European-Dj's Journal [From Chump To Champ, Let's go!]

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It wasn’t until yesterday that I realized what a chump I have become.

I haven’t always been like this. As a kid, I was highly ambitious and competitive – to a point where it wasn’t healthy – any assignment or challenge put in my hands, I would overdo, I would give it my all, and was always aiming to be the best. There was not an assignment given to me that I did not finish.
I was an exceptional racing driver and won almost everything I competed in, but due to the fact that I was raised under very poor conditions I hit the wall of insufficient funds – and like many other drivers – I had to kill my dreams of becoming a professional driver. Back then I was either swimming or running each day, and was in very good shape and had great health. I still remember the respect given to me, and how the girls would – literally – be chasing me.

When I trough of my shirt and stand in front of the mirror, comparing the kid on the pictures with the one I see in the reflection, - besides the brown eyes - I see no similarities whatsoever.
If only it was the physical part of me that had changed to the worse… but it isn’t; the way I think, the way I carry myself, the way I act and interact with others, there is nothing I can recognise.

I have become what I hated the most as a kid; a chubby, lazy and stupid 19 year old, who thinks everything, will come to him without him raising as much as a finger.

Reason for Journaling:

By journaling, I get the chance of following my progress, my thoughts and my ‘evolution’ with exact time stamps, and hopefully – within less than a year - being able to look back at this exact day, and laugh out loud, while enjoying the champ I have become.

The reason for keeping an public journal on SoSuave, Is that I hope to get some advice from the older and more experienced DJ’s, whom I am familiar with visiting this forum.

Goals & Tools:

On the left side of the ‘|‘symbol will be my goals, and on the right side my tools/ways.

Achieving better grades | Studying at least 2 hours a day, after school.
Getting healthy and fit | Exercise at least 3 times a week, using the health section for support.
Become better with girls | Starting from scratch, rereading the DJ bible and putting myself out there.
Starting my own business | Studying my domestic regulations for starting a firm (an old dream).

Current stats:

Age: 19 Years
Height: 5 feet 9 inches
Weight: 165lbs
Lay count: 12 (My grandfather, a true ladies man, once told me; not before bedding 50 girls, can you tell good sex from bad)

Let's Go!
 

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7th of April - 2012

Background for this post:
After having my second … I lack the words to describe this episode, the term unsuccessful is simply too positive … let us say: My second jumbo sized fvckup of a night out, I have decided to cut the clubs for a month, and instead focus on self-improvement and school (I will hit the clubs Sunday though, as I have promised a lot of friends that I will be there).

The reason, for the above, being that I have lost my skill of successful approaching – YES; lost it, I used to have a success rate of 65-75% in terms of kiss close. The F-close has always been a huge issue for me, since I am being a “gentleman” in bed (In other terms, a hesitant dumbass).
I am not sure, whether or whether not, my recent break-up (Girlfriend of 8 months, today 9 days ago) has something to do with it – It could be that my confidence, and attitude, suffered a great hit; or due to the fact that I have let myself get in the state/shape I am within at the moment.

Getting past my ex:
I think it was “PairOfRoyalFlush” who told me, that I should first allow myself to be happy alone – without a girl – before moving back into the dating game. While I do not doubt the truth of this, I guess my coping method involves dating as many girls as possible, as a pathetic attempt to completely forget my Ex.
To gain some experience, I have decided to put the “Fvck 10 other girls, to forget your One-itis/ex” theory to the test.
At the moment I have reached 3 (2 of them being girls I already fvcked, one of them being a new girl) – I will add this goal to my Long Term Goals list.

Goals for the upcoming week:

I was once told that going for short term goals would do me the best.

I have therefore decided, that my goals of week one (9th-16th of April) will be the following:

Short Term Goals:
  • Sleep 8-10 Hours each night
  • Study at least 2 hours each day (school)
  • Study at least 1 hour each day (seduction)
  • Workout 3 times a week
  • Eat every 3rd hour (5 small meals, instead of two large)
  • Drink 3L of water each day
  • Drink a cup of milk each day
  • Bed one girl by the end of the following week

Long Term Goals:
  • Put the “Fvck 10 other girls, to forget your One-itis/ex” to the test (Score since breakup: 3)

At the moment, I haven’t set myself for any long term goals, but they will - eventually - come.
 

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Also 19 here and working towards similar goals. Subbed.
 

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11th of april 2012

I have decided to update my journal twice a week. Every Wednesday, and every Sunday (indicating the end of one week, and the beginning of another).

Since last update:
I have mixed feelings about this week so far.

On one side, I haven’t been following my goals to the optimum (read ‘Goals so far’), but still have had a pretty good week.
As I stated in my last post, I have decided to cut the clubbing scene completely… Today though, I realized, that I already agreed to attend the birthday party of a great friend’s girlfriend. So I have to compromise my goals, and hit the clubs this Saturday. Nevertheless I will cut down alcohol and force myself to socialize – if I am going to hit the clubs, at least I should gain some positive experience.

Saturday night:
Last Saturday when I was ‘forced’ to go clubbing with my friends, I had a blast. We were having fun, playing some pool and table soccer, when all of the sudden this Brunette HB8 asks me if she could give it a try on the pool table, to which I answerd something in the lines of:

“Of course you can; but miss and you will buy me a shoot; Put the ball in and I will play you for one”.


She got the ball in, and we played a couple of games of pool (she and her girl, vs. me and my friend) – when we were done, she offered me some shoots – Long story short, I ended up Fvcking her at my place.

HB7.5 (let us call her ‘Monica’):
I have been seeing, texting and meeting up with this girl for quite a while now (I have known her for 5 months). I know she is madly in love with me, and she has the personality of the innocent girl. She is a very well mannered, virgin-like, cute girl. I love to hang out with her, and kissing her is the best (softest lips out there); but to be honest, I am wondering whether I should continue seeing her or not… I know she will get hurt if I decide to fvck her, because I am in no interest of a relationship; but damn I would like to nail her! …

Goals So Far:
I find it hard to keep up with my goals of drinking 3L of water, and eating healthier.
The drinking part is simply overwhelming; going from 3 glasses to 3L’s is an enormous change – I will do this in smaller steps.
I have to be honest with myself and admit, that I have eaten waaay too much, and waaay too unhealthy these days; and the '5 small meals a day' plan, well… I totally forgot about it, tomorrow will be the day though!

I have been keeping up with my exercising and reading… And well, I did complete the goal of bedding a new girl!

Current stats:
Age: 19 Years
Height: 5 feet 9 inches
Weight: 167lbs (+2LBS, and I guess it is fat)
Lay count: 13 (+1)
 

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19th of April

Much time has passed since my last update, and I apologise. I have put up a new goal, which is, to keep track of my journaling, and updating it at least twice a week.

Since Last Update

Sunday Night:
Sunday night, I had a girl visit me from great distance. She sat 3 hours in train to visit me, so I knew some kind of attraction/interest was within her.
She was a brunette, a solid 7 (a perfect 10’er is nonexistent in my world). I gave her a grand tour of the city, and it seemed like she enjoyed it.
Usually I never pay for dinner at the first meeting, but considering the price of her ticket (100$) I thought it was the right thing to do.
We went to my place, put on a movie and made-out/kissing passionately all night. Even though I tried initiating sex all night, it never happened – I knew she wanted to, she told me later on, but whenever I lay in bed with a sober girl, I have great problems initiating sex… It is some mental block I guess.

Monday:
I went to school and left her to sleep in. When I came home, we started cuddling – one thing led to another, and as soon as she grabbed my ****, I knew it was on, and I had no problem ripping her clothes of and banging her.. so I guess, that’s another +1…
I followed her to the train, and ended up watching a movie/doing nothing the rest of the day.

“Monica”.
Monica came for a sleepover yesterday, but once again, nothing but kissing – I didn’t even try with this girl… when taken into consideration the amount of guys she has slept with (2, and the girls is 21), it kind of frightens me… I guess I just have to go a bit more aggressive, cuddle up start rubbing her and just fvck her brains out (this is really something I would like to do).

Fvck the moral issue I had last week, this girl have to be nailed….

Hb8.5 – 6 feet tall! – (Let us call her O’neil).
We met in a club for the second time, and kissing and make-outs happened.
So, I went on a date with this 6 feet tall blonde – she is cute, good looking, sporty and well mannered; the thing is, this girl is slightly taller than me.
For some reason, I am frightened by her height, I think about it constantly, and I almost shvt bricks whenever I see us in the mirror Ha Ha.

I never got to kiss her, but I didn’t initiate either... she asked me to meet up a second time though, so I guess I didn’t fvck up completely… I am a bit worried about being put into the Friend Zone, since I am building no sexual tension whatsoever! … Damn me!

Goals so far:

The following is all great! Drinking water; drinking milk; running; working out; sleeping well.

As far as studying, I am falling a bit behind, I lack the motivation and in some cases, the time.
I must get this up and running, or else I will be screwed. The finals are in 2 months..

Current stats:
Age: 19 Years
Height: 5 feet 9 inches
Weight: 167lbs
Lay count: 14 (+1)
 

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How are your goals doing? Let me ask something, is it not and correct me if im wrong, is it not true that when you put your mind to something you have a great chance of reaching your goals?
 

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Hi Exile663dfx.

Read the last post, under "Goals so far".

The goals are doing great; the STUDYING though, is a bit slow.

I must admit, that having posted these goals on a "Public-forum", is definitely putting some pressure on me – and they are easier to follow.

This Sunday, I will add/redefine my goals, and give a deeper evaluation of them so far.
 

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Well you got to make them reasonable. And I think yours are, just a bit of work to put in.
 

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23rd of April 2012

Since last time:
Something amazing have happened.. I have been a moron, and a late bloomer (had my first sexual intercourse at the age of 16) …
But I think I found the way to getting an F-buddy - At least I believe I have 3 at the moment…
I have fvcked them for 2-6 months, so I believe they are F-buddies.
I only see them for SEX – no feelings -, but it think it isn’t vice verca.


Two of them were first night lays, the last.. Well read on.
F-buddy #1:
This girl was at a company party, and I knew she would be fired the following weekday (so I don’t know whether I broke my own rule or not – considering dating people from work??)

F-buddy#2:
I work as a Shop-in-shop salesman. This girl is one of the employees in the shop I am within (so not my company). I met her at the clubs while being with a mutual friend of mine.
I was fooling around with them, and telling our mutual friend how I would fvck F-buddy#2, if she didn’t want to go home with me… even though this started as a joke, I ended up bedding her the same night .. Definitely something I will try again haha..

F-buddy#3:
Random girl from a club.
I did massive flirting and kissed her a bit, but had to go early due to work the following day…
When I went home I was like “damn [Her name]… I am really disappointed that you didn’t go home with me tonight… You know, people from [The country I originate from] are known as the best lovers”.
All of this was said in a funny tone, and ended it with a wink.
The next day, she came home to me and hit the sheets.

I see each of them once every second week and text them regularly…
After our first lay, I texted them first as well… they were all very surprised and happy that I texted, for some reason I had given them the felling that I “wouldn’t call back” … I really don’t know were that come from…

So each time you fvck a girl – my tip is - make sure to contact her! .. Don't wait the silly 4-7 days? You are the man… so just txt her and keep light convo, BUT DON’T CHOKE HER IN TXT, I secretly believe a lot of the “big AFC’s” on sosuave is doing this, and that is why girls flake on dates.
 

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28th of April

Since last time

This is a long one!

Overall, things have been going well.
I am eating a bit too much Junk-food; went to a party the other night; got an ONS; a huge turnaround happened in-between “O’neil” and I.

Junk-food:
I have always had a tooth for sweets and junk, and apparently the current time is of no difference.
I am eating a lot of fast-food, processed foods, and foods that is no good for me.
Even though I realise that I have no benefits whatsoever of these foods, for some reason, I keep eating them.
I don’t know who said it, but I once read that a habit takes 28 days to break. So from today, no fast-food whatsoever for me – at least for 30 days!

The Party & ONS:
Even though one of my goals was cutting the clubbing scene, I must admit, I hit the clubs both Thursday and Friday of this week – The reason being a primary school reunion Thursday, and “O’neil” Friday.

Thursday:
After showing the people from primary school what a person I have become, and getting mad props from our old teachers, I was ready to hit the clubs.
When we arrived at the club, I had negotiated a table, a bottle of vodka and 6 red bulls (free of charge), the reason being that we entered 12 persons at once.
During the night I was in a high gear, but only did 2 approaches (because no more were needed).

The first approach was a girl I had seen before. Actually I had spoken to her too; her price tag was once still hanging from her shirt Ha Ha – a beautiful brunette, Hb8.5. The reason for the approach, was legitimately that I wanted to take a funny picture, and for that, I needed a cute girl – so what the hell, right?
I went up to her, spoke for like 10 seconds and she followed me to my table. Right before the picture was taken; she recognised me and once again thanked me for removing her price tag.
I then started applying a bit of ****iness, and told her to give me a kiss on the cheeks for the favour; she did, and mild flirting was initiated.
I later realised this girl was very flirty – not only with me – so I just handed her my number, and moved on to another girl – she have not texted me yet, and I am going to be very surprised if she ever does.

The second approach was a bit hesitated.
I and my friend were like “shall we? Shall we not?” the reason being that two Asian dudes has just tried, and got shoot down, so it could have been frustrating for the girls to be approached once again, no more than two seconds later – but what the hell, what is the worst thing that could happen?

Let us call the girl whom I spoke to ‘blonde’, and the blonde’s friend ‘BF’.
As I spoke to the blonde, my friends would literally crash and burn right next to me with ’BF’ – apparently she was a man eater. When all of my friends had been through the filtering process, I made sure to befriend ‘BF’, and always have her doing something so she wasn’t bored; always keeping her within the convo; making sure she had a great time too.
Apparently ‘blonde’ was noticing all of this, and gave me a lot of props for giving her friend such a great time! They went dancing, and I went outside to breath in some fresh air.

Standing outside, I started befriended the bouncer, and some random guy whom the bouncer had just thrown out. It was a combination of a very fun- and yet serious conversation, I enjoyed it very much.

I must have been standing up there for at least 30 minutes, time were flying, when all of the sudden ‘blonde’ and ‘BF’ came up, telling me that they had been looking for me.
I then asked ‘blonde’ if she was ready to get going, and if we should hit my place or hers – to which they both laughed. To my surprise, the man eating ‘BF’ walked up to me, padded me on the shoulders and told me I should go easy on her, and that she would find her own way home – I gave her a hug and started walking down the street with ‘Blonde’ while teasing her.
I was just about to ask her to pay for a cab home, when I saw the random guy once again – quickly I befriended him and asked if he wanted to take a cab together, too which he agreed.

He ended up paying the cab, and I ended up fvcking the blonde.

I had a table, a bottle, got drunk, had a cab home, and ended up bedding a cute blonde. Spending no more than a total of ~ 4$ – WIN!!

Friday:
After attending school with a major hangover, I went straight home to bed and slept until 22pm.
I have had an agreement to meet up with ‘O’neil’ today, so even though I wanted to sleep in, I got up, put on some jeans and a blazer (I love that combination), and hit the club once again.

Well long story short, she literally introduced me to all of her friends (male & female), and we had a lot of fun – until I was all alone with her and the conversation went dead. I though this was it, and just excused myself as I had to be up for work, at 7 AM the following day. She followed me to the door of the club. I thought this was the end of our ‘Relationship’, when she gave me that specific look and I knew to go for it.

We kissed for like 5 minutes total, when all of the suddenly she asked me to find a day were I could visit her, apparently she has told her parents about me, and they are eager to meet me.. Wtf?...
Well, I told her I would come on one condition; if she would cook for me (inside joke - she really has no clue how to cook) we laughed and kissed goodbye, so after all I think we ended on a high note?

Tonight
the girl who took the 3 hour train ride last week is coming once again – I smell a new fvck-buddy coming up!

Current stats:
Age: 19 Years
Height: 5 feet 9 inches
Weight: 167lbs
Lay count: 15 (+1)
 

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30.April.2012

Hmm.. even though enjoying the company of my F-buddies very much, i have run into a huge issue...

I am getting way to by their company, and therefore have - more or less - stopped getting new numbers/dating new women. If they don't put up the first night, i do not even bother getting their number anymore...

This has got to stop, even though i have been successful getting some ONS lately, i miss the companionship of a woman, who is intellectually at my level - a woman a can keep a decent conversation with.



MY Goal for this week is to get 3 numbers from females, whom i enjoy speaking too, and not just whom i want to fvck - i am going for the smart girls this time (yet, nothing less than a hb7 is acceptable)
 

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Well, just giving a quick update:


I have gained some fat, and been really lazy! ..

I havn't hit the gyms, nor read any homework..

I have gotten into a hell of a lousy routine, all of this happened after my mothers heart Attack 2nd of Maj..

I will get back to my routines, and i will keep you updated!

Current stats:
Age: 19 Years
Height: 5 feet 9 inches
Weight: 170lbs (+3)
Lay count: 18 (+3)
 

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WHAT A BLAST!!

Last night was ... uncomparable...

Quick update:

Where i live, we just had a huge "street festival".
After many unsuccesfull approaches, i approached this mature group, where i startet talking to this 36 year old woman..

I ended up Fvcking her in my apartment 20 mins later - yes she was drunk, and horny, but still... the woman is almost twice my age!?

She gave me a great inside, telling me that i speak too much - she told me i seemed nervous, and actually asked me cut down.
We then had sex, 15 min later, she took her stuff and went home! .. Awesome..

Only 30 mins later, i get a call from this unknown number; I realise that it is "ANNA", a girl i had rejected while being in a relationsship.

It turned out she was at the festival too, so i asked her to take a cab to my place, and ended up fvcking her too..

What a night, it was a blast!

Current stats:
Age: 19 Years
Height: 5 feet 9 inches
Weight: 170lbs
Lay count: 23 (+5)
 
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