I've gotten hit on by them a bunch of times, and I take it as a compliment, but it also messed me up with girls a little, because I saw them using the same tactics on me as I was using on girls, and those tactics were making me uncomfortable.
I hang out in gay areas a lot, and go to art college, so I'm around them a lot. They're always offering bl0wjobs... It's fine when they're polite about it, but awkward, cuz although being bisexual doesn't fit into my self image, I know a BJ from a guy would probably be good (they know what to do cuz they have ****s themselves)
...And so being around them after they proposition me is a little awkward cuz there's a little bit of conflict inside me. Which is exactly the feeling GIRLS get around guys who they know are sexually interested in them...
It doesn't fit into most girls' self images to hook up casually ["I'm not a slut!"], but it would still feel good for them.
Other times, I've had gay guys feel me up, pinch my ass, rub my **** through my pants, etc. Basically, they're kino escalating and being direct with their come-ons. It made me uncomfortable, but I didn't NOT like it, so I'd get them to stop halfheartedly. My sexual attitude is pretty open; I can derive pleasure from fat/ugly/old women, to a point, and although I'm not specifically attracted to men at all, I feel like our aversion to them is societally installed, rather than natural. So, it wasn't that unpleasant but it didn't fit my self-image at all.
Then there were the couple of gay guys who tried to go indirect, which made me lose respect for them (I'm sure there have been others who were so indirect I never found out...) They'd make conversation, and it would be awkward.
Then there were the couple of gay guys who gave me drugs because they wanted to blow me... I accepted the drugs and free drinks, but didn't intend to let them do anything... Just like a hot girl, huh? (They were buying my time and attention. I'd say "don't be this guy with girls", but it did get me to hang around them for a little bit. Although, they could have just been direct and said "I want to get to know you, come over here, let's just talk for a bit" or something.)
All in all, it's interesting seeing what game looks like from the other side. I honestly think that if a gay guy had good enough game, he could get me. It would probably take more persistence and confidence than any of the guys who have tried have had. (I'm sure they'd be more confident if there wasn't the threat of violent homophobes, but it's more like the mental knowledge that the guy wants it.) Cuz although most of me doesn't want it, a little part of me does (bi curious?) and if some guy had 100% confidence that I was down for it, he would do better. Maybe. I don't know cuz it hasn't happened. But it seems like that's the lesson to take away for gaming women... Although their conscious mind DOESN'T want it because it doesn't fit into their self image, their physicality plays a different game, so you should speak to that instead. Maybe.
The alternative way a guy could possibly get me, which is probably more pleasant, is to get to know me as a friend, without a hint of sexual interest in me directly. Don't hide your sexuality, but don't come onto me, which would engage my ASD! If I thought you actually considered me a friend, rather than just a sex prospect whom you're trying to get into bed, then I would be much more open to that stuff. So... THAT'S the lesson I need to take away for gaming women... Befriend them for real, and THEN let sex happen. I dunno... I don't believe men and women can be JUST platonic friends, because one is probably always attracted to the other. But I had the scenario I described play out one time, with a longtime friend, although I kissed her to start off the sexual part. She said she was fine with casual sex with me as long as she felt respected, and I think that "feeling respected" is very important to the conscious mind (for bypassing ASD.)
