Emotional attachment

[Lishy]

^^^Aint that some real sh!t....

You had better believe it!!!!!!!!

 

[Mavrick]

bump

 

[dannyegg4575]

You had better believe it!!!!!!!!

Lishy is so ****y because she knows that as a species, we men can't live without them and at the same time, we can't kill them neither... lol

 

[Lishy]

Lishy is so ****y because she knows that as a species, we men can't live without them and at the same time, we can't kill them neither... lol

Hahhahah you had DOUBLE better believe it!!!!!! :cheer:

 

[AlanB]

Nice thread.

As always, good advice.

 

[Purple-Haze]

If you are in a relationship, or you are looking for a relationship for validation or to fill a void, get out of it now and stop searching. It's better to end a co-dependent relationship and learn to be independent and unplugged than it is to stay in one or search for one.

You cannot and should not depend on another person for your happiness and value in the world. If you do, one day (most likely), your world will come crashing down around you, and you will have a hard time climbing out of your hole.

Always find yourself and be that person that you love the most. Love yourself the most. Then when you go in a relationship you won't be expecting anything from them, and you won't be let down. Your partner should only be a piece of the puzzle, not the puzzle itself. She should be an added bonus to your life, and not your life.

It's time we as men find value in ourselves and offer our value to these ladies. We have to stop asking these women to fill our half-filled cups with their validation they unwilling bestow on us because of our desperation. We are men, and we offer our strength to women. We do not get our strength from them. Feminism cannot offer masculinity to a man.

We are strong, not only with muscle, but in mind. We do not beg, do not put a woman above ourselves, do not cry over women who have cheated or manipulated us. We control ourselves and we don't care what the outcome is because we as men live in the moment.

At this very moment it's time for weak men to change. It's time to find courage, strength, and validation in themselves. No longer will we be stuck in the past and dwell on what a woman has done to us and hold that against all future women because we control the frame. We control our destiny. We will stop looking to the future and stop worrying about the outcome with women because we as men only live in the NOW. We as men only live in the MOMENT!

Rise soldiers of misfortune and misguidance. March forward and don't look back. Be brave, be strong, and live in the moment.

[emphasis mine]

This is a solid post!

Some of it is just as applicable to women.

 

[DonGorgon]

Hahhahah you had DOUBLE better believe it!!!!!! :cheer:

Yeh you have the power but I beat you every time by having at least 5 of you who I call call for an F at any time..

Never ever depend on 1 woman for your sexual needs... She is powerless when have other options...

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Ahhh...yet ANOTHER good post by one of our "newer" recruits.

Great Work, Mavrick. MUCH RESPECT.


LETTING GO is a powerful weapon for us to use when the burdens we are carrying become more than we can, OR SHOULD, bear.

Often times, men who have reached some level of success in life (or with women in particular), tend to forget their own major goals. They often times FORGET that the path that we are marching on can be a winding one------involuntarily taking us further into territories than we'd rather go (deeper into LEARNING truths about ourselves and others than we've gone before ), entangling us by making us stay LONGER in these places than we'd rather stay (trapping us in the bonds of disbelief and denial about things about ourselves and others that we'd rather NOT know), and ending up COSTING us far more than we had originally anticipated paying (experiencing the toll that learning HARD LESSONS sometimes has upon our minds, wills, and emotions).

Every man's life is a MISSION. And either he discovers and accepts his life's mission ON HIS OWN, or the trials and tribulations of this life will invariably SEND HIM on a mission FAR from his choosing-----and usually a mission he'd rather NOT undertake.

And although every man (and woman's) mission is different in it's specifics, the ultimate, underlying goal is always the SAME:

To be a better person TODAY than you were yesterday.

To make a lasting, positive impact on the world around you.

To leave a MARK on this world so deep----so indelible-----that it CANNOT be erased.

And any grudges, any bitternesses, and any self-pity (no matter how justifiable) can ONLY act as an impediment, a roadblock, or AN ENEMY to THRIVING in this life.

In fact, the men I've written about in the thread hidden within my signature line below are all REAL-----and they ALL represent those of us who have sadly chosen NOT to "march on", but to instead wave the white flag of surrender to the various "enemies" of their life's potential.

And something that is not articulated ENOUGH on this board is that many of us still COME here, and many of us still STAY here, to not only help stop this shyt from continuously happening in the lives of others-----but to ALSO prevent ourselves from falling down in dishonorable defeat as well.


So PEACE to you, my Brothers in Arms.

And as always...yes...

MARCH ON.

 

[sosilky]

And perhaps the greatest sign of growth and abundance is to STILL be emotionally attached, to Love another even if that person does not love you back.

what are you trying to say here? its good to be emotionaly attached after the break up?

And could someone explain to me what the frame is that mavrick speaks of and how you control it?

 

[carissy]

Good post, Mavrick.

Emotional Attachment is usually ALL or nothing for men.

They usually lack the Emotional Attachment Switch or gauge. In which they can invest emotionally a certain degree according to their resources, and theri needs being met.
it is important to be able to attach oneself carefully, and with full respect to one's feelings and resources.

And it is important to detach oneself when one is not being fulfilled by another in the way the would like.
And still be emotionally strong enough to not wish that person harm or any negative feelings.
When one's needs are being met, one can GIVE more freely.
When one is feeling lack or scarcity, one usually withdraws one's emotional resources from others, and often from oneself.

And perhaps the greatest sign of growth and abundance is to STILL be emotionally attached, to Love another even if that person does not love you back.



Lishy, the usual them of 'soldiers' , or preferably "Warriors' or alluding to military themes or war is a powerful one for men.
It is something that is part of being a man.

There are deep reasons for this.
And they dont necessarily mean a man versus woman War.
The notion of a Warrior or Soldier resonates very strongly for a lot of men.

And many women have no idea how to relate to it and understand it.

Excellent point's made interceptor.

 

[dannyegg4575]

Hahhahah you had DOUBLE better believe it!!!!!! :cheer:

wait til you're 30 or 40... i'd like to see you come back with the same attitude.

 

[redspicyflag]

damn this is a good post

it sparked something

 

[kickureface]

i agree completely.
but how do you genuinely love yourself?

 

[Lishy]

Yeh you have the power but I beat you every time by having at least 5 of you who I call call for an F at any time..

Never ever depend on 1 woman for your sexual needs... She is powerless when have other options...

5 of me? I doubt it babe!

I may be female, but this female would not be up for a booty call!

 

[DonGorgon]

5 of me? I doubt it babe!

I may be female, but this female would not be up for a booty call!

All my women tell me that they tell other men that very thing...LOL but i dont care what they say as long as they *** when i call.

 

[DonGorgon]

Ahhh...yet ANOTHER good post by one of our "newer" recruits.

Great Work, Mavrick. MUCH RESPECT.


LETTING GO is a powerful weapon for us to use when the burdens we are carrying become more than we can, OR SHOULD, bear.[/B]

"Letting go" only works well when you have several other thing to grab onto (which most men do not) hence why it works so well for women who are constantly being offered companionship...

 

[finesse]

Good Post!

 

[Gubby]

Life's not so simple as to have just one solution........... love's a bit of warmth, easy to find, easy to lose, no more.

Stop clutching at lifelines and let yourself fall and you'll see there's no danger in letting go. Vertigo's a natural component of flight, but look at it through the lens of positivity and it's exhiliration.

............