Embrace your sexuality!

[the don of dons]

Sly DJ,

[/B]"If jerks are supremely impressive and irresistible to women, why do I still don't get women when I became a jerk?

I was being a jerk to her by making her wait for me on the date. But I thought girls are attracted to jerks, aren't they? So why didn't she want to go out for the second date? I heard that women complain a lot about how the jerks have done this and that to them and yet they still stick to them. So why didn't I score left and right with women by being a jerk? How do you explain this, Pook?" [/B]

Don't take offense to this (or do if you'd like, but none's intended), but you're so far off the mark it's ridiculous. What you're trying to do is desparately seek the girl's approval by being what you think she wants you to be. As Pook says... a man is a monad, he defines himself, he creates. In the frame of "I will be what you want me to be IN ORDER TO GET YOU TO LIKE ME" you won't succeed w/ girls. A jerk is a jerk b/c he doesn't give two s**** about the girl or whether she likes him or not. That's what makes him attractive (at least in part). It's very apparent that you're attached to her wanting you... to the extent that you'll do whatever stupid crap you hear, be it being a jerk or some stupid pick up line, whatever.... to get the girl to like you. As such, you have no identity, you are not masculine, and you are nothing like what Pook is talking about. One of Pook's central messages is for people to define themselves. You do NOT do this by changing yourself to seek her approval. You have no identity, you become what the girl wants. Think about it... if you are going to seek HER approval, she has ALL the power in the situation. What do girls like (there's a billion different answers to this... but here's a good one: MEN WHO ARE MORE POWERFUL OR OF A HIGHER STATUS THAN THEM. When you seek her approval you give your power away, and she's more powerful than you. Then she doesn't want you. It doesn't matter what you're acting like... this one point can ruin your entire game. If you set the relationship up from the start that you're the dominant one, she'll seek your approval. Then you're in control. THAT'S what you want.

 

[SlyDonJuan]

But if Pook says this.........

Then does it mean that I should be encouraging the girls to watch porno with me in a way to display my supreme sexuality??

I still don't understand how could I embrace my sexuality? Is it by learning some methods of how to embrace sexuality or is it more of being comfortable with yourself?

 

[Drow]

SlyDonJuan/IntermediateDonJuaner,

You asked the same questions in another post, and I think you are asking questions just to ask.

The answers are already there. They have been laid out.

Embracing your sexuality isn't some end-all secret to success. All it is realizing that we are sexual beings, and to embrace all that it is.

We are men, and we can't hide away our desires, or try to over come them with by trying to convince ourselves that we have all these other attributes so we are fine, we are well off.

Sexuality is key. It is what makes us. We have to embrace it, not attempt to SHOW that we are sexual.

How does watching a porno have anything to do with sexuality? Sexuality is not an outside thing you have to show. It is a part of us; our Nature.

Your still thinking in terms of outside things you need to do. It is all within you. It is all built right inside everyone of us.

Remember this all about YOU. I think you are still confused about what this is all about. NO METHODS! Life isn't a set of methods or techniques. This isn't an act or a show. This is about the life of SlyDonJuan. Sexuality is part of your life. You can either embrace it, or fight against it. Feminists fight against it. Androgynous males fight against it.. but Don Juans, but MEN understand it and embrace it.

 

[Vassago]

Pook, you are one strange dude.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Keep it flowing

Why does everyone write "I think what Pook just said is ..."

Anyway, bad to average post Pook. Keep that coke and heroin flowing.

 

[Janez]

guys you just don't get it?

 

[Nocturnal]

Re: Embracing your sexuality is called as a pervert guy!

Originally posted by SlyDonJuan
And I want to tell you Pook, many people think that JERKS get women all the time.

lol you're funny

 

[silverdog]

Amen Pook!

 

[Rev]

Originally posted by Pook
It is well known that women like guys who have some feminine aspects (i.e. PRETTY BOYS).

Can you elaborate on this?

Here, gentlemen, is a ballerina. She has just told you of all the things she does, how she dances, and everything like that. What is your response?

NERD BOY: “WOW! THAT IS REALLY INTERESTING! TELL ME MORE ABOUT THE FABRICS AND SPIFFY COLORS OF THE PAGEANT, THE DANCE MOVES, ETC.”

GUY: “You must have really strong legs.”

What SlyDJ and some others aren't understanding is that embracing your sexuality means owning it instead of being owned by it, which is perversion. To be less vague, all it really means is understanding that there are certain societal norms, taboos, laws and regulations to which you must confine your sexuality. For instance, talking about a girl's strong legs can pass for non-suggestive convo and will not set off any alarms, but inviting her to watch a porno usually will. In the absence of these societal restrictions, asking a girl to join you in viewing some hot porn would be just fine.

And if you ask for a theory to create another ‘philosophy’ to be stacked in a bookish format to further continue your ego as A Great Thinker, consider yourself chained to this website forever.

Embrace your sexuality and embrace life!

I'll always be chained to this web site. Not even you, Pook, can make a convincing argument that results don't justify spending some time developing and perfecting this knowledge.

 

[Drifter]

Sexuality Problem #5: Lack of Experience

Pook thank you for such a well written post.
While all of it was good, the last part hit me the most, however you barely touched on it as compared to the others.

My first sexual experience was bad, I got nervous and it ended it before it even started.

Since then its been a downhill sprial... i dont have the confidence to get sex, and on the rare occasions I do I get so nervous that I mess it up.

This thing has shot my whole confidence, everything to wondering it theres something wrong with me physically and sexually, mentally, or if its just my nervousness.

This has ruined me pook, but I feel if anyone on here seems to know their **** its you. Can you help me gain my LIFE BACK Pook?

 

[Bud Wiser]

Pook isn't plowing any fresh soil here. He's said it before, as have many others.

Virtually all of what he says, for all its flowery prose, encompasses a philosophy that can prove useful within the context of an actual plan of action as described by DeAngelo, Doc Love and others.

File it all for cross referencing and correlation and, soon enough, it all starts to come together within the framework of a DJ style that is as unique as you are.

Yes, you can "be yourself" and be a DJ. But first you need to make alterations to critical aspects of yourself.

Be patient. Have fun with it. Soon enough, it'll click.

 

[Eternal]

Due to the chance of this being deleted due to time, Matrix has requested me to bump this for it to stay in the High School bible. Thank you.

 

[Don Imagio]

Bump !!!!

 

[librito]

stop all the discussion about what pook said or not and dont question what DON POOk said because it is obvious that Mr. Pook is much more knowledgeable than we are about this.
in POOK we trust because he says what he believes and believes wha he says.
give credit whom credit is due.

 

[Nocturnal]

This idea is started to really grow on me and I've discovered that it encompasses the essence of what it is to be a man, and serves as a basis for direction we should seek.

The man and the woman might be characterized differently, but complement each other. Each has an element, if only an inkling, of the other. The man is characterized by more active properties, while the woman is characterized by more passive properties. That is not to say that the woman is to be submissive or degraded, however. Can a gentle ruler not command the will of his greatest foes? No, passivity and subtlety may appear to be less threatening or powerful than their opposites, but that is merely an illusion. When men can understand that they are inherently male, and when women can understand that they are inherently female, they can learn to complement each other and fulfill their most basic and fundamental yearnings through each other, succumbing only to harmony.

EDIT: The more I think about this the more clear it becomes. Here is more.

Where did sexuality go?

Sex has become a commodity. Sex has become something you want. Sex has become something you have. Sex has even sometimes become you trade for. Sex has become something you can give to someone. Sex has become something you can enjoy.

Sex is simply another form of entertainment, packaged as a commodity. Who's buying it? Millions of Americans who can't see the truth behind what they really are.

Why do people think getting laid makes you a man... or a slut? You're a man if you got a good deal. You got what you wanted and left the seller with little in return. You're a slut if you don't value your commodity, sex, and give it up at a cheap price.

What happened to sexuality? What happened to the union of man and woman? They were each designed to complement the other, but their natures are being overlooked and disregarded in return for cheap, short term gratification. What happened to femininity and masculinity? Is a man one who submits to the will of his 'partner' in return for sexual gratification, forefitting independance and autonomy? Is the woman one who uses her exterior power over men simply to gain the illusion of short-lived romance or a life supplied with superficial satisfaction?

What happened to the autonomy and self reliance within the individual, and the genuine connection between the man and woman, allowing each to contribute to the growth and happiness of the other?

What happened? Greed defeated responsibility and self-value. People traded in their individualism for a life of entertainment and pleasure. Ironically, the very fruit of life inherently rooted within us, despite its sweetness, is the fruit called love, which, produced by the essences of humanity, has become poisoned by our rejection of self.

 

[Attraction]

damn!! i just cant get what u guyz (n esp. pook) mean by "embracing your sexuality?? wud somebody explain?

okie what do u guyz say abt me??

am known as a SUPER DUPER attitude guy ... after my belief system n my life .. i value my self-respect the most ... even a lot of ppl (esp. galz) are intimidated by my blunt, straight-forward and "arrogant" (as they call it) attitude. even i am having problems with that .. but my self-respect doesnt allow me to change my attitude to a hypocritical ***** who just wont be honest cuz ppl arent gonna approve of it. i am also known as a die-hard male chauvinist who the feminist *****es and wuss-bags really hate, and are scared of. AND ... i do not have a lot of physical activity (but hav joined a gym recently) ... and not teh kind u wud call a "sporty" or a "jock" but my straightforward attitude has earned me the title of teh biggest jerk ever (DAMN, how much these ppl LOVE hypocricy!! )

as far as the looks are concerned, i m EXTREMLY skinny (6 feet and 106 lbs). ppl hav different opinions about my looks .. soem say that i look very intellectual kind of person (am in reality a writer and a poet, AND an artist) .. some say i look a complete goof ... n some say that i have the looks of a dangerous badass... all contradicting views.

n yea .. i hav very few female frsd .. not necessarily good-looking, but very funloving ... n they all see me as their "friend" only one gurl (reasonly hot n VERY cute) has ever confessed her crush on me.

now what do u guyz say?? am i in touch with my sexuality .. n if not ... what is this PHENOMENON called "embracing ur sexuality" supposed to mean??

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by Attraction
damn!! i just cant get what u guyz (n esp. pook) mean by "embracing your sexuality?? wud somebody explain?

The idea is that you do not contradict the humanistic qualities that you are borne of. Basically, you are a man, and that entails certain things. Society encourages you to deny some of the things that make you a man, so you have to recognize your masculinity and accept it, denying everything that society throws at you to turn you into an androgynous, non-man.

 

[Climax]

I like

Pook: A nice read, and i like your way of explaining things... Its like reading an interesting book, yet also learning at the same time.. nice.


Laterz...

 

[tactic]

do you pay them to get the stars?

 

[R3N3G4D3]

I just don't see why half the board worships Pook. Yes, he brings up good points in his threads, yes they're fun to read. Yet, still I find some things I disagree with, and I'm sure others do as well. And yet I always see every Pook thread followed by 50 "Omfg, you enlightened me" posts from the trusty puppets that keep following him around. Yes, you heard me. Until you begin to think for yourselves, that's all you are: puppets. It's ridiculus, Pook can write anything and his trusty puppets will congratulate him on a well written post. It's funny how these followers of Pook will just throw away their own opinions when Pook tells them to.

Although I like many of Pook's post, a lot of stuff on this one seems either redundant or off to me:
Problem 1: Looks:
Looks DO matter to them, not as much as to guys. Girls still look for muscular, athletic bodies as opposed to fat or skinny people. And any girl will feel uncomfortable with a guy 1 foot shorter than her, although if he has other qualities she might still say with him. Stereotypes also play a very important role, girls like to show off in front of their friends. A 9.5 HB will not be showing off a skinny 3-foot-high boyfriend with 2-foot glasses and his teeth stretching to his chin. It's just not the type of guy they would want to be seen around with due to peer pressure, no matter how ****y and funny he actually is. And that's why looks always mattered and will matter to some extent.

Problem 2: Personality:
This one I actually agree on, good point Pook.

Problem 3: Dating:
This is the most overstated point on the forums, is there a law saying that it's mandatory to put it in every thread or something? Yes, everyone likes excitement, that's obvious Dr. Pook. And yet, if you've got awesome personality and humor, you can have a great time taking the girl to dinner as well.

Problem 4: Shyness:
Oook, you described this shyness disease of yours so throroughly, and you even brought in Spinoza to your side. Very interesting, would you like to also prescribe a pill? Hate to dissapoint you, but most of the time shyness is actually caused by outside environment. Sure, it's you who has to recognize it and fight against it, but it's not your mind that's causing it. Everyone think back to your childhood. Remember kindergarden, remember that you were social there, you amde friends so easily, what does that mean? It means that there is no such thing as being born shy, it's some event or collection of events that happened between the time you were born and now that contributed to your shyness. I for example remember that I was very social in Russia, then when I moved to US and couldn't speak English for a year, I became shy and later on anti-social. I'm fine now because I've been workign on myself, but the point is it was that first year in US that made me shy. If we think back, we will all realize that there WAS something that made us shy. We weren't born that way. So my suggestion is to remember and understand what that something is, only then you will be able to overcome it.

Problem 5: Lack of Experience:
This is a biggie for all of us, Pook brought up a good point here too. Many of us are afraid to try new things just because we haven't tried them before, often called "stepping out of the comfort zone" on these forums. I admit that I also am a victim to this, I'm always afraid when I try something for the first time. Even now, I have trouble just coming up to a girl on the street and asking for her number. I can easily come up and start teasing her if there is something about her that I could tease her on. But I don't know how to just come up to a girl on a street if there is nothing to say to her.

Overall, I would say this is an ok post, but it's not one of the ten commandments like many seem to consider it to be. Also, it's annoying to see people trying to explain Pook's posts for him, especially when they're not sure themselves what he means. Pook can answer the questions himself, he doesn't need secretaries. If your post starts with "Pook, forgive me if I'm wrong, and correct me if I didn't explain it right. What I think Pook is trying to say..." then don't even bother finishing it.