Ending Four Year Relationship

[Latinoman]

Another thing...you should have NOT insulted her or writen that nasty email. If you were going to end things, you should have end it by being collective and in control of your emotions (e.g. controlling anger - not necessary controlling pain).

If you lost the trust...then there is no need to be involved with her. But there is no need to be nasty either.

 

[iqqi]

The mods can just move this back. You don't have to repost it.

 

[jophil28]

but the smart women, the mature women, the high quality women, realize that if they treat their man right his attention and loyalty will always remain high and they will have the attention they seek for the rest of their life.

There are some smart women lilke this out there BUT unfortunately they are both married ..

 

[joekerr31]

She came over. I made it official. We're over.

It's amazing. She still said she did nothing wrong. She said we were on a "break," so we were not a couple, even though we were "working" on our problems. She still tried to make me out to be the bad person for writing the nasty email. It's really fvcking amazing.

so you should feel good about dumping her. shes obviously someone who cannot take responsibility for her own actions.

the sign of a mature person, female or male, is someone who takes RESPONSIBILITY for their actions, who owns up to it.

immature people are the ones who have a plethora of excuses as for why they did nothing wrong.

like an earlier poster said, you are damn lucky you didn't have kids with her. count your blessings man, you just dodged a MAJOR bullet.

and i agree with latinoman as well - online and myspace stuff is bull. i suppose its potentially excusable with the under 25 crowd as it seems to be a staple of their world.

but a woman who is 31 and hanging out in myspace is sad. in my mind its the equivalent of the 31 year old male who plays 40+ hours of warcraft every week. grow the f*ck up already.

 

[Latinoman]

I am glad they move this to the mature forum. Lot of lessons to be learned from this particular experience.

 

[Last Man Standing]

She's 31

Hello kid, I'm the one they call here the "bitter", "insecure", "homo hater", "horhater, on this forum....but my analysis and counsel is always on point!! The truth is the most hated thing - and the truth is for everyone to see. The "truth" is the "reality" of a thing. You closed your mind to reality and thus rejected truth and deceived yourself!! The reason she was with you was because she was 31 years old - and you were her insurance policy against a life of eternal loneliness - she wasn't with you for you - it was about herself!!!

If she was a "christian" then you never had sex with her? If a girl has sex outside of marriage then take it as a likelihood that she is being banged by other dudes!! Once she loses her virginity then she has no standard by which she feels the need to be loyal to one man. Most men, who are with a woman for many years, tend to be more loyal and have some code of honor and let the girl he's been with for many years know that it is over and give her time to move on; on the other hand, when women are ready to leave their mate, they tend to scheme behind her man's back and look for another suitor while maintaining a false facade for her current chump! This has been the case with 100% of the men that I know, and with all of you here!!

So your situation is not unique - it is quite common and has happened to nearly all men - whether they know it or not! The next woman that you are with, take note -- if you are sexing her then you can expect, with a great probability, that she is being sexed, by other men as well!! There is no honor and thus no loyalty today! Why? you ask? Because this is what is being taught today to women in magazines, on the radio, TV, everywhere! It is about them and their needs and wants and ambitions - the feminist movement is not dead - it is the strongest that it has ever been!!!

Why do you guys ignore reality?? Your life is at stake and you fools are asleep and only wake up when it's too late!!! Men today are treating women as of the past, but women, in general, today have changed for the detriment to the man, as a wife and mother!! This is why we call men AFC's - the traditional way of pursuing women is dead and will lead to failure - being a pimp or pua, or a jerk, is the better method used today because the women have become harsh, cold, bitter, and vengeful - yes, like men in battle. Jerks and pimps keep their emotions at bay, because they know that it is a physical conquest of a hor that is the reality here - where ther is no spiritual connection, or natural affection, or emotional bonding. Facades are common place today - it is so because this is what is being taught in our culture and mass media, since birth!! It is a culture of the "self", self-gratification implies the exclusion of another's well being!!

Take heed, reject reality at your own peril!!! Romance is dead anf hors killed it!!!

 

[iqqi]

The reason she was with you was because she was 31 years old - and you were her insurance policy against a life of eternal loneliness - she wasn't with you for you - it was about herself!!!

He said 4 year LTR, that means she was 27 when they met... no old maid.

You've been drinking, haven't you?

 

[Latinoman]

He said 4 year LTR, that means she was 27 when they met... no old maid.

You've been drinking, haven't you?

But he was 23...a kid.

 

[Last Man Standing]

He said 4 year LTR, that means she was 27 when they met... no old maid.

You've been drinking, haven't you?

How can I live without water!

At the age of 27 is when women freak, if they don't yet have a lifetime suitor! If alone, then they must have an interested man pursue her - may take months to find one she finds suitable as a future husband. Then she has to date a year or two to get the proposal for marriage - then she hast to set a date for marriage - another 6 months to a year!! Most women feel they must get married before they hit the psychological "must-be-married" by age 30 point!!! Women know that their beauty, and thus their potential, is tied to their youth!! 30 is their psychological fail point! They panic, if their current b/f leaves them at 29 - now they wont be married until at least 32/33 IF all goes perfect!

 

[iqqi]

How can I live without water!

At the age of 27 is when women freak, if they don't yet have a lifetime suitor! If alone, then they must have an interested man pursue her - may take months to find one she finds suitable as a future husband. Then she has to date a year or two to get the proposal for marriage - then she hast to set a date for marriage - another 6 months to a year!! Most women feel they must get married before they hit the psychological "must-be-married" by age 30 point!!! Women know that their beauty, and thus their potential, is tied to their youth!! 30 is their psychological fail point! They panic, if their current b/f leaves them at 29 - now they wont be married until at least 32/33 IF all goes perfect!

LOL.

We live in the post Sex in the City days.

OK, I admit. When I was 15 I thought I'd be married at 25.

Thank GOSH I was wrong!!!

 

[Chrispy]

The only thing that scares me back to not being married at 30+ is being divorced, being married and unhappy, or being divorced with baggage.

...BTW on pg 1 jokkerr's post is very well to-the point and should be voted as a post in the hall of fame.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Yeah JoeHerr, good posts, #4 and #5!

Pvssy has no power - rather, it is our genetic masculine inclination to pursue the feminine complimentary nature that has the ultimate power - we are the choosers of our mate - we decide; however, if we go against this natural inbred designed force, and pursue a stank hole instead of femininity, then we forgo our power as men, and unnaturally and voluntarily give the power to the woman and become a slave of the flesh - in bondage, not by the woman, but from our weak minds!!!!!