Ever get bummed out about your age?

[Colossus]

No, not really.

It's all in your head. To be honest my life is a hell of a lot cooler and more developed now than 5 years ago. Being a teenager sucked. Even my early 20's were a confusing, directionless time. I made a lot of bad choices.

Being in college at 26, however, does make you feel old. Grad/professional school is different because people have matured and gotten serious about their lives, but undergrad is just a fvck-off time for most people. As anyone who is in their mid-late 20's knows, a huge amount of personal growth happens between 18 and 25. It's hard to relate to the 21's. You find them annoying and dumb. But we were all there once.

 

[reset]

I do. But it's just society telling me I'm "Getting older". It's not like I would choose to feel there was a "problem" with that. I'm just responding to a message from society. Which is crap. This isn't Logan's Run where they kill everyone once they reach 30. People are living longer. The generation gaps seem to be decreasing since everyone now has the access to the same media and stimulus.

I was getting depressed about it, but I figure, it must just be another one of those limiting beliefs I aquired and decided to respond to. I actually feel younger, and more energetic, right now, then I did when I was 25. I had zero self-confidence then and felt 90 years old. Last year or so, of and on, I feel younger, more alive, because I'm thinking in a more healthy way.

In any case when I see guys say "I'm 26 and feel old" I want to reach through the computer screen and smack you.

 

[MacAvoy]

I wholeheartedly agree w/ Joeker. However notice that all the people in the thread who replied that they do get bummed out are under 30? Coincedence? I think not.

 

[frivolousz21]

guys..wow.

I am 25 and I do not feel old....25 is not old.

old is 60+

geez

 

[Mr. Me]

old is 60+

It's relative. You say that because you're 25. And 10 year olds think that 25 year olds are old. And when you're 61, if you didn't let yourself go, then you'll feel 60 isn't old at all. And when you're 80, you'll think 60's a kid. I knew an 82 year old that would strip down and run and dive into a pond like he was 9. I also recall one old dude telling his son, "It gets better".

In fact, I'd even say that if you program your mind to believe that older age is indeed old, then that's what you'll become in time. Really old.

That being said, yes, there are times I feel "old", but we all have our ups and downs. I don't stay there, I shrug it off and remind myself that I'm only as old as I allow myself to feel. It's not like I have a choice anyway.

I think of the benefits I have at this age (53) of money, health, experience, experiences, wisdom, achievements, talents, skills, lovers and... it ain't over yet!

Volpez, the reason you feel down is NOT because of your age, but because you've given yourself this timetable in which to meet the right gal and start a family. That's an artificial timetable because LIFE isn't mandated by our contrived timetables (see, it took me 45 years to learn that!). So, when naturally, life doesn't yield the results we'd like at the time we apportioned it to, we get frustrated and depressed in turn.

It's probably easier for you to get depressed over that because you've just went through a break up - did she dump you? So right now, you may not be in the best frame of mind.

What you'd need to focus on right now though is not a replacement but YOU and getting things happening in your life to be busy with. Then, if you're really seeking a life time partner, well... that requires a plan on meeting suitable women and avoiding the wrong ones and dating multiple women to determine who meets the standards, rather than getting into LTRs, so that you can find out early and move on if need be, rather than finding out three years later.

 

[STR8UP]

Only recently have I gotten a little bit bummed about my age, but it isn't the NUMBER, it's the fact that the past couple of years have been rough on me and I think it has aged me a little physically. Now that I'm finally starting to pull myself out of the mess I look in the mirror and I don't see the youthful appearance I did a short time ago.

Honestly...I still get carded quite a bit so I know it isn't that bad, and hopefully now that I don't have to work 7 days a week and I am able to eat better and hopefully get into the gym soon I can reverse some of the effects.

To answer the REAL question you were asking though....no, I don't get bummed about my age. When I was in my 20's I would have never imagined that I would still be getting chicks 10-15 years younger when I hit my mid 30's, so it's a pleasant surprise that life holds a few aces up it's sleeve for guys when they pass the 30 mark.

Mid to late 20's can be an awkward time cause the age stigma starts to go away and girls that age are often hooking up with guys in their 30's. You aren't quite established with a career and such, and you aren't really sure what the future holds.

All I can say is always strive to be the best man you can be and you will NEVER be unhappy with your age.

 

[MacAvoy]

To answer the REAL question you were asking though....no, I don't get bummed about my age. When I was in my 20's I would have never imagined that I would still be able to WATCH chicks 10-15 years younger sleeping nake in my bed when I hit my mid 30's, so it's a pleasant surprise that life holds a few aces up it's sleeve for guys when they pass the 30 mark.

Sorry couldn't resist, I wanted to jump in on the STR8UP bashing too.

 

[STR8UP]

Sorry couldn't resist, I wanted to jump in on the STR8UP bashing too.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

I can guarandamtee you that if the model chick shows up this weekend as planned she WILL be naked, she WILL be in my bed, and I WILL give her the best fukk she's ever had. But we won't count our chickens before they hatch.....

Younger women rock :rockon:

 

[LoneSilver]

I'll be 49 April 16 and try to keep a mindset that I am never to old to learn something new even from the younger.

I took the real age test and taking good care of myself powerlifting eating right etc., I am actually internally 35. It would be lower but I need to have more sex during the week and have more social contacts and stop having a lead foot.

LoneSilver

 

[jophil28]

Hell yes, my age is really starting to get at me . I wish that I was 50 again !

 

[romangod]

I just turned 49 in October and I feel like a million bucks adjusted to inflation. My 50th is already being planned by my family and it should be a lot of fun with dear friends and family. I look forward to my golden years.

 

[Mr.Positive]

There's some great responses on this thread!

In my 20's I used think I was getting old, and with every birthday that came and went I chalked up another number.

Now, I don't even really celebrate my birthday, it's not that I'm against birthday's, they are fun. I just don't really care about my own.

Imagine if you just didn't know how old you were, you didn't know the year you were born, and 'age' did not exist. You would live every day for that day. Imagine, for a minute, if today wasn't feb 13, because dates, and months didn't exist.

You would focus more on goals, yet you wouldn't set timeframes, or constraints, on them. The steps you take towards the goals you set for yourself, would be mean more, and you would enjoy the whole process of achieving a goal, not just the end goal itself.

You would have a lot less stress. There would be no deadlines, no meeting minutes, no more 9-5. You would enjoy the things around you more, you would stop and "smell the roses" so to speak. You'd be free, wouldn't you?

Obviously in today's fast-paced life and the corporate environment, you can't realistically live like this, but you can do a mental shift when you are out of the work environment...and watch less tv.

I'll tell ya this, life just keeps getting better and better. Each "year" that passes, I get more confident, more self-assured, more wise I think, and I even physically feel the best I've ever felt. But that's me.

I find I get excited about the simple things now. Right now, my goal is to deadlift 325lbs in the gym tomorrow. It will be a personal best record for me.

When people bring up that they think they are getting old, they are running out of time, etc. I really think the age isn't the issue, but more of a lack of focus. Maybe a lack of exercise.

Bottom line, if your life stops getting better and better with each day, you should sit down and find out why. Don't blame age, don't blame things you can't change either. Blame yourself and own your life.

 

[reset]

I agree with you Mr. Positive. It's focus. I have every minute planned right now, I haven't watched TV in three weeks, I have watched a couple movies on DVD though. The rest of the time has been spent on my goals. The only problem is time is flying by so fast I don't know what to make of it.

 

[armadon]

I had a great time in my 20's but I'm having a better time in my 30's!!!

 

[guru1000]

When you feel OLD, what you are really saying is "I expected to be further ahead than I am now". Whether this is monetary, relationship, mental, physical, spiritual or physiological.

One day you wake up and say WOW i am X years old. I always imagined at this age I would be in a better position.

You feel AGE when you are below EXPECTATIONS (Par).

This explains why people who have surpassed their expectations have a YOUNG mentality and people who are below Par FEEL OLD.

Increase your DRIVE to meet your expectations or lower them. Your PROGRESS REPORT on life is ticking. Your expectations are fighting against the clock.

In some ways this may be healthy. This is your core DRIVE. This is what propels you to improve. Life losses passion and meaning without purpose.

On the flip side, too much expectation with little results causes needless STRESS.

Moderation is key. Stress vs Complacency.

Live in the present. Do not let your accomplishments or lack thereof define your value.

 

[Latinoman]

This might sound weird...but I'm looking forward for my 40s.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

The great pitcher Satchel Page said about age:


"Age is mind over matter.

If you don't mind, it don't matter"


Taiyuu

 

[Sun Tzu]

Joekerr, despite my catching you in what I perceived as a contradiction a few weeks ago, you are rapidly rising as one of the most sensible people on this forum. Your input is always meaningful and helpful in a practical sense. Keep up the great work.

 

[joekerr31]

the thing about life that is hard to accept is that everything is dying.

life = death.

the reason hitting your 30s is hard i think has more to do with your parents age. i know that i fear my mothers death more than i fear my own one day.

if our parents lived to be 150 years old, people wouldn't be taking anything serious in their 30s, much less feeling 'old'.

but the 30s are the last stop for women having kids. we are also watching our parents officially become 'seniors'. etc.

its a tough time for many because its a time where we realize that life is not going to stay the same. and that there are going to be many very difficult moments to deal with in the future.

but im telling you guys, im 100% convinced of this.... you MUST learn to live life from the perspective of appreciation. you must.

because if you don't, life will crush you. if you are focused on what you dont have, we'll guess what, as time goes on you will have less and less. if you marry your wife will get uglier. your parents will die. odds are a friend or two will someone end up dead. etc.

if you already feel you have nothing, then as you lose these things, life will become unbearable. so you MUST learn to appreciate everythign that you do have. so that even when life's hardships arise (as they are guaranteed to do) you are able to bear them because you carry on with an attitude of appreciation for what you still have.

being young is to be naive and ignorant, thats what makes it easy. being older is to deal with life's realities head on, which is what makes it hard. BUT, just because its hard, doesn't mean that life can't also be enjoyable.

 

[joekerr31]

Joekerr, despite my catching you in what I perceived as a contradiction a few weeks ago, you are rapidly rising as one of the most sensible people on this forum. Your input is always meaningful and helpful in a practical sense. Keep up the great work.

thanks ST. im sure i am contradictory at times. i by no means think i bat 100% all the time. but more often than not when i get up to bat I manage to get at least a base hit