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First, you're going to get different definitions of 'what a man is.' Some maybe totally 'out there,' others may reflect what society wants.
http://mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/
Check that blog out. It's written by old school men, of the sort that would sit around a campfire or tribe and bestow upon the younger men wisdom from the sages about 'life.'
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There's
male , then there's
man.
Male is a sexual essence.
Man is a being, that encompasses/embodies certain principles, values, beliefs, and customs, by which boys aspire to become.
As it stands, male role models are hard-pressed to be found, and with the re-defining of what sexual roles are, men are ever-more confused. You can see in the young men and boys who their role models are...
Some, fathers.
Some, rappers/celebrities (i.e. clothing and lifestyle, words, vocabulary, etc)
Some, athletes (i.e. clothing, lifestyle, words, vocabulary).
Few businessmen, politicians, and religious leaders.
What a man is, is what he stands for, each and every day of his life. Through what he stands for, you see what he is. And he is what he is, in the presence of people, and in the absence of people. His being is not an act of social gain, but a way of life. A way of life becomes easy to live through habit, done each day, and improved steadily.
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Temperance.
A man needs nothing, but can get and give everything. Because of his ability to separate emotion from logic, he can harness his inner power and control it like a focused laser to accomplish his life's aim.
In doing so, he must exhibit temperance, which was put forth first by Benjamin Franklin. Temperance means he is not imbalanced in any way, because he needs nothing. He is complete as is. What he brings forth to the world is because of who he is, and not because of his need for completion or social gain.
Temperance in his lust for women.
Temperance in his desire for drink.
Temperance in his desire or leisure.
Temperance in his desire for food.
A shift in any direction throws the spirit off balance, thrusting him into a tail spin of emotion.
Honesty.
More than just with people, but with himself. He can honestly access a situation, and because of his
lack of need, man can cut bait on anything. ANYTHING. He does things for the sake of doing them, but when loss excedes gain, he walks away.
A woman can surpass the gain of her presence in your life.
A job can surpass its benefit in income and priviledge.
Money can surpass its use to if it corrupts the soul.
Friends can surpass their gain if their presence is a deteriment to your goals and your being.
A habit can surpass it's gain if it outweighs other values, causing a lop-sided pain in your life.
Honesty means walking away from a situation, and assessing the situation realisitically. It means living in truth, because so few ever do. So many live in lies and a false reality of non-truth that pain exists because of a lack of honesty.
Courage.
More than running into a losing battle, courage requires growth in all areas. When you're not growing, you're dying. Because the essence of life depends on the masculine (man) presence to push forth, man must engage courage to grow beyond its boundaries.
Courage is chatting up a girl knowing you do so because it is who you are. Period. End of story.
Courage is facing a confrontation you fear for the sake of the growth and inspiration you will feel.
Courage is looking into the face of fear, knowing each time you do, you've already won the battle.
Courage is looking into the face of honesty, knowing that you could lose, but knowing you need nothing as you are complete as is.
Ability
Man is of use. To himself and others. His value is high because he is of value to himself and his life, first. Many make their value to others high, as they do so , their values rises and falls based on the opinions of others and the relative value of the market place in that value is traded.
If you're highly paid at one company, but cannot be gainfully paid at another, your value is relatiely low in the market place.
If you're skills in life are bent toward your value at your employer and not your value on the homefront, your total value is not high, as it relates to your own life success or family needs. Concurrently, women will not see high value either.
If your survival skills are low, the success of your family will be low. Their confidence in you low, and your offspring will be lowly valued as well, since you cannot impart on them anything of value to be used.
Value CAN be a true and tangible quality. Value is not physical appearance, though it does make value increase. Instead, value is self-reliance, its of use in
increasing life, protecting life, and adding value else where.
Value is born from ability. Some of not ability has no use, and therefore, no ability. Paper money is of no value as it stands, but the
perception of what it is, and the value attached by the market place for what it can provide is very high.
A man of high value and ability will have high confidence, and be self-sufficient. He will be the owner of his life, instead of the employee of it.
Love
Yes, love. Masculine love. Masculine love , loves all. Because of its need for nothing, attachment to no one, man can love all equally for what they are. His lack of need does not warp things to his will. His lack of need does not manipulate people or things to his end goal. His complete as he is.
He is accepting.
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A-Unit
