Eradiating FUN! - READ IT!

[Kineti[C]harm]

Copy of my post on mASF since I think it's important for most people in general, and especially PUAs and AFCs.....

This is not really as much a technique/tactic as it is a personality. I see so much negativity around lately and ijjjjis positive posts made me think about this. I'm always a happy guy, I always do things I find fun, I probably laugh more at my own jokes than others do and others jokes.

But then I started thinking more, why am I so happy?! Why do other people find me so full of life, what sideeffects does this have?!

Then I started thinking, what are the people I am most comfortable around and what kind of people do other people get drawn too!? Yes the confident people but there is something more, yes the people that are full of LIFE! Fun is an expression of life.

Why is this so important?! Because not only will you be happier but people around you will be and not only that, the energy you get from LIVING and having FUN will make you a much more attractive and lovable person.

I'm not talking about being this superjokester telling 30000 jokes in a night only being perceived as some funny guy but I'm talking about pulling the most out of stuff, doing what you feel will be fun and cool then and there.

Like for example:
As you might have read from my LR/FRs etc I often in bed or after will put on Marvin Gaye - Sexual Healing and sing my friggin lungs out "III JUUUST NEED SOMEEE SEXUAAAL HEAAALIIING" and you know what?! I FIND THIS HIIILAARIOUS, I will laugh my ass of at the faces of the girls I do this with. They will of course be all WTF but at the same time they'll laugh, ye probably think I'm abit strange for doing that but at the same time they LOVE IT. They find it intriguing.

When I'm watching a movie, just relaxing I'll get TOTALLY submerged, I'll BECOME characters in the movie. Ye when watching westerns I'll be jumping up and down screaming GIIDDDIIIYUUP, YIPPIIKAAAYEEE. When I'm watching anime I'll scream the english expressions the same way the Japanese does them in a completely weird way. When watching Jet Li kick someones ass with his incredible Wushu skills I'll do airpunches and facialexpressions and be all HAIIIAAA.

At parties if some song is on I love i'll sit in the sofa or whatever and just dance to the music while sitting, doing moves, singing, doing expressions towards girls etc. Just lots of stuff I FIND FUNNY. Things that make ME HAPPY.

And you know what?! People love this, when you walk into a party and they see you and know that you are that kind of person THEY FEEL HAPPY, they feel BETTER and they feel FUN! It's actually one of the best ways to achieve major socialproof too because you get so many friends and people you get to know that will introduce you to others or talk you up.

If YOU are happy then that erradiates from you, you project that happyness, that uncontrollable but relaxing and enthusiating state. It is probably the universally MOST ATTRACTIVE state or personality trait one can have imo.

So remember that the next time you are bored, depressed or you are around other people and idle. DO, ACT, LIVE. Just do what you think would be FUN THEN AND THERE.

This is what I live by inn life, experience as much as possible and have as much fun as possible.

Think about it


- Kineti[c]harm

 

[duke007]

You're completely right, as long as it's not too over the top, acted or cheesy.

I have a friend who's a little bit like this - one time at a party he was making movements and singing along to "Hey Ya" by Outkast while smiling at the ladies. But it didn't seem put on or gay, which it probably sounds .

One problem is it's hard to act like this when it doesn't come naturally. I say start becoming this person while tipsy, which will allow you to feel more natural doing it while sober.

For another example watch the film Murder by Numbers, in the scene where the guy is trying to get the girl's attention from his car while she's walking alongside. You'll know what I mean when you see it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
If YOU are happy then that erradiates from you, you project that happyness, that uncontrollable but relaxing and enthusiating state. It is probably the universally MOST ATTRACTIVE state or personality trait one can have imo.

This is what I live by inn life, experience as much as possible and have as much fun as possible.

Think about it
- Kineti[c]harm

Kinetic - this is your most insightful post to date - I can relate!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Thanks, I'm glad you find my posts insightful.

Now to get the other thousands of members on this board to READ THIS and stop posting those stupid "WHAT LINE DO I USE", "How do I ask a girl out", "How do I put a dildo up my ass when I masturbate" posts and I will be happy.

 

[Dirtheart]

Absolutely true and I can even say that some HB6s I've met start to look like HB9s to me if they have this kind of attitude.

I'm not attracted to loud attention wh0res, women with cliched personalities or who try too hard to be funny, but the sort of women who are naturally playful and have an upbeat temperament really do it for me. It's kind of like anchoring in NLP where you create a state that you want people to associate with you.

Good advice KC.

 

[chicksrock]

ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT POINTS OF BEING A DJ!!!

 

[cubsfan]

you're one of thoe annoying attention-starved people that talk during movies. whoa.

i kinda agree being happy is a huge deal when you're interacting with other people. you're right.. but if you start yelling during my movie i think i'd want to punch you.. and that's not happy.

 

[comic_relief]

Quote from Kineti[C]harm
Now to get the other thousands of members on this board to READ THIS and stop posting those stupid "WHAT LINE DO I USE", "How do I ask a girl out", "How do I put a dildo up my ass when I masturbate" posts and I will be happy.

thats funny

BTW Awesome post

 

[Chris Dash]

Absolutely correct.

I use to act like this.
I would just go all out crazy with people as long as i didn't go overboard.
I was in a relationship a while back and i guess i got my balls broken because i was noticing a huge change in myself. I read this and I also read Pooks "Be a MAN" topic in the tips forum. It reminded me of how I use to act because honestly, i knew what i was like, but I forgot how to apply it. Manly(confident), yet, fun and playful. Having confidence also gives you the urge to do random fun stuff like mentioned before. So it's kind of a cycle.

Anyway, thanks alot. : )

 

[Beatflux]

I had fun reading your post. Question: What beliefs do you hold that make you such a fun personality?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I don't really think i can explain it too good... It's just that I

- Do whatever I feel is fun and want todo.
- I do not care what anyone else thinks, I never get affected by other peoples opinions/state. That is since i started school when I was 7 I've gone against teachers, adults and always thought of myself as more intelligent and that I did not have to listen to them. That's how I've always been.
- I LIVE LIFE, I never STRESS! If I want to a night to watch a bunch of movies, have a girl over, play some games whatever and I know I have work the day after I'll just call inn sick because I wanted to have fun.
- I believe you only live once and you have to experience as much as possible.
- I don't really have any verbal blocks I just say whatever comes to mind whenever I want and I never care if I offend or piss anyone off really except well the police etc... I won't go around purposely offending people but I just blurt out whatever comes to mind.
- I'm free-spirited and will talk about anything
- I'm very hard on principles and standing my ground which makes me never rethink or let people overrun me.

It's just stuff like that, I just EXIST in my own kind of universe filled with Fun, joy and carefreeness!

 

[Oxide]

HAHA! kinetic, we would totally get along!

I am the same way, i am always fun and joke around like crazy... i pull some jokes that make people open their mouths wide.. some people are just shocked, becuase in our society being this open and saying some of this stuff is considered to be out of line. but you know what? i give a flyin fukk about those people.


To all people who are reading this post, there are two sides to this "skill" whoever. THe fun, outgoing, life of the party side, and the "When uptight *******s dont get your attitude you will get in trouble".

I work both jobs, on one i got written up already, on another i got like 10 verbal warnings about this... some people just dont get my jokes. ZERO. absolutely no understanding... here is an example:

there is a girl who works with me, she is always sad and just ****ing wierd..like her life totally sucks.. so i said something to her, and she just kept on being kind of rude and sad.. then i asked her "Hey, tell me what days you are working, so i can request all those off".... with a big smile... guess what..

10 minutes later my manager walks in "We need to talk. I heard you were disrespecting blah blah, i know you are joking (my manager gets my jokes , ) but cut it out."
to which i reply "fine, ill just NEVER talk to this girl ever again" (joke again)... didnt get it either...


fvck, too much fun can hurt sometimes, but damn guys, life is so fvcked up as is, why the hell worry about bad stuff and be sad all the time??!

 

[Chris Dash]

Beatflux:

Basically, its doing/saying whatever comes to mind, without caring what people think/say to/about you.
Only a couple of basic rules that I go by:

1- ONLY do this to a friend if they piss you off.
2- It's okay to act like this to strangers. Just don't go overboard.
3- If people are treating you like crap, put them in their place. Just make sure you don't get stupid about it.

Other than that, its a general mindset like what Kinetic said.

 

[Chris Dash]

Originally posted by Oxide
To all people who are reading this post, there are two sides to this "skill" whoever. THe fun, outgoing, life of the party side, and the "When uptight *******s dont get your attitude you will get in trouble".

I work both jobs, on one i got written up already, on another i got like 10 verbal warnings about this... some people just dont get my jokes. ZERO. absolutely no understanding... here is an example:

there is a girl who works with me, she is always sad and just ****ing wierd..like her life totally sucks.. so i said something to her, and she just kept on being kind of rude and sad.. then i asked her "Hey, tell me what days you are working, so i can request all those off".... with a big smile... guess what..

10 minutes later my manager walks in "We need to talk. I heard you were disrespecting blah blah, i know you are joking (my manager gets my jokes , ) but cut it out."
to which i reply "fine, ill just NEVER talk to this girl ever again" (joke again)... didnt get it either...

To all people who need an example... this is a good one of the outgoing joking part...

A good example of having confidence and putting people in their place while being jerk-like funny(C+F) is this:

Let's say its a High School situation:

Person 1:Hey, dork, blah blah.
Person 2:Oh yeah, i'm so scared ***.

--> At the *** point you throw in something that insults them and confuses them because they're too stupid to understand it. Then just look at them with a smirk on your face and walk away.