Hi Mr. Fingers,
First of all, I've got to let you know that I've been enjoying your posts. Not only is your content excellent, but your writing style is very enjoyable!
I've wanted to make a few comments on this particular post...
OK..pause for a second. Looking back, I'd like to point out some errors. First of all, I already put this chick on pedestal, believing that she crapped flowers and pissed pure gold. WRONG!!!! Even worse, I did not initiate any kino during this very powerful transaction. So many opportunities I was letting go right past me, but what can I say? I really was clueless....Alright, roll tape again!
Actually you did a lot more right than wrong. In fact there was only one real thing you did wrong, but we'll get into all that soon.
We talk a little deeper about our lives and my nomadic lifestyle came up. At the time I didn't have an apartment and was couch surfing with friends/family. She is shocked when I tell her this, but understands completely, saying she had just gotten out of her couch surfing phase last month and found an apt. She asks where I was staying and I reply, "probably right here for tonight" which was true, I had been crashing at the gallery occasionally. So she really surprises me by offering her place as a crash pad. I was like "really?" She was like "sure, the place is really a work in progress so I hope you don't mind the mess!" "No problem!" came my AFC reply.
MISTAKE! Here is where I really messed up. A little C&F would have been perfect. Should have accused her of trying to get me back to her place and seduce me "I'm not that easy...etc, etc" oh well, back to the story.
Actually that was not a mistake. Both the C&F and your "No problem" response were effective. In fact, I like the first response more. Up to this point you were very straightforward yet charming, there's no point to go C&F unless that is your personality.
So we get to her place and it is a wreck just like she said, but I ignore it, not wanting to offend (one of my biggest problems in life..shoulda teased her about being a slob..sigh) We end up talking all night, having really great conversation with all sorts of profound epiphanies about life. We really stimulate each other mentally, but again, this is my fu©kup...no kino, letting the convo last for too long instead of making her want more and being too much of a wuss to close in for a kiss. She even gives me the perfect opportunity with some intense eye contact after reciting a love poem she wrote. But I am paralyzed!! We just keep talking until about 7AM we finally crash out and I dream that I actually had the balls to do something!
Okay, there is where your ONLY mistake came. And it wasn't that you talked all night - that was great (nothing is more wonderful than building real rapport with a girl you're attracted to). The only problem was that you were afraid of your sexuality, and didn't move things forward physically.
Had you went for a kiss or more, then you would have had a PERFECT seduction.
I wake up the next day and leave her a poem. Another mistake!
No, no mistake. You're a poet. That's who you are. There is nothing wrong with writing or giving her poems. But then again, I read ahead and am not surprised that the poem had the effect that it did.
Despite all my chumpy behavior, this chick is still into me!
There was no chumpy behavior yet... she's attracted to you like she always was and thinks that maybe you like to take things slow. She's still waiting for you to take the lead.
So we set a date to meet for dinner and she offers her place for me to crash again, saying how she really enjoys my company, etc. I accept of course and end up kicking myself all night because it is just a repeat of the first. Lots of talk and nothing physical. I can feel that LJBF coming! I just can't seem to find the right moment to escalate to the next level with a kiss. I leave the next day and my frustration mounts...
Okay, the chumpy behavior is now in force.
Stay over her house a third time and we are in the SAME BED and Mr. Fingers is still afraid to bust a move!!
At this point she figures that you aren't attracted to her, or you're too much of a wuss to make a move. Either way she loses interest...
She started to confide in me about guys she was dating and even told me about her first menage a troi experience she had with these two guys the night after we met!
Ouch dude, I felt that pain and it didn't even happen to me. I can only imagine - congratulations for getting back on your feet.
"Hi, my name is Mr. Fingers. I just flew into town and love to meet new people!"
One of the best openers I've heard in a long time. Straight to the point, sincere, and interesting.
To top it off, when I am not DJing, I am a social butterfly like never before. Inspired in particular by Master of the Universe's posts (THANKS MOTU!) I have learned to play the host of the party wherever I go.
Thanks for the compliment. It makes me feel good that I had a positive influence. Thank you, even though you're making me blush
Again, excellent posts, and equally excellent writing style. I thoroughly enjoyed this and your other posts. Much more important than PU strategies, you seem like a really cool guy. That alone will get you all the chicks you want - assuming you get out of your own way and not be afraid to show your sexuality, which it looks like you're doing just fine right now.
If you find yourself in Southern California drop me a message, I'd like to hang out with you.
Master of the Universe