Erection Question

[Nino-Tk]

Holla homeys it's been almost two months since I been here...anyways I've stopped coming here because, well I don't know.but I just stopped.But I now I need advice, today I lost my Virginity!(props to David X and you guys ofcourse)...but it kinda sucked for me,..i last like 5 mins tops.Then we chilled in bed, after about 30 mins, she wanted round two...Guess what? My **** didnt wana get strong..it was semi erect,a real softie, couldn't get it in,maybe I was anxious or something...but this has happened to me for the 2nd time...Its starting to bug me as im jus 17 years old, I should be able to get it up in an instant! We ended up not having another round because of this..So I want to know what causes this? Is it anxiety? Is it watching porn? What the hell causes it? Damnit I should be happy right now!

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Anxiety.

 

[Acq]

Anxiety

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it will get better, many guys suffer from Anxiety, some *** waaaaay too soon, some cant get it up etc.

 

[loveshogun]

I would say cause you're 17 and it's your first time (I was 17 my first time), it's DEFINITELY anxiety.

This is why it's so easy to get a hard-on watching porn. No one to impress. I bet you if a hot, buck-naked, chick with legs up to her neck walked in on one of us beatin' our meat to some goat porn, most of us would be pretty hard-pressed not to lose our hard on.

Be happy that she wanted to try again. Let her know it was your first time. Doesn't mean you have to be a p*ssy about it and get touchy feely. Just say "I need some practice, baby. Give a brotha a hand."

 

[Nino-Tk]

I just spoke with my brother and he proclaims the same thing you guys just said...and yeah I remember my hands shaking like crazy when I opening the condom! So does it get better with time? Or is there something I can do?

 

[loveshogun]

Sh*t man, please tell me you were using condoms every time all the time... I don't care if you go limp or whatever, there's some scary sh*t out there waiting to shrivel your nuts.

Anyway, the biggest thing you can do is have more sex. It's a new realm you're entering (literally and figuratively), and you need experience. Get the experience, and you'll be alright.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Don't worry, I used a condom everytime,all the time,my parents would kill me I impragnated a girl.Thanks man...this girl was a virgin too so, it took me like two hours to finally get it in, not as rock hard I wanted it to be.Thanks man,atleast now I can throw away thoughts of gettin me some viagra.

 

[Lexington]

It's anxiety. I'm guessing you don't have a problem getting hard when watching porn? If that's the case, then there's no physiological reason as to why you can't get hard and it's due to anxiety. It's not an unusual problem. The first couple times I got laid, I had a hard time keeping it up too. But you'll learn to relax and you'll get over it.

As said earlier in this thread, it's one thing when you're beating off in your room watching porn. It's another thing when you have to please a girl, you have last a long time etc. The pressure of the situation can get to you.

Try to relax, and forget about pleasing her initially. Just focus on enjoying the moment. Once you're more comfortable, you can start thinking about it from her perspective a little more.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Thanx Lex! Whoo...I can't wait for the 26th bro's because my hommies are gonna be having an orgy...7 guys and 15 girls! Heres to hoping that dik will *** to the party!(no pun intended)

 

[pinhas]

Certain foods, and a general healthy diet can and will help in that department. I agree that in your case, its anxiety but its something to remember for the future.

It may sound silly, but foods have amazing properties, and some really do affect libido.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Aey yo Pinhas, can you please give me some examples?

 

[betheman]

next time, get her to masturbate you, no intercourse, just get used to her getting used to your ****, lick/kiss her/ finger her, dot rush it, it will literally...come! just a bit of anxiety dear boy

 

[Packers2010]

try having her stop you half way threw your first time because SHE has Anxiety.

it's not all bad man it will get better in time.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Lol thanks dudes, thank God, atleast now I know im a healthy young male filled with burning desire to make sweet love! I love this place man.

 

[SeymourCake]

I heard eating watermelon helps because it's used as a natural viagra.

http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/news/20080701/watermelon-a-natural-viagra

 

[betheman]

your 17 ffs!

dont get hung up about it, never mind diet etc.. just get comfortable with yourself and her, dont get hung up about performing, there IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU