Escaped from friend zone

[Oni]

3/20

Today didn't go as well

During brunch we ended up face to face in our group so i thought i should initiate a conversation. i don't know if she's either feeling tired or what but she didn't respond very well during the convo. She was silence a lot. All her girl friends were not present at that time so she is the only girl in the group. However, i got a good thing going when i heard her mentioned her dog so i started asking her about it and making funyn remarks such as making fun of her dog. then a hot chick friend of mine came and i quickly diverted my attention to the other girl. this ended our convo.

During lunch, fearful of what happened with the silence at brunch, i sought to completely avoid her by venturing off to some other group. that was it for today. don't know if i should talk to her online (like most ppl nowadays, she's online most of the time. rarely talks on the phone)

okay so that was girl number 1.

Girl number 2 is someone whom i only see for a few mine during school because her locker is next to mine. she will be my backup for the prom in case girl#1 rejects me. Well nothign much happened except i had some kino with her by leaning towards her from the back attempting to close her locker.

Girl number 3, a junior whom i met last year in class. very rarely do i speak with her or see her at school. Well today, i bumped into her while buying lunch and we had a short convo about which college i got accepted into. after that i walked away with my friends while she trailed behind with hers. I saw her again when i was in class as her friend entered it to get something. She was by the door and damn i regretted not attempting anything, not even an eye contact, through my peripheral i know she's looking at me but i didnt do anything, instead i continued my convo with my other friends :box: She could be a potential but i dont know much about her.

overall, today sucked with girl 1 and 3. BUt oKay with 2.

Peace

 

[six-foot AZN '05]

Hey Oni, don't worry about it. I know what it feels to wish I did more about the girls I meet everyday but there are some days when your inner DJ is On and some days when he's sleeping.

Great job though with the 3 girls and keep on doing what you are doing. The eye contact, smiles, and convo will get you far with all three.

 

[Oni]

Thanks, i feel that i'm doing well with girl 2 and 3. But girl 1...is always the one giving me the most trouble because of the fact that she used to be my oneitis and i just escaped her friend zone so i have to be cautious of what i do. There's a party this weekend. I hope she can make it, im planning out on what to do if she goes.

 

[Oni]

3/21

Late night: 12am, i was talking to girl 1 online and i teased her. here's what i got from her "that's mean..you're gonna feel so bad that you are going take me to (her favorite snacking place) and buy me (her favorite drink)" I responded with a simple "I'll keep that in mind." ended the convo, and went to bed. so not bad i guess..definite sign of interest, dont you guys think so?

During school:

Girl 1: during brunch i made a quick funny joke in her group (made fun of one of her guy friend) and walked away to another group. At lunch, my friends and i were talking and she came up to the group. Our group ended up planning to do something together friday night. There weren't any direct convo between me and her. She ended the convo by walking away immediately right when the bell rings (got to it before me :cuss: ) and that was it. Making some plans for this weekend...that i will reveal later.

Girl 2: We met at the locker again, this time she playfully shoved me cuz i blocked her way. then she started talking about how long we have known each other and then walked away.

Girl 3: didn't get to see her today.

That's it for today, im exhausted.

 

[six-foot AZN '05]

Sup man, nothing much to say today. Are you going to ask one of these girls to prom?

 

[Oni]

Yea, girl 1. i just dont know when yet. there's a party at my friends this saturday, if all goes well this week, ill ask her then. i realized why i sometimes have a hard time with her is that she can get pretty shy and insecure so her action sometimes throws me off completely, however talking online with her is a lot more different as shown on my previous post. what do you guys think?

 

[hcaines]

Getting out of the friend zone.

There are many ways to get out of the friend zone. It depends on what age group you dealing with. High school girls are easy. You find there friend and see what makes her tick (Who they gossip about sleeping with, or why she can't have some guy). Empathy goes along way. Like Eddie Murphy pretending to be Bob Marley and the girl was asked "what you crying about?" As soon as she says her boyfriend is in NY. She is all yours if play your cards right.

With college girls, it is just a matter of time. If a woman lays down for an hour after drinking with friends, it is like truth serum. No need to take advantage of them. But, if you keep the conversation going long enough, just like a baby needs a bottle to sleep a girl will opt for a hard one (willingly) And won't wake up in the morning saying she don't remember. After that, the friendship curse is over.

Mature women.. well, that is easy. Every woman at that age has been dogged by some man. If you go down storybook lane and prove that you are not like them in a macho way (no soft and caring) You can have sex before dinner.

Try it.

 

[hcaines]

Oni..Quiet is another word for easy. If she is loud and obnoxious, then you are in trouble. If you can just get her to lay with you and talk like you did online without touching her. When it gets quiet and you are at boredem. Then ask or just rollover her to the other side. You will know by her reactions if the mood is ready or not.

 

[shydude]

Dude, well first go out with her to someplace fun!! and I MEAN FUN, take her to someplace, like dancing, amusement park, or even bialliards. Then after a couple of weeks start to become more phisical with her, kiss her, hug her etc. She will then be really comfortable with u, and u will definatelly increase ur chances here man!! Good luck

 

[shydude]

And dont forget to tell me ur progress!

 

[Oni]

I will. A lil flaw that i notice in myself...it's fine when the girl you are pursuing speaks with multiple guys more than she does with you.....something in me that somehow feels uneasy when i see that. (particularly on AIM and myspace comments) oh dear god, why do i get these feelings...*bang head on wall.

anyway, she initiated conversation on aim for the first time in the longest time today. i think as of today i'm going to stop AIM for a while.

 

[Oni]

3/22

Girl 1:

Well let's see...nothing too much. She was standing next to me and we were talking to different ppl. At one point she starts leaning on me while speaking. Then i spoke to her about if she wants to go visit a college with me. She said yea so now i just need to find a good time. What else... nothing too much today with her. OH, yea @(&*#^@&*# i hate how she's always putting "=/" on her away message. It keeps getting to me.

Girl 2:

HAha, same thing again. Except this time a lot of kino, she rests her head on my shoulder when i refused to let her get to the locker. then ugh kicked my butt when i was walking away. i of course responded with a back kick to hers as well then walked away.

Girl 3:

didnt see her again

Sigh

 

[Oni]

err...bad day.... i need to get my act together

 

[Oni]

once again..another bad day...its so hard holding convo with her. i dont know what to say 1/2 the time and end up saying the wrong thing.

tonight we are watching scary movie at my friends house, she's (girl 1) going to be there. any advice on what kinda game i should put on?

tomorrow's the big day, we are going to visit a place together that's 2 hours away, just us two. still planning out my day, hopefully it all goes well. any advice on this day?

 

[Oni]

why do i keep having these thoughts? i need to be able to stay positive and maintain my high self-esteem but i cant. I need to stop thinking about what the other person may think of me and start thinking about things that are more important..

 

[Oni]

3/27

Girl 1:

I have been stretching things out for too long. I need to act quick and work up something before i waste more time. The longer i take, the more space i leave myself to screw up. I really need help with this girl.

The other day, We went to visit a campus together and hung out for an entire afternoon. i thought that was good. At night, we were at a party and we were dancing for a little bit. That was fair as well until everything begin to fall apart for me...when she left, her exit was unsatisfying..just a simple bye and barely any eye contact.

Next day, i thought i'd take the opportunity to AIM her but she didn't response. Nothing at all between us until end of break when she walked with me to my class and we talked a lil. I made a funny remark about what she was wearing and she laughed. And we departed when i got to my class.

WHAT"S WRONG?! I don't know why but i am unsatisfied with my current situation. It may be stress form school lately because i am not doing as well or whatever but I am at rock bottom. Any DJ out there, i need some help with my situation.

Today, I stood next to her in our group and she didn't attempt to start a convo at all. Nothing until




Girl 2:

Nothing much

Girl 3:

I saw her again the other day at the party. She kept hanigng out with her freinds so i didn't really approach. But she came over and gave me a hug before leaving. Then i saw her today by herself at her locker, i didnt approach again cuz this time i was having a bad day.

Things are beginning to change against my favor, I need help putting thigns back together

 

[Oni]

Sigh..still hanging in here. Don't knwo if i should attempt to IM her tonight

 

[Oni]

Girl 1:

Not much different from yesterday, she seems sad all the time. Well not sad.. more like quiet and not interested in any convos at all. She's EXTREMELY quiet and i thought maybe i can device a plan to use that as my advantage. But I'm having trouble with it too because around HER im quiet somehow... But yea...sometime this week BEFORE FRIDAY, I will ask her to the prom. But I need to start a topic that will flow into it smoothly. Hmm... the best time would be to ask her when she walks to class with me..?

Girl 2:

Pretty good, I saw her walking the same way as me today so i bump into her. She said it was rude and bumped me back. Then i kept playfully bumping into her telling her how the way she's doing it is rude and etc. It was fun. And i ended it there.

Girl 3:

Nada

Is anyone even reading this?

 

[Juanito]

once again..another bad day...its so hard holding convo with her. i dont know what to say 1/2 the time and end up saying the wrong thing.

tonight we are watching scary movie at my friends house, she's (girl 1) going to be there. any advice on what kinda game i should put on?

tomorrow's the big day, we are going to visit a place together that's 2 hours away, just us two. still planning out my day, hopefully it all goes well. any advice on this day?

****... i know this is a late-as reply but

i suggest you stop seeing her too often...you've been seeing her day after day...you guys can get bored of each other

 

[Oni]

Haha yea.. a little bit too late. I'm gonna ask her to the prom any chance i get now. I just need to get a nice convo going and then get the question out. But lately i have been unable to get a nice convo going. There has been a lot of pauses and silence. UGH why is it so hard ?!