It's amusing to see that they get all disappointed when they find out you have another woman or two lined up already. It just happened to me in school. I brought another girl home for the holiday weekend and the older one who discarded me started acting insecure and trying to chat me up daily.
Ever been "used and tossed aside"? Howd it make you feel?
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SamTheHobit
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I think people should get used to being used and using people. It's just the way the world works at the moment. There is no place for complacency.
There were attempts to... several of them. They had no problems lying their asses off to everyone involved, either... including the boyfriend's they were trying to cheat on. Some of them were incredibly conniving and manipulative throughout it all, and I bought right into all the lies, excuses, sympathy pleas, delusional claims they made about themselves, etc. Not to mention, excusing and justifying everything they did wrong - literally as they were being manipulative and abusive towards me. :trouble:
Just made me realize that women aren't innocent, and can be quite deceptive, scheming, and abusive to achieve their selfish agendas - while playing the victim and blaming everyone else for everything... which was part of their manipulation in itself. As well as how shallow and status-obsessed they really are. Opened my eyes wide open.
Of course, at the time, I was devastated - having the fairytale romance mindset going on, and all. Gave my heart to one too many scheming sluts - without actually realizing it. Looked for and saw the good in everyone, etc. Got used, played, and manipulated all over the place - by fake *****es, no less.
It was interesting to see how quickly they lost interest and/or became abusive and resentful once they found out they couldn't cheat on their boyfriend's with me, use me for sex, etc. But that didn't stop them from using me in other ways... all while complaining about how shallow, selfish, and objectifying everyone else was - to THEM. Pretty funny looking back on it now, and made me realize that you can't believe or trust ****. And especially to avoid the damsel in distress, whorish / shallow women, dysfunctional / bad types, etc. They'll stop at nothing to get what they want - only to piss and moan when they can't use and play everyone. WTF? Crazy *****es with no substance or class. :box:
Of course, the real kicker was, this was all a game to increase their rep and be considered "high class". It's all these fake, loser women cared about... to fit in and blah blah. That's what insecurity, low self-esteem, and daddy issues do, I guess. HA HA. :kick:
Once you realize that all these people - bullies, sluts, players, douchebags, status wh0res, drama-gossip fake bishes, etc - are nothing more than useless losers, it tends to not mean much. Why get bothered over a loser, or care about what they do or say? They're losers... it's what they do.
Just made me realize that women aren't innocent, and can be quite deceptive, scheming, and abusive to achieve their selfish agendas - while playing the victim and blaming everyone else for everything... which was part of their manipulation in itself. As well as how shallow and status-obsessed they really are. Opened my eyes wide open.
Of course, at the time, I was devastated - having the fairytale romance mindset going on, and all. Gave my heart to one too many scheming sluts - without actually realizing it. Looked for and saw the good in everyone, etc. Got used, played, and manipulated all over the place - by fake *****es, no less.
It was interesting to see how quickly they lost interest and/or became abusive and resentful once they found out they couldn't cheat on their boyfriend's with me, use me for sex, etc. But that didn't stop them from using me in other ways... all while complaining about how shallow, selfish, and objectifying everyone else was - to THEM. Pretty funny looking back on it now, and made me realize that you can't believe or trust ****. And especially to avoid the damsel in distress, whorish / shallow women, dysfunctional / bad types, etc. They'll stop at nothing to get what they want - only to piss and moan when they can't use and play everyone. WTF? Crazy *****es with no substance or class. :box:
Of course, the real kicker was, this was all a game to increase their rep and be considered "high class". It's all these fake, loser women cared about... to fit in and blah blah. That's what insecurity, low self-esteem, and daddy issues do, I guess. HA HA. :kick:
Once you realize that all these people - bullies, sluts, players, douchebags, status wh0res, drama-gossip fake bishes, etc - are nothing more than useless losers, it tends to not mean much. Why get bothered over a loser, or care about what they do or say? They're losers... it's what they do.
Not necessarily (on the second part). There was a great quote from Machaevili about this... It suggested that, just because you recognize the devious, cunning, manipulative ways of others, and know EXACTLY what their "tactics" are - through first-hand experience, of course - doesn't mean you become like them. It's a tool to spot and defend yourself against those who do. But you first need to experience it to recognize these patterns of toxic people. So, you get used, bullied, played, whatever... It sucks; it changes you; makes you cynical and jaded; but also opens your eyes - so that it doesn't happen again. You know EXACTLY what to look for; that **** is implanted in your brain (since it was so "evil", devious, cunning, abusive, whatever... it's trauma, and you know EXACTLY what happened, and how / why).SamTheHobit said:
Of course, some people choose the route of not giving a **** and becoming revengeful - only to throw themselves right into the lion's den, and becoming / attracting exactly what they hate. It's quite the vicious cycle from there. Then you also have karma to deal with.
Just gotta recognize the patterns of toxic people, and either avoid them, or accept responsibility for getting involved with them. Even insofar as trying to be the hero-savior (needy, co-dependant, insecure) white knight, or being addicted to chaos / drama / uncertainty, OR putting yourself in the victim position for EVERYTHING. None of that "it's not my fault; I didn't know" nonsense.
My question would then be ... how in the world did you ever get to the point in life when you didn't realize that people are this way? Did you think men were and women weren't? Everybody is. Ask yourself: how did I get to the point where I thought that women were ideal princesses, outside the realm of human imperfection?floydb25 said:
Y'know... I ask myself the same thing... I was rediculously naive and oblivious to EVERYTHING. But I started late, and didn't have a lot of experience with people... then rushed in head & heart first, and got a major rude awakening.Zarky said:
How I envisioned things to be came NO WHERE close to reality. I figured, if you were a certain "decent" way - it would be reciprocated. They were only "acting" like losers and *******s to protect themselves, fit in, or whatever. Tried to see the good in everyone, sympathized with and believed everything, thought they were fair and reasonable... Pshaw... Didn't realize how fake, shallow, insecure, egotistical, selfish, "territorial", competitive, dysfunctional, etc, so many people were. I thought that they were all nice and decent deep down, or that befriending and dating them would be different. Didn't realize how serious or damaging everything was... even as it was happening.
Definitely got taken advantage of a lot... thought everyone wanted to be my "friend", had my back, was looking out for my best interests, etc... But fake people know how to pretend, and act like they're helping, guiding, protecting, etc - as they're using weaknesses against you, taking sides against you, trying to control and keep you beneath them, making sure you fail, etc. As well, they know how to charm and sweet talk the unsuspecting. They're great actors, and have excellent street skills... especially the abusive / controlling ones.
But I also had NO self-esteem, co-dependancy and approval-seeking issues, was very negative and depressed, didn't stand up for or assert myself... attracted losers and *******s left and right.
Had quite the blue pill experience with people.