Even long-time marriages are starting to fail. We aren't meant to be monogamous.

[jakethasnake]

http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&u=/ap/20031126/ap_on_re_us/belated_divorces_1


I just thought it was a short, interesting read. It's food for thought, nothing too deep.

 

[DEKKA]

i swear i read that article like 4 mins before you posted it up...
weird

 

[jakethasnake]

Yeah, I guess so.

 

[bonjove]

Maybe I am just being bitter, but I think marriage is all BS to begin with. If one of you doesn't leave then one of you has to die first leaving the other one alone anyways. What's the point?

 

[Monkey]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
We aren't meant to be monogamous.

We could also say we aren't meant to get up every day at a certain time and go to a boring job and get crappy money and waste our lives doing nothing other than drinking and spending money on crap we don't need.

We should be running around hunting wild animals and multiplying like rabbits. BS

The only people who try to justify that we are not meant to be monogmous are the same losers who would cheat on their wives for some easy ass then blame 'nature'. Very sad.

As intelligent humans we are 'meant' to be anything we want to be.

 

[prosemont]

I know first hand SEVERAL marriages that have failed after the couple has been married 30-45 years and they are in their 50s and 60s. Most of those marriages must have had problems for years and years but they stuck together for various reasons until they woke up one day and said "what the fvck am I doing??" Life is too short to be unhappy in a marriage.

It's shocking when you hear about it because you think that a couple who has been together for 30+ years have been able to work everything out and that they are somewhat of a role model. Not always true.

And, it's not always about monogamy; sometimes there aren't third parties involved and that is not the reason for the breakup.

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by Monkey
We could also say we aren't meant to get up every day at a certain time and go to a boring job and get crappy money and waste our lives doing nothing other than drinking and spending money on crap we don't need.

We should be running around hunting wild animals and multiplying like rabbits. BS

The only people who try to justify that we are not meant to be monogmous are the same losers who would cheat on their wives for some easy ass then blame 'nature'. Very sad.

As intelligent humans we are 'meant' to be anything we want to be.

****in A.

 

[Legend]

****in A.

well said

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by Monkey
We could also say we aren't meant to get up every day at a certain time and go to a boring job and get crappy money and waste our lives doing nothing other than drinking and spending money on crap we don't need.

We should be running around hunting wild animals and multiplying like rabbits. BS

The only people who try to justify that we are not meant to be monogmous are the same losers who would cheat on their wives for some easy ass then blame 'nature'. Very sad.

As intelligent humans we are 'meant' to be anything we want to be.

Don't call me a loser. And I had no idea monkeys were so intelligent. Amazing.

 

[Monkey]

Throw me a banana and I'll do another trick


Wasn't calling you personally a loser jake

 

[jakethasnake]

okay

 

[Sting]

We could also say we aren't meant to get up every day at a certain time and go to a boring job and get crappy money and waste our lives doing nothing other than drinking and spending money on crap we don't need.

You’re not meant to get up every day at a certain time and go to a boring job and get crappy money, etc… Most people “choose” to do so when faced with very limited options – options that are of their own making. Every decision you make affects your life in some way. The key is recognizing which decisions will affect your life in major ways, and which ones won’t. Then again, it’s far easier to simply let life carry you along, rather than making well-educated decisions.

As intelligent humans we are 'meant' to be anything we want to be.

Agreed. But it’s one thing to say I have unlimited potential, and it’s another to show me that I do. All of the inspirational pep talks in the world won’t help me realize my potential. This is why I don’t put much stock in inspirational speakers such as Tony Robbins, etc… They’re great at getting people “feel,” but they’re not very good at showing people how to change.

 

[MackJr]

I think it's all about attitudes. The attitude today is very short term. People base their marriages on emotions instead of the value of a stable marriage and so they quit when it gets tough instead of trying to change.

Isn't becoming a DJ in part about ignoring surface emotions to manage women better?

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by MackJr
I think it's all about attitudes. The attitude today is very short term. People base their marriages on emotions instead of the value of a stable marriage and so they quit when it gets tough instead of trying to change.

Isn't becoming a DJ in part about ignoring surface emotions to manage women better?

Yeah I agree, however Prosemonts point about couples breaking up when they are in their 60's puts an end to this theory to some extent! It is better to be single than be in a bad relationship, however it is better to be in a good relationship that to be single. Guess these lines are hard to draw, you just gotta make a decision and keep moving forward with your life!

 

[squirrels]

People who are unhappy in their marriages are people who get married just to be married. Just so they can tell all their friends and family that they're married and are "part of the club" now.

Marriage is something you do when you're ABSOLUTELY sure, not before.

Our society tries to force unmarried couples into marriage because there are so many people who got married when they weren't absolutely sure they wanted to be, and they try to justify it to themselves by saying, "Hey, everyone around me is married!" Thus, they try to convince all their friends that married is the way to be, to feel better about themselves.

Anything that you do because you feel that you HAVE to do it is less likely to last than something you do because you CHOOSE to do it. DOn't let anyone...your girl, your family, your friends, ANYONE, pressure you into such a life-changing decision. That decision should be YOURS alone and you should do it not because you want to get married, but because this girl IS the only one you'll ever want to be with again and you can honestly look yourself in the eye and say, "if I coudl have this girl every night for the rest of my life, I would be perfectly content giving up all others."

If you can't do that, then don't get married. No matter what ANYONE says. It'll just make you both worse off.

 

[MackJr]

I don't know. In countries with arranged marriage, there's 1/20 the amount of divorce. They weren't in love with each other when they married. They don't divorce because their families would never let them get away with it.

So the reason people get divorced is because they can

And I think american women want to divorce badly because they're into the whole romantic-emotional trip thing. You see a grown woman from another country, and they are hardasses. They aren't weak, they think things through. I think I'd never be able to seduce a somalian woman, for example.

 

[00Kevin]

When you get marred it is an unconditional oath that you take. Most people in today’s society are not raised to respect that anymore. People today don’t have honor enough to maintain a marriage and they don’t understand what an oath is. Don’t ever expect a modern woman to understand that concept.
People that get married should be willing to go through all the troubles involved and deal with the emotional pain that will inevitably occur. Marriage is really about upholding a virtue at all costs. It is a life long test of character. That's why you need to make damn sure you found the right person and put them to the test.
Women don't understand this. They think that it is the mans job to make them happy. Marriage to a woman is a fantasy. They don't get married for the honor of it they get marred for the fantasy of it.

Most women are not worth it . Even if you are totally in love with her don't get married. Marriage isn't a fantasy.. A man should only get married if he wants to raise children and have a family.

But don't worry there are women out there that don't want kids and don't want to get married.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Originally posted by MackJr
the reason people get divorced is because they can

That's about the size of it. Where divorce is legally and culturally allowed -- it occurs.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
Marriage is really about upholding a virtue at all costs. It is a life long test of character. That's why you need to make damn sure you found the right person and put them to the test.

That seems to be contradictory. If marriage is a test of virtue, you should marry the worst possible mate -- and then your virtue is really tested. If you marry the best possible mate, there isn't much of a test of virtue to remain married.