy. However, a lot of women who end up in relationships with men are not truly satisfied without still getting to be with other girls, and that is your typical swinger threesome.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
Interesting post.....as a School boy I enjoyed several depraved afternoons with two of my mates and a likely lass,the last one was a bit of a let down,as another mate who had been scratched at the post called the fire brigade,who knocked on the door, as we were all inflagrento delecti to the sounds of Peggy Lee singing "Fever"I next enjoyed a FFFM encounter one Christmas when I was 36 My town was in a pronounced recession at the time,I was a College Lecturer at that time,I had befriended a student,who lived in a household,with a group of interesting Undergraduates....One night just before Christmas I took over presents to place under the tree for the girls in the household plus Chinese Takeaway and a cask of Wine....they decided as their penurious circumstances left no cash for presents they would reciprocate with themselves....let me say even at that young age,I failed on number three it became really hard work,but a sweet memory none the less...My advancing years mean only MMF is possible,and that for male bonding really,still a lot of fun.

 

[scrouds]

git 'r done

 

[Solomon]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154722

^^had a 3-some with two friends who had the same name

Honestly I don't believe in luck but you gotta be at the right place at the right time, and there's gotta be extreme comfort involved because its kind of a big deal.

However like Amazing said you gotta play it cool, when I had my 3 some, I didn't act like "oh my gosh its gonna happened you gotta be cool as **** like you been there before because both girls are checking your frame before to see if your gonna keep your mouth shut, if you deserve it etc. Its not communicated verbally but sub-communicative wise it is

 

[bugsquish]

Adjust your thinking just a bit. Instead of looking at it like it is a major thing (holy grail) think of it as an ordinary one. There are guys with bi gf's who do this 2-3 times a week, my good friend is one - the key is for the one girl to want it bad, and the other to be curious, then you just have to get them somewhere near a bed.

Good advice. That situation sounds like a dream come true! I think it's become an obsession because the situations described in my original post span over the last 8 years. It's starting to feel like a bad sitcom.

Anyways, UPDATE! During pillow talk with a girl I recently started seeing, she mentioned her 'lesbian friend', and I hijacked the subject by asking if they had been physically intimate. Apparently they have kissed but nothing else. It turns out my girl is bi-curious but has never been with another girl. She came straight out and said she would love to have a threesome. I hadn't even asked her at that point. So I said "shall we have one then"? And she gave a very enthusiastic 'Yes!"

Now we have the logistics of finding another interested girl. Given the past history on this I'm not going to get my hopes up just yet....

This girl is a bartender btw, just thought that was funny since this was also mentioned by Amazing. Not sure I follow the reasoning of the "daddy issues" comment though. In UK culture and especially in the alternative scene female same-sex encounters are widely accepted and even encouraged.

 

[bugsquish]

So I guess if I had a threesome with a black girl and a redhead in which I got to do one or both of them in the pooper...I could die the next morning and be completely satisfied with my sexual experiences.

Haha! Sounds like a fun night.

My 'bucket list' is like a game I play with myself. New races and nationalities always get my attention. I also like to try and fit multiple girls into short time periods. The next big challange is banging 3 girls in one day. The logistical difficulty is getting rid of the second girl in time to meet the third. I've came really close to this, but I'd choose a threesome any day.

 

[KarmaSutra]

I was surprised one night by my girlfriend and a friend of ours who was a waitress at the same restaurant.

I woke to both of them crawling towards me. My girlfriend on the left, the other to my right.

Every debaucherous combination was realized until I started fvcking the non-girlfriend. Apparently they made that a no-no before hand. I wanted to fvck Sherry's ass so I went at it as she ate my girlfriend.

The best advice I can give you for a successful three-way is this: Communication. That's what turns a golden memory into a nightmare. Talk about what it is you will do then, most importantly, what you will NOT do.

 

[leeraconteur]

Yes.

You can't really plan it.

It helps to have a sex partner who is a woman who is also the wingman who recruits the other woman.

-Once showed up at a friends house, they were high, I was drunk, didn't want to cab it home, small apartment, one bed, and...
-Once showed up at another friends house one Saturday afternoon, everyone got sleepy, plopped on one of the girls king sized beds, and...
-Once met two DJ groupies in a bar, they began to make out sitting next to me on the couch and...

Totally unplanned, really. Not even a thought. Being sexually active with lots of options, busy, and moderately oblivious (and young) helped.

 

[scrouds]

Yeah you can. Four words: I only do threesomes.

Is that when you send her back into the club to find a chick to bring back?