Enjoy Being Alone; Socializing is a Pain in the Ass

[crossedup]

I get my satisfaction from being alone and creating energy while spending time by myself. My time is spent working out, meditating, reading, working etc... and really do not like spending more than a few hours a week with my friends. I am not lonely for friendship or a loving family since I have both, and I do not get nervous around people either and am quite socially skilled, able to fake extroversion. The dilemma I face is that while I love my life (23yr old making 70k/yr, no debt, loving family and good friends who respect my lifestyle) I am not meeting any women living this way. The way I live now will set me up to be wildly successful throughout my life, but I want some sex dammit.

A few years ago I was living a life that was not meant for me. I partied a lot, hooked up with lots of girls, and did drugs. That life made me feel completely empty and hollow inside. While I got girls, I was miserable and never want to go back to that lifestyle. So it's not like I can't get women through my social life, I just don't want to have that type of life anymore.

So I just want to know if anyone really feels the same way or if they can relate to what I'm saying. I'm not looking for someone to tell me to get out there, I know exactly how to do that, and I really don't want to because it will just make me unhappy. I'm feeling a little down right now about this lack of intimacy and want to get some opinions from others about what I could possibly do to change this.

One more thing, I do have a date tonight with a girl I met at the store, and I find myself rather apathetic to the whole thing, and this girl is hot too. I dunno, I feel like I'm just wired different than most people. No anxiety, not nervous at all, I do more challenging things at work all the time, but I just don't enjoy spending too much time with people.

 

[lanba]

People are a drag. Alcohol and other drugs make them tolerable for short periods of time but when the drugs wear off, you're left with the same goofy ****heads with the same nonsensical beliefs they had before.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

i enjoy people single and focused on myself. Best decision I made, got goals to get done

 

[crossedup]

i enjoy people single and focused on myself. Best decision I made, got goals to get done

Yeah that's how I see it too. Most people are so damn unproductive and lazy. I have no reason to associate with those types since they will inevitably attempt to drag me down to their level.

Update on the date. Girl is diggin me and my game has been on as it usually is when I actually can find a girl. Plate has potential. Best part is she's foreign and not b*tchy.

 

[skinnyguy]

Yeah that's how I see it too. Most people are so damn unproductive and lazy. I have no reason to associate with those types since they will inevitably attempt to drag me down to their level.

Update on the date. Girl is diggin me and my game has been on as it usually is when I actually can find a girl. Plate has potential. Best part is she's foreign and not b*tchy.

I have wondered why foreign girls are so nice. Once they are in America for a few years though, they turn into cvnts

 

[GotED?]

Hey OP - I am with you on this one.

But remember, nothing is really RIGHT or WRONG in this world - just our own judgemental and discriminating EGO .

Famous Rumi poet quoted:

“Beyond our ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there".

I am also a severe hermit type, although you would NEVER tell if you met me socially. I have a player like exterior and I can charm and humor any woman that comes in my path. However, my whole life - I have never felt the need to have FRIENDS. This also takes one with a STRONG will-power and disciplined who can do this, not everyone can handle going through life alone and being self-sufficient.

I am not understating things either - I have ZERO friends. Perhaps earlier in life I realize I was about ALL GIVE and friends just ALL TAKE (my personality type that made me AFC as well in the past). I have always felt hurt and betrayed in the end of earlier friendshp. Friends in the end had always disappointed me, I just decided one day a long time ago it was easier being WITHOUT friends.

Spirituality is also a very large part of my life and the way I live my life (the result of some of my postings and approach will show). I wouldn't be able to disclose how I practice my spirituality as that would be severely judged by most people here, but it is not religious in nature. This practice of spirituality makes me a very sensitized person to my environment and puts me at a disadvantage when mixing with other people's energies. This makes me extremely drained and tired after extended socialization.

I am most optimal in life with just my partner (GF) to go through life together with. There are people out there who needs TONS of friends (therefore you should find a GF who also has TONS of friends to match your personality type). I have always been happy to just have that woman in my life who is dedicated to me as much as I am to her. This is HARD to find, but in the end, it is just filtering out women for the right personality type FOR ME (not for most other men).

So be comfortable with WHO YOU ARE. I also don't drink - people find it strange when I say that especially at my age, but I have learned to NOT GIVE A SH!T about what anyone else thinks.

When you let go of living other people's expections and their opinions - you FREE YOUR SOUL of false imprisonment and allow yourself to be loved fully just as how you were meant to be, extraordinary in your own way.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[crossedup]

Hey OP - I am with you on this one.

But remember, nothing is really RIGHT or WRONG in this world - just our own judgemental and discriminating EGO .

Famous Rumi poet quoted:

“Beyond our ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there".

I am also a severe hermit type, although you would NEVER tell if you met me socially. I have a player like exterior and I can charm and humor any woman that comes in my path. However, my whole life - I have never felt the need to have FRIENDS.

I am not understating things either - I have ZERO friends. Perhaps earlier in life I realize I was about ALL GIVE and friends just ALL TAKE (my personality type that made me AFC as well in the past). I have always felt hurt and betrayed in the end of earlier friendshp.

Life for me is sooooo much happier being alone and not have to put up with other friends bullsh!t in the long-run, in the end - they have ALWAYS disappointed me. I am also overall a very sensitive person, and probably the reason I can't handle being around people a lot as I absorb a lot of everything going on around me and I get extremely drained and tired after too much socialization.

I am most optimal in life with just my partner (GF) to go through life together with. There are people out there who needs TONS of friends (therefore you should find a GF who also has TONS of friends to match your personality type). I have always been happy to just have that woman in my life who is dedicated to me as much as I am to her. This is HARD to find, but in the end, it is just filtering out women for the right personality type.

So be comfortable with WHO YOU ARE. I also don't drink - people find it strange when I say that especially at my age, but I have learned to NOT GIVE A SH!T about what anyone else thinks. When you let go of living other people's expections and their opinions - you FREE YOUR SOUL of false imprisonment and allow yourself to be loved fully just as how you were meant to be, extraordinary in your own way.

Be well.

Exodus

+1, GotED, I've read many of your posts and what you write resonates with me so much. Like you I am highly spiritual and am always looking to improve my life while my friends drink their own lives away. They are gaining weight and remain in the same boring jobs seeing the same people. However, you're right, this is just one way of seeing things. They may be completely happy with their lives so the more power to them.

Dynamic, we are dynamic people never content with mediocrity and always striving for success. I want to be better every single day. Spending a few hours chilling, watching videos, and drinking beer are the biggest waste of time IMO. Living alone has given me the opportunity to truly find my calling and focus my energy.

Like you say, it's best to just NGAF and do whatever it takes to make yourself the person you want to be regardless of what 'friends' think. I have worked extremely hard to develop the persona I want and I know that through sheer effort and focus on my part I can be successful. I'm nowhere near where I want to be yet, but I will get there.

Hell man, I do some strange sh*t too that I don't even want to talk about here, but that strange sh*t is necessary for me to find my way. My friends could not even dream of going through some of the things I put myself through.

Regarding women, I seriously DNGAF about them anymore. Most are annoying and a waste of my time, but occasionally I find a good one, and the one I'm meeting today could be great, she's a model btw. My 'friends' constantly give me sh*t for not having a woman, since I never bring any to see them and I refuse to brag. Oh well...just their opinion. Haha...Will they continue to harp on me when at 30 I am attractive and successful and they have developed the beer gut and have a fat wife? I dunno, maybe they will continue to get on me for going against society. They probably won't change, but that's their problem...

 

[GotED?]

I believe that if each of us would find living our lives in pure contentment and happiness, then this world would START to become a better place.

Each of us must find our own method to unravel that magical formula to live and flow with life in relative inner peace.

Most men come here are still seeking that balance in life, if we can help each other to defeat the lesser evil female Yoda in each man's life, then that's more fuel to a better world perhaps - one man at a time.

Exodus