email exchange - shlt test, friend zone or moist poo?

[grayclif]

It's lengthy but I tried to break it up for easy reading.

So I met this a 33 yo lady in a class a few weeks ago and when it ended we exchanged email addresses. She's never married, stable job, no kids and on her way to earning her PhD in Computer Science. Through she's extremely attractive, logistically any chance of getting together seems improbable for a myriad of reasons on my end. After I received her first email - I responded with the following.

I think you will me able to figure out the local jargon. I'd like your opinion guys..


Her - Hola Senior, como esta? Well classes are getting busy so I'm a bit preoccupied and prolly won't check out any more facilities this year. We'll see about next time. Stay out of trouble kid.
~ciao

2 days later...

Me - I was just wondering if I was gonna hear from you again. I'm sure you know - trouble finds me mama, you'll do be fine with the coursework. Let me get your phone number.

an hour later...

Her - Hey old man, u showin your age eh? lol All those times I called you from my cell? I didn't realize that's what u meant. U should already have that, but since you're such a geezer - ### ####. Or maybe u discarded it, u are a meanie as well! lol I guess when I get back at class I'll have to bring a walking stick for your present!

Otherwise, thanks for the vote of confidence matey!
laterz- old timerz

ps - Your parents could have really done better in spelling your name! Every time I see it, I want to say (MY NAME) ..hmmm... then again, maybe it does suit u.


a day later....

Me - All those times you called I didn't think you could be so verbally abusive (ie: my name - I happen to like it). Of course I discarded your number - all unimportant calls get deleted from the call log.


a day leter...

Her - Listen ta dis.... boy I tell ya!
Give some ppl an inch, and they just get carried right away. Unimportant calls eh... u stay right dere!
Luckily... I usually combine those verbal abuse skills with physical abuse as well. So walking stick, come to mama. ga get it!

ciao clllaazzy man!

same day....

Her - Ooops! I think I sent your mail to someone else by mistake. If you got a mail about a laptop - that was to my other friend - lol. He told me he liked yours better. Yours is below...

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Her - Listen ta dis.... boy I tell ya!
Give some ppl an inch, and they just get carried right away. Unimportant calls eh... u stay right dere!
Luckily... I usually combine those verbal abuse skills with physical abuse as well. So walking stick, come to mama. Coach ga get it!

ciao clllaazzy man!

an hour later...

Me - Jealousy... It's such a poor motivator!

an hour later...


Her - I hope I'm not misunderstanding u, cause I'll be a bit offended if you're suggesting I was trying to make anyone jealous in the least.
Early this morning as I was typing my lesson plan to submit to the office, I was mailing you both at the same time. Somehow, prolly due to sleep deprivation I typed his email on the email I was sending you and possibly vice versa. I like to keep in touch with all my friends.

It was an honest mistake, and I hope you're not suggesting anything about trying to cause jealousy - cause you would have only proven that you don't know me in the slightest!

next day...

me - Wow, was that long winded or what - geez. Take it easy mama, its a good thing.

an hour later...

Her - Huh? The first word texted better be "Sorry!". I don't like to be painted with other people's brushes.
If u know ppl who do that, don't label me with it! Always remember I'm a straight up chick that doesn't play around. I'm not into to games (as much as I may kid around with u) and I try to always be totally honest with ppl. So if there's something I need to say - I'd just come out and say it. I don't beat around the bush!

Don't worry I'll be calling u soon. Just to row u out! If we're gonna be friends, I see that you're gonna have to be told a thing or 2. Who do u think u are anyway? Humph...
Whatever kid!

half day later

Me - Hmm more words, sounds like you're all hot and bothered.

next day...

Her - U! Boy when I finish with U!
Anywho... somethings are better on the phone. U're lucky we were a bit friendly b4, else u would be getting crucified!!



Ok guys thats it. What do you think. Shlt Test, Friend Zone or Moist Poo??? She mentions "friend" so often - Is she trying to force me there?

 

[jophil28]

She loves the banter and the verbal jousting, and if I were you I would assume that her IL was sky high. Her comms are emotionally 'loaded'.
Women do not expend that amount of energy chatting to a guy in the FZ .
And I have no idea why you could think that all this was a "sh1t test".

So what are you going to do next ?

 

[squirrels]

I vote "Moist poo". And not "poo" as in "poonani".

I'm looking more at your communications than hers. It looks like you're trying too hard to "bust her balls". You almost sound p*ssed off.

Either way, she gave you her number...why are you still talking over E-mail??

 

[Greasy Pig]

I'm leaning towards the FZ-Moist Poo option. She sounds like a nutcase to me.

The way she jumped on your 'jealousy' email and scolded you like a little child is her trying to get you to say 'Sorry' (which she basically admitted in her next email), have you trying to suck up to her and therefore assume dominance over you.

I also agree with Squirrels. I'm guilty of it too in that I think I sometimes take the '****y, smartarse' angle to a point where a woman is actually afraid to say anything to me because I'll just shoot her down. I don't think you want to get to that point.

You're older than her, she's probably expecting a certain level of class and sophistication from you.
Ask her out. How you do this in a way which makes it clear it's not just a drink as friends, is something the Master DJers will have to advise on.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

This is a sh*t test she's pulling on you after reading the emails. She's trying to claim dominance over you. Here are the red flags...

"Always remember I'm a straight up chick that doesn't play around."
Actually means: I'll play around with you whether you like it or not.

"I'm not into to games (as much as I may kid around with u)"
Actually means: Maybe I'm playing a game or maybe not... You'll never know since we always joke around with each other. Wow I'm sooo smart!

"and I try to always be totally honest with ppl."
Actually means: I'm honest to myself, but not always to other people and I told you indirectly wow.

Further explained:
Doesn't play around > Talk is cheap, if someone needs to proove to people that they do not play around the caution flag comes up.

Games > As soon as she mentioned this, the game started be careful.

I try > The key word here is "I try", this doesn't mean she's always honest with people. Trying doesn't mean all the time, therefore she's only honest with people when she wants to be.

Seriuosly this woman is 33 and still single... Sometimes you gotta question yourself as to why they are still single.

 

[Jeffst1980]

This is a weird communication.

I find that it's a bad sign when a woman takes this "patronizing" type of tone. It's one thing to tease, but when it's constant like this, you have to wonder why she isn't at least ATTEMPTING to build rapport. I'd ignore her verbal sparring and try to get some compliance from her- that means no more online talking.

But yes, I do think she's interested based on the amount she writes you...but she is more than likely a bit wacky.

 

[grayclif]

Hmm, so I internalized what was said here and called her today. I got her voicemail and left a message. A few minutes later she called back and said she was glad I called and that she just got out of bible study and wanted to clear the air.

She went on about how she was not a ho and wanted me to apologize for hitting on her cause she was not that type of girl. She reiterated a lot of what she said above and yes, I apologized IF I offended her just to move the conversation along. The convo went well but I didn't think it was the right time to ask her out.

DJ mentioned that she may be a bit nutty (bible study). I'm in agreement cause she came across to me as though she really wanted to be my friend and she ran on about how good a friend she can be. The whole thing just seemed a bit odd.

I really find our email exchanges extremely strange as well but then again I was experimenting with my approach/responses to her emails. Maybe it wasn't what she expected etc... I don't know. I don't have too much experience with these "bible study" types but I am thinking it doesn't really matter much. What do you guys think?

 

[jophil28]

I really find our email exchanges extremely strange as well but then again I was experimenting with my approach/responses to her emails. Maybe it wasn't what she expected etc... I don't know. I don't have too much experience with these "bible study" types but I am thinking it doesn't really matter much. What do you guys think?

Ultimately, you need to ask yourself two questions-

1) Does she speak to me with some admiration, respect and deference. Does she sound as if she is grateful to know me and eager to know me better. IF yes, go to Q2. IF not NEXT.
2) Is my connection with this women moving in the direction that I want it to, or do I feel like I am pulling and tugging on a run-a-way wagon that has a mind of it's own?

GO to next post down.

 

[jophil28]

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She went on about how she was not a ho and wanted me to apologize for hitting on her cause she was not that type of girl.

APOLOGIZE ! Ding !

 

[e1m00]

I would advise him to keep away from her. From what I can make out she is not emotionally stable. In every probability she is a sex maniac. You can make that out from her language and her repeated references to walking stick. I think that is the sole reason why she has not married yet.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Her - Ooops! I think I sent your mail to someone else by mistake. If you got a mail about a laptop - that was to my other friend - lol. He told me he liked yours better. Yours is below...

She is a psycho b!tch and trying to **** with your mind. Let her go. Do not feed her ego. Ignore her entirely.