Enduring Through Hurtful Experiences with Female Players and Teasers

[Frank2500]

When I look back at how far I've come and some of the heart breaking and really painful experiences I've endured through in the past, I tell myself I've truly come a long way. There are good men and women out there hoping to come across each other but the process of doing so isn't very easy because you have to first of all deal with what I would call players and teasers of both genders. Here's an experience I had very many years ago:

Imagine meeting a woman at a club and both of you dance exclusively with each other for so long and folks at the club actually begin to cheer you both on as they stand around in a circle watching you both dance. It feels like love at first sight. Then when the club is about to close, you ask her for her number thinking you guys had a great time and some wonderful chemistry and she refuses vehemently. Yet she danced with you and held you tight...you really felt she was into you. What a very painful experience. I just couldn't believe it when it happened. People had actually been applauding for us when we danced.


Other women would trick you into thinking they're giving you positive signals when you approach them. You may even walk down the street with them and the conversation seems to flow pretty good and you think there's a connection. Yet you ask for her number and she says no. These kinds of women seems to get a rush out of doing that. In the end actually, there's no gain in that. It may temporarily stroke her ego, but if it's a woman with any ounce of sensitivity, her conscience would bother her afterward. These experiences have really helped make me become thick skinned and learn to expect almost any outcome while interacting with women. Of course you try to do your best and to play by the rules of the game but at the same time you've got to be prepared for anything.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Frank,
Probably either an out of Towner or even local married Woman who enjoys Dancing more than she fears her husband....Forgive her I have done this myself in the Past...See it as a compliment....About thirty years ago I had a similar interesting Experience,but mine ended well....Went to a Night Club after Lectures,and was asked to dance by a stunning Blonde Woman.....Her name was Ingelise,she didn't speak a word of English,the ring on her pinky suggested she was married,she sat with two other nice looking Girls one of whom suggested in broken English,that they were from Sweden!....To cut a long story short,The nightclub I speak of was in the basement of a multi-storey Hotel,and so when the Music finished about Three in the Morning,she took me by the hand and led me to the lift and we made out in her room....No words were spoken it wasn't necessary,so sometimes these events have a happy ending even if a bit Sweet and Sour!

 

[Warrior74]

Enduring? Painful? Hurtful? Wtf? Do tackles hurt in football? Yup? Does scoring a touch down feel awesome? Fvck yah! What would you say if your quarterback complained about painful tackles and hurtful press? The lulz would be legendary. It's all a part of the game. Glad you've came far enough YO k ow that now, but your language is appalling. That headline reeks of victimhood. It pissed me off enuff to read it, so that's good from a copy writing pov.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I hear you guys, I perfectly understand what you mean, it happens the same to me from months.

I think in the last year I picked up and make out with a dozen of girls only to have it lead to nowhere, its no longer about girls who fake interest to get approached only to reject you in the spot, its about girls who fake attractive and feelings for hours only to disappear right after...

It seems that they are no longer satisfied from the attention, now they also want some investment on them regardless of the other person emotion or feelings.

At first they were pretending to be slvts with short skirt to make men thinking they were up to a ons, then they moved to take attraction signal when the short skirt was too common, now that faking attraction is common enough, they moved to fake commitment for the only reason of having their ego boost and express their power over men.

The only solution I suggest is to not invest anything in a girl no matter how on she seems untill you are 100% sure, dont invest money for drinks, dont invest time on them if you have other sure options and most of all dont expect anything, just disconnect yourself from them till they prove worth.

 

[Die Hard]

Yup... It's a warzone out there, guys. Better wear your armor and carry a big ass sword on ya...

 

[Frank2500]

@Warrior 74: There is something called "Freedom of Expression." This therefore implies that I have the right to post any title that corresponds to the content I'm going to have in my posts and most importantly, to express myself as I deem fit. You're under no obligation to read what I write. Don't take it personal. Most of us are here to learn and to share. That's why this forum was created.

 

[timmylivingalie]

When I look back at how far I've come and some of the heart breaking and really painful experiences I've endured through in the past, I tell myself I've truly come a long way. There are good men and women out there hoping to come across each other but the process of doing so isn't very easy because you have to first of all deal with what I would call players and teasers of both genders. Here's an experience I had very many years ago:

Imagine meeting a woman at a club and both of you dance exclusively with each other for so long and folks at the club actually begin to cheer you both on as they stand around in a circle watching you both dance. It feels like love at first sight. Then when the club is about to close, you ask her for her number thinking you guys had a great time and some wonderful chemistry and she refuses vehemently. Yet she danced with you and held you tight...you really felt she was into you. What a very painful experience. I just couldn't believe it when it happened. People had actually been applauding for us when we danced.


Other women would trick you into thinking they're giving you positive signals when you approach them. You may even walk down the street with them and the conversation seems to flow pretty good and you think there's a connection. Yet you ask for her number and she says no. These kinds of women seems to get a rush out of doing that. In the end actually, there's no gain in that. It may temporarily stroke her ego, but if it's a woman with any ounce of sensitivity, her conscience would bother her afterward. These experiences have really helped make me become thick skinned and learn to expect almost any outcome while interacting with women. Of course you try to do your best and to play by the rules of the game but at the same time you've got to be prepared for anything.

How bout chicks rubbing it in your face when their with another guy after they dump you.

 

[Warrior74]

@Warrior 74: There is something called "Freedom of Expression." This therefore implies that I have the right to post any title that corresponds to the content I'm going to have in my posts and most importantly, to express myself as I deem fit. You're under no obligation to read what I write. Don't take it personal. Most of us are here to learn and to share. That's why this forum was created.

Same to you buddy. I have the freedom to say it was crap if I feel so. Feels good to have freedom! 'Merica Fvck Ya!

 

[Frank2500]

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@Sam Spade: I agree with you...that's the attitude to have. And I simply wish more men on this forum would follow your lead and not spend so much time engaging in personal attacks, insults and sometimes even acts of ridicule toward their fellow male posters.

 

[lamobatsman]

lol my stories the worse i think. i got played truly badly. the experince is still raw and painful and worse thing is that the woman arent in apologetic or sympatheitc in their nature

 

[zengame]

Most of the stuff women do is to protect themselves physically/emotionally.

There are a million reasons why a woman won't want to give number to stanger - especially after she is somewhat sexually receptive to him.

That is why pickup is a skill set and you need to learn how to overcome your fear, ego and emotions and become a man who women will feel comfortable giving herself to.

 

[Maeisgood]

If I knew how to dance I'd be doing it every weekend night and gettin some action because of it.

At least you didn't waste months and years in a relationship only to find that you've been cheated on or something.

Everything is a numbers game. In sales, sports, prospecting, anything.

 

[glass half full]

Frank2500- It could be that she doesn't think her friends or family would like you, but she enjoyed the evening all the same. Then again, maybe she's stuck with a crappy guy and is afraid to leave, so she enjoyed an evening away( i fell for one of those a very long time ago. bad idea). Can't control them, just yourself.