Even when women don’t know you, their first question is still “so what do you do?”

[SW15]

How right you are! Before I gave up online dating I went out with a few women in their mid 30’s and they all had this weird concept of making a guy wait a month to sleep with them. The problem is when the month came they’d break it off with the guy! So basically they were never into him but wasted his time for a month. I heard these stories with my own ears. The last one I went out with was 35, 10lbs overweight and gray hairs were starting to show. She tried the “I don’t sleep with anyone until a month” bs and I just laughed and said “good luck with that strategy”. I blocked her number walking back to my truck.

These women in their 30s that make you wait a month to have sex with them and/or ask for exclusivity as a condition of sex are doing so because of past failed interactions, mainly pump and dumps. That goes against one of the Iron Rules of Tomassi.

The Iron Rules of Tomassi

One of the most influential books in my life has been The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. It’s a book I wish every man could read, and I…

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Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

I have not seen women in their 20s enforce such a rule.

 

[Robert28]

These women in their 30s that make you wait a month to have sex with them and/or ask for exclusivity as a condition of sex are doing so because of past failed interactions, mainly pump and dumps. That goes against one of the Iron Rules of Tomassi.

The Iron Rules of Tomassi

One of the most influential books in my life has been The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. It’s a book I wish every man could read, and I…

medium.com

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

I have not seen women in their 20s enforce such a rule.

What I didn’t get is why hang around the guy for a month and then dump him when that month is up. Are they ever expecting to find anyone that way? This was just our first date and when she brought up the waiting a month stuff and let it slip she made the last guy wait, I knew this would be my only date with her. Just seems very common with the 30’s women crowd. This is a failing strategy for sure, I just didn’t understand why they would dump the guy after the month.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

What if she's a virgin who's very reserved?

 

[SW15]

What if she's a virgin who's very reserved?

Most men are not going to run into those. I think the men that participate here are even less likely than the typical man to encounter that. You'd have to be young, a devout practitioner of a religion, and dating fellow practitioners of that religion to be in that situation.

 

[Robert28]

What if she's a virgin who's very reserved?

In all my life I’ve met ONE girl in her 30’s who was a virgin who was pretty decent looking.

 

[DonJuanjr]

In all my life I’ve met ONE girl in her 30’s who was a virgin who was pretty decent looking.

I guess I was off topic, in that my question wasn't age related.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

I’m an author. Somehow women find that sexy. I think it’s probably a combination of the fact that i work on my own hours, giving me independence, and also the deeper wisdom and understanding of life that all good writers seem to have. (This is mostly bs of course, we just have had more experience forming our opinions about the world in good wording.)

 

[Black Widow Void]

Hard to say if she was sizing you up or if she's the typical simpleton with shallow conversation skills.

I have a few answers for that intro... "what do you do for a living" question.

Man: What do you do for a living?
Me: I don't define myself or others in terms of their labor and I'm sure that there's more to you than that. Tell me something unique about yourself.

Woman: What do you do for a living?
Me: (giving my most serious and sincere look) I'm a pole dancer at the senior women's auxiliary. How about you?

If I'm put off by the person (no matter their gender)
What do you do for a living?
Me: Oh jeeeze, I guess the next thing is that you're going to talk about the weather. Ever had a flying dream?

 

[manfrombelow]

Well, I'd take that as a normal, subconsciously way for her to break the ice and start a conversation with a stranger. Nothing further than that.

Making a mountain outta a molehill is actually a female trait, so as a man, you wouldn't want to incorporate it into your life.

 

[bat soup]

I was with a buddy the other day and he bumped into a girl he knows. She wasn’t very attractive (to me anyways) so I just kind of stared off at what was going on around us while they chatted. He never introduced me, which was fine, because I wasn’t really wanting to meet her anyways. After they talked for about 5 mins she looks at me and goes “so what do you do?”. Not my name, she went straight for the question of sizing me up to see how much I made. I just responded “little bit of this, little bit of that” because I didn’t want her to know anything about me. I just was was taken back by how women don’t even try to hide their gold digging ways. She just assumed that I’d like her if she heard what she wanted from me ($$$) and proceed to ask more questions in order to “get to know me”. I knew where this was headed so I “pretended” to get a call and walk off from them.lol

I was with a buddy the other day and he bumped into a girl he knows. She wasn’t very attractive (to me anyways) so I just kind of stared off at what was going on around us while they chatted. He never introduced me, which was fine, because I wasn’t really wanting to meet her anyways. After they talked for about 5 mins she looks at me and goes “so what do you do?”. Not my name, she went straight for the question of sizing me up to see how much I made. I just responded “little bit of this, little bit of that” because I didn’t want her to know anything about me. I just was was taken back by how women don’t even try to hide their gold digging ways. She just assumed that I’d like her if she heard what she wanted from me ($$$) and proceed to ask more questions in order to “get to know me”. I knew where this was headed so I “pretended” to get a call and walk off from them.lol

Women are always curious about what jobs they don't have to do.