Engaged Woman - Help Needed

[jamesw82]

Hey Guys,

Did something really stupid the other night when out for a few beers at a party with work people. My boss (female) is getting married in two weeks. The guy she is going to marry has a brother. This brother is engaged to my boss' best friend, we'll call her Kate. They are set to marry next year.

My boss had been joking with me prior to me going to the party that her best friend (kate) would be there, and that Kate had thought I was really cute and funny (we'd met previously). I was like, thats cool.

Anyway I get to the party, Kate is totally into me, blatantly flirting with me infront of my work colleagues.. I was quite embarrised but as I got more drunk, I kinda warmed to her, and she was all over me as soon as we were away from the work people. I told her I didn't think it was a good idea we spoke, because, I found her very beautiful and alluring, but she was engaged and it would make things really difficult for me if something happened between us (as her best friend is my boss).

As im leaving, she hands me a piece of paper really disgreetly with her number on, stupidly I sent her a message, saying thanks for tonight, and good night. She wants to meet me this week after work..

I really like her, but I think we both have too much to lose, i'm also thinking that I could either be a scape goat for her to end a relationship she apparently isnt happy in, or I could just be a bit of fun before she commits.

Either way its not good, and Ive been brought up with strong morals, and I really know how wrong this is... I haven't technically done anything yet, no kisses etc but I feel really bad.

I know I shouldn't meet her, but I'm interested... HELP !

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by jamesw82
Hey Guys,

Did something really stupid the other night when out for a few beers at a party with work people. My boss (female) is getting married in two weeks. The guy she is going to marry has a brother. This brother is engaged to my boss' best friend, we'll call her Kate. They are set to marry next year.

Good for them, I wish them the best of luck.

My boss had been joking with me prior to me going to the party that her best friend (kate) would be there, and that Kate had thought I was really cute and funny (we'd met previously). I was like, thats cool.

Joking? Really... you honestly believe that she was simply joking? Time for a reality check. She wanted you to know that Kate was in the market for someone new. Whether that be for a fling, or for something more, who knows - either way you should take advantage of this useful information and not disregard it.

Anyway I get to the party, Kate is totally into me, blatantly flirting with me infront of my work colleagues.. I was quite embarrised but as I got more drunk, I kinda warmed to her, and she was all over me as soon as we were away from the work people. I told her I didn't think it was a good idea we spoke, because, I found her very beautiful and alluring, but she was engaged and it would make things really difficult for me if something happened between us (as her best friend is my boss).

Please, never again be embarrassed when a beatiful woman flirts with you. It makes you look, for lack of a better word, gay. It's great that you warmed to her after drinking - what you said after those few beers, that you didn't think you and her should talk - was complete blabber, though. Next time, don't drink so much that you say stupid things such as that.

As im leaving, she hands me a piece of paper really disgreetly with her number on, stupidly I sent her a message, saying thanks for tonight, and good night. She wants to meet me this week after work..

And you'd be an idiot not to.

I really like her, but I think we both have too much to lose, i'm also thinking that I could either be a scape goat for her to end a relationship she apparently isnt happy in, or I could just be a bit of fun before she commits.

Hello. Are you a man? You're 20. By the way, is this job going to be your lifelong career? No! Also, it sounds like you're forgetting that it was your boss who told you about "Kate's" feelings in the first place! It sounds to me like "Kate" isn't too serious about this fiancee anyway. If she was, what business would she have gallavanting around with other men? If you don't pick up the reigns and tear into her, rest assured that somebody else will, someone with less compunctions about doing so than you obviously have... Also, I think Kate's a big girl. She doesn't need you worrying about what she stands to lose. So stop, it's AFC.

Either way its not good, and Ive been brought up with strong morals, and I really know how wrong this is... I haven't technically done anything yet, no kisses etc but I feel really bad.

I know I shouldn't meet her, but I'm interested... HELP !

No. Either way, it IS good. For you. Your chances with her are astronomical. If you don't take advantage of this situation, you really have no right being on this board as you've just shown that you have not learned even the most basic principles of becoming a DJ. That is all, and I hope this post serves as a whack to the side of the head - you need some sense knocked into you! Are you a 'friggin Amish person? What's all of this talk about morals and "technically wrong like kissing her"?


Hope this helps.

 

[jamesw82]

I sincerely hope it won't be my career lol

I've been looking for a new job recently anyway haha

Shes one hot girl, I really dont wanna pass up on someone with that much interest in me either!!!

 

[diablo]

I just edited the post. Please re-read it.

Also, I see you stated this won't be your career, and indeed you're looking for another job. Why do you care so much if "you might one day mess something up with the person who won't be your boss anymore anyway". Don't be an idiot - you know what to do.

 

[jamesw82]

Cheers...

I think I just need to speak to her, here what shes gotta say before I settle stuff in my mind.

I think I think too much lol

Cheers Boss

 

[Playboi0323]

Well actually I wouldn't even bother with her. Ithink this scenerio could bring more drama than you could imagine. Girls can't resist drama and they can't keep their mouths shut. If her sister or whatever was trying to hook you up, she probably told her that she wasn't interested in her fiance anymore or whatever the case may be. In other words, girls are talkers. Whether it be her sister or her best girlfriend. --Now let the fiance find out. Do you think he is the type to flip out and become violent? The circle of people engaged in this story seems too small to stay a secret and you should NEVER mix your personal business and work. What if it doesn't work out with your boss's sister?
You might temporarily get some perks though. But unless you plan on marrying a cheater then don't fall for it.
It's a viscous cycle and the karma will catch up to you even faster being that the cast of characters are so tightly knit.
A good DJ knows when to not feel ashamed of NEXTing a female. Either way, it's up to you and I would like to get an update.