Enough is enough. Time to spin plates!

[Desdinova]

After the girl with computer POF incident, I decided it's time to quit focusing on one woman at a time. I need to dull my emotions from getting out of control for one woman. So here's what I've got going on:

Plate #1: Known her for a while from one of my common hangouts. She came over Friday night after the bar, drunk and horny. I have a mini-golf date with her on Tuesday.

Plate #2: Worked with her about 8 years ago. Confirmed date for Thursday. Haven't confirmed the activity yet. Probably take her to the mini-golf place too. The people who work there will probably think I'm a male escort or something.

Plate #3: Got her phone number last night. I've run into her occasionally for the past 10 years or so. She just ditched her bf and was anxious to give me her number.

Plate #4: Dated her way back in '01 when I was a sosuave newbie. She was 18, I was 23. She was a pot head, I wasn't. We dated for less than a month. I generally don't go back to girls I've dated, but there was no bad blood between us when we just quit seeing each other. Neither one of us knew what we wanted and dating each other just seemed like something to do. She responded to an inquiry I posted on Facebook looking for someone to attend a concert with me. I actually saw her not long ago and she's definately not 18 anymore, maturity-wise.

The first two plates are nothing to scream at looks-wise. The second two plates are quality-looking women. I figured regardless of looks, I should just get the fvck out there and start dating to sharpen my still-dull skills and get my emotions under control.

This is gonna be fun!

 

[Desdinova]

Plate #4 just confirmed

 

[squirrels]

Good on ya, man. I'm trying to get a few spinning myself.

That's always how I've done it after a hiatus...just get a couple first. They don't have to be lookers. They can't be UGLY, but as long as they get your wee-wee hard, it'll start getting you into that "lovin'" mindset. Then as you settle more into that mindset, you move up to the 7s and 8s.

Aim for having 2 or 3 of what I call, "near-term f**k-buddies"...girls you can call up for a casual date or f**k when you're bored. If you have those, your demeanor will change and other women will just seem to fall into your lap. (and you won't have to go around building computers for them )

Of course you already know all this...I'm just feeding the thread for others.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Desdinova,
Isn't spinning Plates what being a DJ is all about?

 

[Desdinova]

Dear Desdinova,
Isn't spinning Plates what being a DJ is all about?

IMO, being a DJ is about being the best man you can be. Everything else pretty much falls into place, such as success and women. That's why I'm looking into fixing the issues that my marriage left me with.

I've got another plate spinning that I contacted online. I've never dated a redhead before, and this woman looks good and seems to have a great sense of humor. I hate boring chicks.

 

[zekko]

Plate #3: Got her phone number last night. I've run into her occasionally for the past 10 years or so. She just ditched her bf and was anxious to give me her number.

Mini-golf, I suppose?

IMO, being a DJ is about being the best man you can be

As far as being a DJ as defined by this forum, I agree.
Being a "Don Juan", which the forum is named after, is about womanizing.

I've never dated a redhead before, and this woman looks good

Omigosh, I love redheads. Enjoy.

 

[drak_ool]

I figured regardless of looks, I should just get the fvck out there and start dating to sharpen my still-dull skills and get my emotions under control.

You are so right brother!

Plates, plates and more plates... I wish more guys understood that constantly meeting new women will help your game much more than any other advice you could get on this site. It sharpens your game by default. When you re juggling 4-5 girls at the same time, you simply don't have time to overanalyze your interaction with each one. You tend to act alpha naturally because in the back of your mind you know you got other options, so you're not gonna take any shyt from any broad. Girls can smell self-confidence a mile away.

Why didn't she txt me back? How should I respond? Why did she flake on me? All these thougths come from a scarcity viewpoint. If you get 10 girls' digits on a night out, you re not gonna care if 2, 3 or 4 of them don't txt you back as you got plenty more as a backup. But if you only get one number and she doesn't respond, you end up on sosuave aksing for advice on what you did wrong...

 

[backbreaker]

I was doing some thinking on this yesterday... if you think about it, the failure of our marriage /legal dirorce system can be directly tied to the lack of plate spinning that is done now adays.

women have pulled..society has pulled the wool over our eyes. somehow, it has been considered wrong to try to find the best mate possible by making women compete for you, tiying you into one woman, then when that doesn't work out, get taken to the cleaners.

Everyone asks me about marriage and how i feel about getting marriage, i feel freaking great lol. I have screened, screened and screened agaqin my fiancee, I know what I have, I know what she is, what she isn't, i know she loves me and I know I love her. I know she isn't going to leave me 10 years later to start a music career (sorry), I know she won't put another man above her family as long as I live up to my end of the bargain.

Alot of our problems with women come down to just spinning plates. it's essential, regardless of how much a woman wants to shame you for it. basically lol, what women want are non compete contracts lol.

 

[zekko]

women have pulled..society has pulled the wool over our eyes. somehow, it has been considered wrong to try to find the best mate possible

I'm going to be honest. I have never heard any indication that it is considered wrong to find the best mate possible. I'm not sure what you're talking about here. I've always heard that you should "shop around" before settling on a mate.

I know she isn't going to leave me 10 years later to start a music career

You seem to be suggesting that you are immune to the possibility of divorce. And while I have no doubt that you have qualified your fiance, you are not the first person who thought that. Not by a long shot. Situations change, the way your hormones interact change, people change. You can have some failings just as much as she can. Never say never.

Ten years can be a long time in a person's life. I thought I had well qualified my ex-wife also, or I would not have married her.

 

[Desdinova]

I thought I had well qualified my ex-wife also, or I would not have married her.

Yeah, I had the same thing. She initially met all the qualifications I had laid down for what would make a good wife. Almost immediately after the marriage, everything changed. All those qualifications were gone. I was a finished project and she needed something new to occupy her time.

I'm really looking forward to my dates this week. It should be a lot of fun! I've still got a couple of women in queue that I don't have confirmed yet.

 

[backbreaker]

I'm going to be honest. I have never heard any indication that it is considered wrong to find the best mate possible. I'm not sure what you're talking about here. I've always heard that you should "shop around" before settling on a mate.


You seem to be suggesting that you are immune to the possibility of divorce. And while I have no doubt that you have qualified your fiance, you are not the first person who thought that. Not by a long shot. Situations change, the way your hormones interact change, people change. You can have some failings just as much as she can. Never say never.

Ten years can be a long time in a person's life. I thought I had well qualified my ex-wife also, or I would not have married her.

Because the most efficent way to find the best mate possible is to "price compare" by spinning plates. Yet, this has been painted as being a jerk/player by women. Again, women want a non compete contract. They dont' want to have to compete with other women for your services, then when you marry her because she put it on you real good and you got whipped, and you find out 2 years later that you really aren't all that compatible...

A guy that spins plates, at the end o the da, is always going to be better off than the guy that doesn't. Guy that doesn't, gets out of a 2 year relationship and has no plates lined up and misses the sex, runs back home, doesn't allow himself the chance to see what else is out there.

I know I am young, but the two best LTRs i have had, by FAR, one 1 and a half year, and the one I am in now, are relationships where the woman had to basically play american gladiators to win me lol.

I am single, are you single, okay, let's go on a date, i liked the date, let's go on another, can we have sex, i like sex can we have sex with each like, often, can we now date, relationships, don't work all that well for me.

For a relationship, in my experience to work correctly, you have to break that sense of entitlement that most pretty women have. And the only wa you can do that, so to spin plates, and make her earn you, make her show up and show out and separate herself from the pack by doing different things. Will they like it? hell no. I got cursed out at minimum, 2 times a week by the first LTR. It was a game we played, she'd call, ask to come over, I'd say no, I'd get cursed out on the way home from work. but you don't think the second I told her to get dressed she didn't drop what ever she was doing and didn't' do her best to keep me happy when we were together? And you got to hold that there for a while to. I met my first lTR on my birthday which is in June. I did not "start dating" her until December. About the same time frame with the other, and they were by far the best relationships I have ever been in. My dad calls it "breaking em down". He basically did the same thing with his current wife, expect strung i tout for 5 years. woman is on a freaking string lol.

You know you got em, when they stop throwing the "you ****ing ******* piece of @@@@" at you and a few months later that changes to "I dont' care if we are dating or not, I just want to be with you, whatever that's means, it's okay with me". until you hear some type of variation of that, dont' even considering being exclusive with a woman. That, is a broken down woman who realizes what she has and will work to keep it, as long as you do your part.

 

[Desdinova]

So, here's the summary of my plate spinning for the week...

Plate #1: Took her mini golfing, and had a lot of fun. Pretty down to earth chick, although she could be better on the looks scale. Still, at least she isn't a bore. In the process of planning another date with her for next week.

Plate #2: Took her mini golfing tonight, and it was kinda fun. The bytch wouldn't shut her mouth about all this 5hit she's done: almost died, might never walk again, plastic surgery, living with who knows who and what fvcking ever she could come up with. My truck stinks like her 5hitty cheap perfume, and she got really ugly since I worked with her. Needless to say, she's off the list.

Plate #3: Haven't called her yet. Been too busy.

Plate #4: Chatting with her a bit more, trying to figure out if I can score a date with her a bit sooner before the concert.

The chick I built the computer for: She's still in the picture, but I smartened my ass up. Also, just because you do something nice for a chick, it doesn't mean she won't fvck you. She seems to respond better when I treat her like garbage, so I've been doing that lately. She wants me to come over purely for sexual purposes on the weekend. It pays off to be well experienced in the sack. Women love it.

Plate #5: I've been pursuing one on OKCupid for a few days now. It's going well so far, and I'm about ready to move it into a real date.

 

[Bluntmaster]

So, here's the summary of my plate spinning for the week...

Plate #1: Took her mini golfing, and had a lot of fun. Pretty down to earth chick, although she could be better on the looks scale. Still, at least she isn't a bore. In the process of planning another date with her for next week.

Plate #2: Took her mini golfing tonight, and it was kinda fun. The bytch wouldn't shut her mouth about all this 5hit she's done: almost died, might never walk again, plastic surgery, living with who knows who and what fvcking ever she could come up with. My truck stinks like her 5hitty cheap perfume, and she got really ugly since I worked with her. Needless to say, she's off the list.

Plate #3: Haven't called her yet. Been too busy.

Plate #4: Chatting with her a bit more, trying to figure out if I can score a date with her a bit sooner before the concert.

The chick I built the computer for: She's still in the picture, but I smartened my ass up. Also, just because you do something nice for a chick, it doesn't mean she won't fvck you. She seems to respond better when I treat her like garbage, so I've been doing that lately. She wants me to come over purely for sexual purposes on the weekend. It pays off to be well experienced in the sack. Women love it.

Plate #5: I've been pursuing one on OKCupid for a few days now. It's going well so far, and I'm about ready to move it into a real date.

Wow, plate spinning SUCKS. Thanks for reminding me.

Why don't you just find a hot, foreign, obedient chic and call it a day? That's what I did and I'm ready to call it quits. She's getting her MBA and she loves to cook and clean.

 

[Boilermaker]

Because the most efficent way to find the best mate possible is to "price compare" by spinning plates. Yet, this has been painted as being a jerk/player by women. Again, women want a non compete contract. They dont' want to have to compete with other women for your services, then when you marry her because she put it on you real good and you got whipped, and you find out 2 years later that you really aren't all that compatible...

A guy that spins plates, at the end o the da, is always going to be better off than the guy that doesn't. Guy that doesn't, gets out of a 2 year relationship and has no plates lined up and misses the sex, runs back home, doesn't allow himself the chance to see what else is out there.

I know I am young, but the two best LTRs i have had, by FAR, one 1 and a half year, and the one I am in now, are relationships where the woman had to basically play american gladiators to win me lol.

I am single, are you single, okay, let's go on a date, i liked the date, let's go on another, can we have sex, i like sex can we have sex with each like, often, can we now date, relationships, don't work all that well for me.

For a relationship, in my experience to work correctly, you have to break that sense of entitlement that most pretty women have. And the only wa you can do that, so to spin plates, and make her earn you, make her show up and show out and separate herself from the pack by doing different things. Will they like it? hell no. I got cursed out at minimum, 2 times a week by the first LTR. It was a game we played, she'd call, ask to come over, I'd say no, I'd get cursed out on the way home from work. but you don't think the second I told her to get dressed she didn't drop what ever she was doing and didn't' do her best to keep me happy when we were together? And you got to hold that there for a while to. I met my first lTR on my birthday which is in June. I did not "start dating" her until December. About the same time frame with the other, and they were by far the best relationships I have ever been in. My dad calls it "breaking em down". He basically did the same thing with his current wife, expect strung i tout for 5 years. woman is on a freaking string lol.

You know you got em, when they stop throwing the "you ****ing ******* piece of @@@@" at you and a few months later that changes to "I dont' care if we are dating or not, I just want to be with you, whatever that's means, it's okay with me". until you hear some type of variation of that, dont' even considering being exclusive with a woman. That, is a broken down woman who realizes what she has and will work to keep it, as long as you do your part.

That was very well elaborated and very instructive. Of course, ABUNDANCE is key here, as everywhere else.

There's a saying, even the worst fisherman can catch "some" fish in rich waters.

For your method to work, and for a man to really get to the "next level" when it comes to women, there must be MANY MANY women available to him, to play with, for some certain amount of time ..

Otherwise all these wise words are like preaching the concept and benefits of "self-actualization" to the homeless..