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Mr. Fingers wrote an exellent topic that was enlightning to me, but it troubled me and few questions were brought up.
As I get it (and the way Mr. Fingers said in his post) being a DJ is not about clothes, mussles or learnining how to seduce a woman - many people get this wrong. I consider myself lucky that one of the firs articles I've red on sosuave was Why Not "Just Be Yourself" http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
Allen said:
You see being a Don Juan is not about being yourself. And it's certainly not about pretending to be someone that you're not. It's about becoming the person that you want to be. It's about self-improvement and reaching your full potential. It's about feeling good, being happy, and learning new things.
As Mr. Fingers said - everything you do, take it to an art level. Weight lifting can be art also studying, seducing, meeting people - you name it! Use all your capabilities and astonish upon things you achieved.
It is about abolishing your ego that holds you down and works against a real Man. Ego is hurt when you get dumped, rejected and constantly asks: "What do they think about me?". It gets hurt when you fail at something. It enslaves a true DJ.
So what is a true DJ? It is a Man (read Pooks topic Be a Man) that is in a process of constant self-improvement and constantly reaches to his full potential. He is a leader, he is an Alpha.
He is feeling good. Why? He works out regurarly, dresses good, know what he talks and people notice him. He is being happy. Why? He does not trouble himself with useless thoughts (noise in the head you talked about). He has the answers to questions regarding life, women, love and himself ("he found himself"). He has a passion for what he is doing, so he can make an art out of it. He is constantly learning new things. He knows where is he going in life.
But above all - he is confident!
It is not about being a Man, being a leader, being an Alpha - it is all about being confident!
True confidence does not come from inside (it is ego that does). It is true you have to change yourself first (your inner image - ego) and then the world second, but you can not anchor your selfesteem, selfrespect and confidence on your innerself. It is of no use - this part most of the people get wrong on sosuave. Let me explain.
True confidence is based on things one has achieved, for example: he has build his body, he seduced that HB10 or better she is his girlfriend now and she respects him, he finished large project or got a high grade on college,...
One LEARNED and then WORKED. Two integral parts of a way toward sucess. Sucess is what makes you really confident.
What if you fail? It is just another thing you had to learn, just another stone you walked by on your road toward true sucess.
And what is a true sucess? We are back to being a true DJ alas true Man alas alpha Man alas leader. True sucess is not your HB10 girlfriend, it is not the car in your garage or a fat wallet - it is walking on a road of self-improvement and reaching your full potential daily. But walking means DOING = WORKING + LEARNING. So to be trully confident you have to PROVE yourself daily, not to the people around you, but to yourself!
So I hope you see that ego is good for the kickoff at the start of the road that tells you: "You can do it, you are the Man!". But down the road one should abandon his ego as a baggage that slows him down and build his true confidence from the things one has achieved. I can not put it in a better way as Morpheus (a mentor) said it to Neo (a student):
"Dont think you are, know you are"
Morpheus to Neo - The Matrix
And here we are at the point where I must leave internet and start working and utilizing what I have learned. It has been an experience of a lifetime and I must express my deepest gratitudes to all my teachers and mentors (Allan, Pook, Survivor, stockholder, Mr. Fingers and all the otheres that will remain unnamed). Thank you!
Stay safe untill we meet again!
Mr. Fingers wrote an exellent topic that was enlightning to me, but it troubled me and few questions were brought up.
As I get it (and the way Mr. Fingers said in his post) being a DJ is not about clothes, mussles or learnining how to seduce a woman - many people get this wrong. I consider myself lucky that one of the firs articles I've red on sosuave was Why Not "Just Be Yourself" http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
Allen said:
You see being a Don Juan is not about being yourself. And it's certainly not about pretending to be someone that you're not. It's about becoming the person that you want to be. It's about self-improvement and reaching your full potential. It's about feeling good, being happy, and learning new things.
As Mr. Fingers said - everything you do, take it to an art level. Weight lifting can be art also studying, seducing, meeting people - you name it! Use all your capabilities and astonish upon things you achieved.
It is about abolishing your ego that holds you down and works against a real Man. Ego is hurt when you get dumped, rejected and constantly asks: "What do they think about me?". It gets hurt when you fail at something. It enslaves a true DJ.
So what is a true DJ? It is a Man (read Pooks topic Be a Man) that is in a process of constant self-improvement and constantly reaches to his full potential. He is a leader, he is an Alpha.
He is feeling good. Why? He works out regurarly, dresses good, know what he talks and people notice him. He is being happy. Why? He does not trouble himself with useless thoughts (noise in the head you talked about). He has the answers to questions regarding life, women, love and himself ("he found himself"). He has a passion for what he is doing, so he can make an art out of it. He is constantly learning new things. He knows where is he going in life.
But above all - he is confident!
It is not about being a Man, being a leader, being an Alpha - it is all about being confident!
True confidence does not come from inside (it is ego that does). It is true you have to change yourself first (your inner image - ego) and then the world second, but you can not anchor your selfesteem, selfrespect and confidence on your innerself. It is of no use - this part most of the people get wrong on sosuave. Let me explain.
True confidence is based on things one has achieved, for example: he has build his body, he seduced that HB10 or better she is his girlfriend now and she respects him, he finished large project or got a high grade on college,...
One LEARNED and then WORKED. Two integral parts of a way toward sucess. Sucess is what makes you really confident.
What if you fail? It is just another thing you had to learn, just another stone you walked by on your road toward true sucess.
And what is a true sucess? We are back to being a true DJ alas true Man alas alpha Man alas leader. True sucess is not your HB10 girlfriend, it is not the car in your garage or a fat wallet - it is walking on a road of self-improvement and reaching your full potential daily. But walking means DOING = WORKING + LEARNING. So to be trully confident you have to PROVE yourself daily, not to the people around you, but to yourself!
So I hope you see that ego is good for the kickoff at the start of the road that tells you: "You can do it, you are the Man!". But down the road one should abandon his ego as a baggage that slows him down and build his true confidence from the things one has achieved. I can not put it in a better way as Morpheus (a mentor) said it to Neo (a student):
"Dont think you are, know you are"
Morpheus to Neo - The Matrix
And here we are at the point where I must leave internet and start working and utilizing what I have learned. It has been an experience of a lifetime and I must express my deepest gratitudes to all my teachers and mentors (Allan, Pook, Survivor, stockholder, Mr. Fingers and all the otheres that will remain unnamed). Thank you!
Stay safe untill we meet again!
